Why does it hurt so much :(

[MMMonsterBoy]

I'm sure you've all been there. I've been there before. And I am there again.

But most of all I am furious. Pretty sure I would run him over twice if I saw him.

I need quite a few shoulders

 

[Racer Dave]

Breakup up I assume?
Well here's a hug to help you feel better

ps I'v got broad shoulders feel free to pull up one to have a cry on

 

[Seasoned]

My advice is to stay with the hurt for awhile. There may be reasons to be angry and the flip of love is hate, but be careful. Both hate and anger do more damage to the holder of those emotions, unless, of course, you do run him over twice. We really ought not to joke about that; some exes do end up dead.

Process the hurt. Break a few old dishes if you must, but in the end some things just aren't meant to be and if something is going to end better today than 5, 10, or more years of bullshit.

I'm sorry you are hurting. I understand that you need your processing time and it's a shitty time of the year for this.

Best wishes to you. You can have my shoulder anytime. Better that than you revving up the engine. Take care of yourself.

 

[MMMonsterBoy]

Thanks for the replies you two

And yes, my boyfriend broke up with me (actually I broke up with him hehe). And now he is seeing someone new. I tried being okay with the break up, and tried to act like it didn't really faze me. But now that is all gone

Thanks again

 

[Telstra]

ahhhh ...... feelings .....

 

[Racer Dave]

That sucks. Unfortunatly there's no such thing as a breakup that doesn't hurt, we invest allot of emotion and time in relationships so it's only natural to feel disapointed and angry when it all falls apart. As Seasoned said work through the anger if it means having a big ol sob or smashing a few old plates then so be it but work through it however you can. Don't keep it bottled up

 

[Deandbn]

It seems to me that you are one confused girl my dear.

Let me understand this properly, you broke up with him and you are crying and furious. It doesnt work like that, you chucked him out because you didnt like him. He is the one entitled to be sad and furious, not you.

 

[MMMonsterBoy]

It seems to me that you are one confused girl my dear.

Let me understand this properly, you broke up with him and you are crying and furious. It doesnt work like that, you chucked him out because you didnt like him. He is the one entitled to be sad and furious, not you.

Haha, well let me clarify:

I helped initiate the break up because he was too afraid to do it first. I know it what it feels like to be dragged along, and that was happening. So I just called it off, to which he agreed that it was over. I am furious for many other reasons, but most of all that he is dating someone else now. But I know I'll move on

 

[bw92116]

In my experience at least, emotions eventually subside on their own. But crying helps process them out of your system faster. So don't be afraid to cry it out, that is a natural process that will speed your healing. As boys we are taught that boys and men don't cry, and that anger is somehow an appropriate response to hurt. But in reality crying is a much better way to get the hurt out of your system.

 

[r0ckst4r]

LOL, glad I am not in this situation anymore.... the pain

 

[Delphi124]

That does suck, especially right at Christmas time. I can understand your anger, I "broke up" with my ex in the same way you did a few years back and it really hurts. You break up so you don't entirely lose your sense of pride, but at the same time you feel forced into it and angry that he is almost benefiting from your pain. It will get better with time though, I promise. Keep the car in the garage.

 

[lucasss]

my boyfriend of 5 years who i lived with for 4 years just broke up with me last week. ii's really hard.