Why does it Take

[Doright]

Why does it take some of us to realize the enjoyment of sucking dick until we are at least 50yo? We tend to miss all the enjoyment of making a man excited and giving his prize of a mouth full of cum. There has been no better pleasure for me to put his most personal part into my mouth and bring him to ecstasy. I have found that pleasure in the later years of my life and I wish I would have experienced sooner.

 

[jjonn3]

And many of us did experience it and enjoy it younger but were still scared to totally accept it...

 

[BiBtm64]

Why does it take some of us to realize the enjoyment of sucking dick until we are at least 50yo? We tend to miss all the enjoyment of making a man excited and giving his prize of a mouth full of cum. There has been no better pleasure for me to put his most personal part into my mouth and bring him to ecstasy. I have found that pleasure in the later years of my life and I wish I would have experienced sooner.

Good question and I've asked myself this many times. I think many of us have an underlying curiosity or bisexual tendency that we repressed throughout most of our lives, either through societal pressures to live a "straight" life or our own fears of judgement or stigma.

There seems to be more societal pressure on men who grow up in rural situations or smaller towns to get married and start a family, live a "normal" life and be part of a more traditional community, and also where everyone gossips about everyone else (believe me, I know). Anyone who is over 50 today, lived their youth in the 1980s, on the back of traditional disapproval of gay sex and then the stronger resentment stemming from the HIV epidemic. It was not a time when most of us would want to be known as "that guy who sucks dicks".

Also, as jjonn3 points out, some guys experience things with other guys but can't bring themselves to accept it, enjoy and do it again - perhaps because of the societal pressures at the time.

Times change, society becomes more accepting, we become more accepting of ourselves and our deeply suppressed desires, or curiosities. Our relationships evolve, some guys separate from their female partners, or they remain together but the sex declines. For many of us, it seems a good time in our lives to try out new experiences, while we're young enough to enjoy it. It seems to be a matter of "better late than never". I don't see it as lost opportunity, more like making the most of the present. Enjoy!

 

[Doright]

Man you hit the nail right on the head! It has to be society pressure that keeps us from enjoying these experiences. I grew up in a small suburb of Ohio and it was as you say. I think I suppressed my desire to experience it because of outward opinions of gay sex.
Now that I am much older and the society has accepted the lifestyle I am enjoying it.

 

[jjonn3]

Also the pressure to "fit in" and be accepted is much stronger when younger.

As you get older you (or at least it is the case for me) don't care as much what others think.

 

[bi4you]

For me, it was a fear of not fitting in that led me to repress my feelings. I never really questioned my bisexuality as I've been attracted to males and females for as long as I can remember. I just didn't want to be ostracized by my friends and end up as a loner. I found out years later that I wasn't the only one. It turns out that a couple of guys in my group of friends were gay and another one was bi. If I only knew then what I know now. I've lost contact with most people from those days, so I guess there won't be any making up for lost time.

Fortunately, times have changed and people should feel more comfortable exploring their feelings. Being a youngster today who is known as "that guy who sucks dicks" might even be considered cool.

I believe in living in the now, but I do have regrets. If I had just opened up a little bit when I was young, I may have found out about my friends' hidden feelings and there could have been a lot of dick sharing. I loved hooking up with girls (still do), but really wanted some cock in my life too (still do).

 

[Doright]

That is how I feel. I wonder at times if so of my friends felt the same way as I did back then.

 

[bi4you]

That is how I feel. I wonder at times if so of my friends felt the same way as I did back then.

I'm sure at least a couple of them did.

 

[jjonn3]

I just didn't want to be ostracized by my friends and end up as a loner. I found out years later that I wasn't the only one.

I think most of us have those stories -

There was a guy I knew all through junior high and high school - we were friendly but not close - although I always thought he was good looking - but I was sure he was straight (as I am sure he though I was).

Apparently in his first semester in college his roommate walked in and caught him getting fucked and so he was out.

Unfortunately I have never seen him since then.

 

[bi4you]

I think most of us have those stories -

There was a guy I knew all through junior high and high school - we were friendly but not close - although I always thought he was good looking - but I was sure he was straight (as I am sure he though I was).

Apparently in his first semester in college his roommate walked in and caught him getting fucked and so he was out.

Unfortunately I have never seen him since then.

Like you, I went to high school with a good looking guy who I was friendly with, but he wasn't a close friend. The girls thought he was cute and he never had a problem hooking up. It was assumed he was straight.
Fast forward to our early 20s and he was caught sucking a cock at a party. After that, he apparently admitted that he loved giving blowjobs and had been doing it for years. If I had known that in high school I would have been tempted to offer him my cock. I would have happily accepted his if it was offered to me.
I haven't seen him since he came out.

 

[magicdick]

Why does it take some of us to realize the enjoyment of sucking dick until we are at least 50yo? We tend to miss all the enjoyment of making a man excited and giving his prize of a mouth full of cum. There has been no better pleasure for me to put his most personal part into my mouth and bring him to ecstasy. I have found that pleasure in the later years of my life and I wish I would have experienced sooner.

Took the words right out of my mouth. (Now it's time to put your gorgeous cock there.)

 

[snakeeater1]

I liked getting fucked in the ass partly because it was my first gay sex. So for about 3 years that was all I did. Then when I was about 24yo a guy I picked up in a bar asked me to suck his cock. He got me slightly drunk and I said OK. I had never had a cock in my mouth before so I was a bit nervous! He told me to take my pants off and get down on my knees. He then stood in front of me and pulled out a nice 6” cock with a big mushroom head. He then moved toward me and said “ open your mouth, you’re going to like this!” I didn’t just like it, I LOVED it! …Now that question again WHY DOES IT TAKE SO LONG FOR SOME US TO REALIZE THE ENJOYMENT OF SUCKING DICK??…

 

[magicdick]

I liked getting fucked in the ass partly because it was my first gay sex. So for about 3 years that was all I did. Then when I was about 24yo a guy I picked up in a bar asked me to suck his cock. He got me slightly drunk and I said OK. I had never had a cock in my mouth before so I was a bit nervous! He told me to take my pants off and get down on my knees. He then stood in front of me and pulled out a nice 6” cock with a big mushroom head. He then moved toward me and said “ open your mouth, you’re going to like this!” I didn’t just like it, I LOVED it! …Now that question again WHY DOES IT TAKE SO LONG FOR SOME US TO REALIZE THE ENJOYMENT OF SUCKING DICK??…

Didn't take me but a microsecond.

 

[firsttimeagain]

Why does it take some of us to realize the enjoyment of sucking dick until we are at least 50yo? We tend to miss all the enjoyment of making a man excited and giving his prize of a mouth full of cum. There has been no better pleasure for me to put his most personal part into my mouth and bring him to ecstasy. I have found that pleasure in the later years of my life and I wish I would have experienced sooner.

I’ve been asking myself that question for years. Wondering why I didn’t act on it when I was young. I’ve always wanted it and there has never been a doubt. I guess like some others fear of not fitting in in some circles. I’m finally coming out later because I realize it was a mistake keeping it to myself. I know I could have and should have been enjoying my desires for years. I’m still waiting on the first time, patiently, of course, but I’m actively looking. That is progress though. I know when I do it the first time I’m never going back. I know I’ve missed a lot of enjoyment over the years, but on the bright side, I’ve never felt better about finally coming to terms with it. Admitting to myself I am gay and making the decision to start that journey is the greatest feeling I’ve ever had. So, maybe I could not have handled it emotionally at a young age? That’s speculation of course and maybe a way to justify being stupid for all those years. Lol

I know I’m going to be good at it. The sex is surly all I’ve ever wanted. But, now I am more ready emotionally. I’m comfortable with who I am and finally coming out just is the right thing now. I use to be scared to death of what others would think. Now all of that has changed. I not concerned with what others will think. I’m crossing this bridge at a time that is right for me.

Yes I wish I had done it sooner and I know I’ve missed out on giving and receiving that pleasure for many years. But, I think that’s going to make it that much more special.. Boy do I have some catching up to do…Hopefully sooner than later.

 

[mnpervert]

For those around my age and older 55+ when we were young Bisexuality/Gay was shunned upon and 'wrong' so most never explored it. Thanksfully I had a great family and a few friends that were really accepting about me liking men and women.

 

[wolfypdx]

I waited until I was 43 before I started to enjoy cocksucking and buggery. I still regret all that lost time since it should have been clear to me early on that I wanted to have sex with men. However, back in the 1970s, homosexuality was still mostly taboo, and I didn't have the nerve to walk into a gay bar. Instead, I learned to try to be straight. Then I spent 9 years in the Air Force and 2 years working on a military intel project; there was no way I was going to take a chance of being outed or found out. I was deep, deep in the closet. Even afterward, it took the better part of 10 more years before I finally decided it was time to find out for sure whether I was gay.

Another guy I know just came out last year in his late 60s. He was my roommate for 2 years while I was in the AF, and never had an inkling that he was gay and trying to hide it. He also had no idea I was gay and hiding it.

 

[ricksvca]

I am bisexual and I was bi-curious in my mid 20s when I gave my first BJ to a man and received my first BJ from a man. I loved both experiences. This was back in the late 70s, before HIV and AIDS. I didn't have anal sex with a man as a bottom until much later because of HIV. Had it not been for HIV I would have had anal much sooner.

 

[Jaysone8822]

I was young when I accepted my sexuality so from a young age, I was able to appreciate sucking guys. There’s an immense enjoyment from sucking cock that I get and appreciate