Would a straight guy

[yourally]

make his interested in on Facebook, "men"?

I recently caught up with a guy I had class with last year, I got a vibe from him and some things happened, but I always assumed he was straight. He told me to add him on FB, and I did and see his interested in, says "men".

Is this his way of coming out to me, or am I reading too much into it?

I'm thinking of asking him out for coffee(ugh, I hate coffee), maybe lunch and coming out to him.

This probably sounds so crazy, but I'm a baby and need to start somewhere, right?

Or maybe he's kidding? I feel so lost. I feel like maybe because it's exactly what I'd want, that now I'm finding excuses to make him straight...I just would be humiliated if he was joking. And I'm not gonna ask him online...AWKWARD >.<

 

[FlaMan]

No he wouldnt..and if "some things happened" he is not straight..ask him out for a coffee...you dont have to jump into the straight not straight issue right off..you go first with friendship and let things develop from there...if he want to tell you he will..dont pressure him or you might lose what could be a good friend or possibly the man of your dreams...no need to rush at this point..As for coming out to him I think he already knows...feel freee to agree or diagree..I dont get angry...

 

[rareboy]

For 2010.

Stop overthinking everything.

It seems like it always results in paralysis for you.

Leading to asking for advice on the simplest of situations.

Just live.

 

[Seasoned]

Fear of embarassment can paralyze, but than can just be our way to stay stuck. What's the worse that can happen, an awkward coffee or lunch. Start taking social risks.

 

[KaraBulut]

Would a straight guy make his interested in on Facebook, "men"?

No.

But with that said, Facebook is not real life.

There's not really a replacement for just asking him what he meant.

 

[rain09]

People can joke around on facebook, but for the most part I read something about how things like fb/myspace profiles match up the person's real life.

I know a few straight guys who have joined gay groups or w/e as part of a joke, but I've never seen any of them put "interested in men". Usually the joke is in saying "in a relationship with" [some guy friend]. Even then, it's pretty gay, so it depends on who's doing it. If your friend is really outgoing and likes to joke a lot, maybe. I personally doubt it.

It's gonna be 2010 I highly doubt he didn't realize what putting "interested in men" really meant. Even though fb is not real life, it serves to supplement real life, and our profiles often depict us fairly accurately (especially the photos). That's some joke if he's straight and telling people he's gay.

 

[trikky]

Ask him for coffee man and just chat about class etc so that you get comfortable with each other before you mention what you saw on FB. I don't think a straight guy would put that on, so yeah I think that this is his way of being out. However be prepared that if he comes out to you, you have gotta be prepared to do the same if you want it to go anywhere.

 

[miguelfukt]

If it says hes interested in men then take his word for it!

 

[Digweed]

Would a straight guy make his interested in on Facebook, "men"?

I recently caught up with a guy I had class with last year, I got a vibe from him and some things happened, but I always assumed he was straight. He told me to add him on FB, and I did and see his interested in, says "men".

Is this his way of coming out to me, or am I reading too much into it?

Seeing as 'interested in...' on FB requires you to put a tick in the box probably means he didn't tick "men" by accident You could always just make light of it and say something like didn't realise you were interested in men.

 

[carniolus]

I know of no str8 guy that would put "interested in men" on FB.

Just go out with him and have fun!

 

[D-Base]

No.

But with that said, Facebook is not real life.

There's not really a replacement for just asking him what he meant.

Why not? FB is not Menhunt, it's a not a dating site... I have alot of straight friends on FB that are interested in friendship from both sexes...

It depends on how one interprets the word "interest". Since I've always considered FB a friends/schoolmates site, I do not look into 'interested" as "wanna date"..

 

[KaraBulut]

Why not? FB is not Menhunt, it's a not a dating site... I have alot of straight friends on FB that are interested in friendship from both sexes...

My point is that we all spend too much time staring at computer and cellphone screens and not enough time actually talking to people.

Usually if someone says, "interested in men" it means "interested in meeting men" but instead of trying to figure out what it means, follow through on OP's idea of calling him, inviting him to coffee and just ask.

 

[Lube]

Why not? FB is not Menhunt, it's a not a dating site... I have alot of straight friends on FB that are interested in friendship from both sexes...

It depends on how one interprets the word "interest". Since I've always considered FB a friends/schoolmates site, I do not look into 'interested" as "wanna date"..

That's certainly not the general assumption on Facebook.

You're free to think whatever you want, of course,

 

[swerve]

Allyigator...

My FIRST POST to his wall after becoming his friend would have been...

"THANKS for FRIENDING me...

Hahaha -- we both have the SAME INTEREST -- lol... "

That way there isn't any pressure either way...

Just an idea...

 

[yourally]

Thought I'd update this. He's bi and not interested...well, he just started dating a chick a couple of weeks ago. Oh well, good for him.

 

[bayern20]

awww, sorry dude.

 

[The_Reaper]

The b/f's brother has his status listed as that, simply because he thinks it's 'funny'.

So, it could be a joke...

 

[Lube]

The b/f's brother has his status listed as that, simply because he thinks it's 'funny'.

So, it could be a joke...

10:1 odds he's curious.