Why is he ignoring me out of nowhere?

[xname10]

Hi well I have been talking with this guy for like over a year online he has seen me on cam, i have seen him on cam, we have talked overall we have been friendly and flirty he always said how pretty im(he is hot),how he wanted to fck me and sometimes had camsex and he even wanted me to call him but i didnt because i wanted him to call me but i didgnt gave him my number. xp

anyways he is ignoring me now? and out of nowhere
i send him some messages and he never answers, i talk to him online and he never answers, the last time we talked he wanted to cam but i didnt wanted, im not sure if he is really ignoring me because he has done this before and then he talked to me like nothing happened and said he was sorry bcause he was busy, but this time its been a long time

I have tried to talk to him on msn,fbook,etc but he ignores me well i created a fake profile and messaged him and he answered and he was interested in the ugly guy i chose in the profile pic(im way more attractive than the guy i chose as fake profile)

anyways i have deleted him from all the places i talked with him because i like him but he is ignoring me, i havent blocked him, just deleted him though.


I mean i dont understand, if he doesnt want to talk to me anymore why just dont tell me that he doesnt want to talk to me or he doesnt like me or he doesnt like my personality? it would be so much easier if he told me he doesnt want to talk to me anymore or block me than ignoring me.


BTW im already trying to forget him so dont tell me to do that (deleted him from all places we talked) but it just annoys me that he ignores me out of nowhere and talks to guys that are way ugly not even average and its not bcause of personality bcause he doesnt know them..

I guess general information would be
Me 18, i guess im twink type? pretty face,slim,etc, out.
He is 35,muscular,in the closet

anyone had similar experiences and how it turned out??

 

[sureaaa]

Co-ask... I had the same experience....

it's possible u said something wrong, even just one sentence or one word...

or he just doesnt take online chatting seriously

 

[NephilimSin]

That's so typical...........Idk why guys do that. At least have the balls to tell a person why you are ignoring them. It's always a "silent disappearance" and on to the next person with you having no idea what's wrong.

Idk if it's just in the gay world, or in dating/friendship social life in general. Just like "Sureaaa" said, you probably said somthing wrong. Lame right? People could be so lame.

But from what I can read.....he's 35 and in the closet? and you're 18? I know having the pretty slim twink is one of the gay dream for some older men to want but he may be just crusing. Like you said, he's in the closet and wants to cam that just says he wasn't looking for anything else. Since he's in the closet he's just exploring his sexuality. And because he has "already talk to you and cammed with you" he probably wanted something new. But ya know, just speculation.....

 

[Conundrum]

omg!! I'm having the same problem and wanna rant/seek advice it in here and I saw your post!

Yeah, I hate it when those guys that I'm chatting with are nice to chat with. And I even asked beforehand questions like, "up for a chat?" or "are you interested to chat?". And most of them agreed to it. I mean, it's not hard to say, "no, I'm not interested" or just a simple "no".

Gee, those guys are making my life difficult especially; recently I chatted with this guy and he started to tell me that I'm a cutie and stuffs. After I met him over his place, we basically just talked (he made tea for me); I noticed that he kept yawning when I talked to him. He said he has some work to do that night, so I left shortly.

The next day, he's sent a message and mysteriously disappears when I texted him whether if he wants to meet again. Still able to see him online in dating site btw.

How I wished I can get some direct answers from them

 

[altlover85]

Hi well I have been talking with this guy for like over a year online he has seen me on cam, i have seen him on cam, we have talked overall we have been friendly and flirty he always said how pretty im(he is hot),how he wanted to fck me and sometimes had camsex and he even wanted me to call him but i didnt because i wanted him to call me but i didgnt gave him my number. xp

First off, it's been over a year and you haven't met him. To me that's a big waste of your time and his. Is there a reason why you haven't met yet?

Second, was there a reason why you didn't give him the number? If I wanted to call someone and they didn't give me their number I'd lose interest too.

I have tried to talk to him on msn,fbook,etc but he ignores me well i created a fake profile and messaged him and he answered and he was interested in the ugly guy i chose in the profile pic(im way more attractive than the guy i chose as fake profile)

I mean i dont understand, if he doesnt want to talk to me anymore why just dont tell me that he doesnt want to talk to me or he doesnt like me or he doesnt like my personality? it would be so much easier if he told me he doesnt want to talk to me anymore or block me than ignoring me.

He's probably just interested in camming or you are either too cute and he's nervous or you aren't his type.

I guess general information would be
Me 18, i guess im twink type? pretty face,slim,etc, out.
He is 35,muscular,in the closet

It sounds like you could do a lot better than him. I'd move on.

Gee, those guys are making my life difficult especially; recently I chatted with this guy and he started to tell me that I'm a cutie and stuffs. After I met him over his place, we basically just talked (he made tea for me); I noticed that he kept yawning when I talked to him. He said he has some work to do that night, so I left shortly.

You guys were probably not a good match. I'd move on and try not to take it too personally. It's likely he was either telling the truth, wasn't really into you, or wanted sex and you didn't put out.

The next day, he's sent a message and mysteriously disappears when I texted him whether if he wants to meet again. Still able to see him online in dating site btw.

I would move on. Don't take other people's flaky behavior as a reflection on you.

 

[xname10]

or he just doesnt take online chatting seriously

I dont think he does.

Like you said, he's in the closet and wants to cam that just says he wasn't looking for anything else. Since he's in the closet he's just exploring his sexuality. And because he has "already talk to you and cammed with you" he probably wanted something new. But ya know, just speculation.....

He wanted sex but we live in different cities

First off, it's been over a year and you haven't met him. To me that's a big waste of your time and his. Is there a reason why you haven't met yet?

We live in different cities and its not like i can go travel at the moment and i havent asked him to buy me a ticket xD

Second, was there a reason why you didn't give him the number? If I wanted to call someone and they didn't give me their number I'd lose interest too.

I just didnt had my cellphone at the time(im not from here)

The thing that bothers me the most is why he wont just tell me to stop talking to him or atleast block me

 

[altlover85]

The thing that bothers me the most is why he wont just tell me to stop talking to him or atleast block me

Some people don't like conflict.

 

[paustin]

Some men do play hard to get sometime!

 

[hotatlboi]

Some people don't like conflict.

This is it. For some people it's easier to ignore someone than to say they are not interested, but it means the same thing.

He's clearly not interested, so you should move on.

 

[HunterM]

...he even wanted me to call him but i didnt because i wanted him to call me but i didgnt gave him my number. xp

There's the miscommunication already. He wanted you to call him...but you didn't. You wanted him to call you...but you didn't give him your number. How do you expect him to call you?

If I'm chatting with someone online that I'm interested in and have mutual interest being returned...and wouldn't be able to talk to that person on the phone after 3 months, I take it as a sign of non-committal. I would lose interest. The probability for me to meet up with that person face to face is very low. I would move on and spend my energy on someone else.

 

[billybob109]

Wel frankly an online relationship wether it be friends or not just gets boring after a while and people need real contact. If you really liked this guy you should of made a step forward to personal contact at some point.

 

[xname10]

omg lol, another guy that i always though was ignoring me like months ago and had totally forgot about him (lets call him guyb) just talked to me and told me that he was always afk when i talked to him, mmm i think that this guy that is ignoring me right now will say something like that in some months the differences is that i talked a whole year with guy1 and almost nothing with guyb.

 

[texan_slant]

I'm old-school. I don't understand chatting with people online without having ever met them face-to-face.

...so, of course this is going to happen. There's no emotional connection to what you had, so this makes it much more easier for other people to just ignore you.

...therefore, it's pretty pointless to wonder about it on here when in fact you should move on, go out, and meet some real people.

 

[altlover85]

There's no emotional connection to what you had, so this makes it much more easier for other people to just ignore you.

...therefore, it's pretty pointless to wonder about it on here when in fact you should move on, go out, and meet some real people.

I agree with that part of your post.

As to chatting with guys you haven't met online, I met both of my boyfriends (ex and current) online. However, in both cases we met within 3 months. It was easier for me to find guys that I was interested in by going online as opposed to going out because I don't drive and it's a pain to get transportation to and from activities.

If I broke up with my bf, I would talk with a guy for about a month maximum and if we didn't meet by then I would move on. Ideally, it doesn't take more than 2 weeks to meet.

 

[xname10]

...so, of course this is going to happen. There's no emotional connection to what you had, so this makes it much more easier for other people to just ignore you.

...therefore, it's pretty pointless to wonder about it on here when in fact you should move on, go out, and meet some real people.

Well its not like he was gonna be my husband, just a hot guy i chatted for a lot of time and had no reason to ignore me, maybe i dont understand because if i dont like someone i tell them in a kind way that im not interested or if they annoy me too much just block them but he wont do neither but as i said earlier im kinda sure he will contact me again in some months and will act as nothing happen, what word is for people like that? (im not native english speaker) douche, clueless ?

i want to make things clear, im not in pain or anything like that im just confused because i dont understand the reason of why he is ignoring me at least after talking for like 1 year he could say something :s , if he would tell me that he got bored of me or something like that i would forget about him in an instant.

 

[altlover85]

xname10, some people don't like conflict and don't place much value in people that they have never met in person.

Does that answer your question?

 

[Willie Boy]

He tried to take your relationship to the next level (off the computer and into reality), but you shut it down. He gave you his # and asked you to call. YOU didn't. You wanted him to call you, YOU didn't give him your number. You shut it down and he chalked it up to childish immaturity.

It is quite easy to see how one could come to such a conclusion, just look at the laziness you put in your post. You type as if your texting with your grade school pals, not like you are trying to converse with adults. If all your communications are like that it would tend to lead people to assume you are not fully invested in the conversation and therefore not interested. Refusing to call when they give you their number confirms this. Chalk it up to a lesson learned (hopefully you will learn from it) and move on.

 

[HunterM]

what word is for people like that? (im not native english speaker) douche, clueless ?

Trust me, he won't be the last one to ignore you. There'll be plenty more people like him in your future. Welcome to reality! The sooner you realize this and learn from it, the better you will be.

You are frustrated because you messaged him; and he didn't reply back. I can understand that. It's like playing tennis where you keep serving the ball and your opponent just stood there...never hit the ball back to your court. There's no interaction. After a while, it's not much fun, right?

Well, imagine his point of view when he gave you his number and ask you to call him. As in tennis, he served the ball to your court. You didn't return his ball. Its' not much fun for him either. He must be thinking about you, "Is he clueless or a douche bag???" When he's giving you his number for you to call him back. If you are interested in him, you should either (1) call him or (2) give him your number and ask him to call you or (3) tell him why you don't want to call him. This is the mature thing to do. If you ignore his request, don't get mad when he ignores you.

You cannot control other people's thoughts, words and actions. However, you can control your own reaction to the situation by learning how to manage it better. Welcome to the real world!

 

[xname10]

ok im over it , anyways ill update this when he talks to me again for the ones that had the same thing happened to them.

 

[xname10]

meh i talked with him and i asked him why he is ignoring me out of nowhere and he said im too young, im gonna meet him in some time though but just to see him in real life and tease him as punishment for ignoring me.