WTF is up with this stereotype

[LonelyFace]

From what I've gathered, people don't really seem to believe in Bisexuality. And of course, stereotypical gays are not like you. I've actually met gay guys who fit the stereotypes exactly, too, which doesn't really help your case any.

You should tell your friends what you've posted here. Make sure they understand that you are the same person you've always been, and that you're not like other gay/bi guys. No offense to your friends, but straight guys tend to be kinda stupid about this stuff.

 

[jude swings]

been there. done that. i totally think this problem comes from gay guys who stereotype themselves. if we saw more different kinds of gay guys then as bi guys we wouldn't have to deal with this shit. however gay bars and clubs continue to perpetuate the stereotype that guys who have sex with guys are all into gaga and britney. they don't rep for us rocker dudes.

 

[red1979]

does anybody else see this stereotype that all gay/bi guys are supposed to like chick music and dress up like a girl? it drives me nuts

The opposite drives me nuts more. When society sees men who act like that and automatically label them as gay. I know straight men who love showtunes but are afraid to be themselves because they will be labeled.

 

[blackbeltninja]

^Rightfully so; no decent man likes showtunes!

I agree with what's been said so far - people assume we like the same stuff that gay guys like. And we do... because different gay guys like different kinds of stuff.

In part I blame TV and pop culture - nobody is interested in the non-flamboyant non-OTT homo. The gay guys who get any sort of press are the stereotyped ones and that's about all everyone else ever sees which they can try to associate with. Those Queer Eye guys don't help, the Hilton whatsisname cretin doesn't either, and neither do countless other gay "celebrities" who are walking talking caricatures.

So what do we do - be loud and proud and try to illustrate that we're not all the same carbon-copy of one another, or is too much like farting against thunder?

-d-

 

[talesofabyssjade]

So what do we do - be loud and proud and try to illustrate that we're not all the same carbon-copy of one another, or is too much like farting against thunder?
-d-

*vomits*

LMFAO

Anyway I came out as Bi to my, brothers, frat brothers and some friends of mine about 4 months ago and they were amazingly accepting about it. My best friend knew since I was little because I like playing doctor so much and could care less. It's the new people I tell that get on my nerves . They constantly think oh he's bi so that means he must do this and that. Firstly I consider myself bi even though I've only jacked off with my best friend and have yet to do anything else with any other dude. If I didn't tell you I was bi you wouldn't know it; and the biggest misconception I hate and its mostly from gay guys is that Bi dudes are promiscuous and can't stay committed. Argh Just because I have a girlfriend doesn't mean I'm gonna go on hunt for cock (that's what porn is for lol )

People are different in every aspect of life, from sexual orientation to the color of their skin. Its so sad people stereotype anybody; I try to understand the person first before I pass judgment.

 

[kramer362]

I only had one friend I felt I needed to make this clear too. I just told him outright that I wasn't faking my interest in the things we had in common. I'm gay but even when we'd point out hot girls, I said I still think they're nice to look at, lol. And I said to each his own, but that I personally wasn't interested in (what I perceive to be) shitty pop music like lady gaga, or musical theater, or anything he might assume. The ONLY thing I was lying about was liking dudes. I think he got the point.

You're actually in a pretty good position, since you never had to be fake about anything (being attracted to women included) except withholding your attraction to guys.

So just explain to them you never faked your interest in music, or women, or anything you had in common. You were hiding one thing and one thing only.

 

[TX-Beau]

Yeah, for all of you in here not wanting to be stereotyped, you're sure throwing them out there yourselves.

So what makes y'all any different.

 

[Slips01]

I know what you are saying; Im a guy whos into sports played sports in high school and just hong out with the guys. But when you tell them that your not only into girls but your into guys as well people began to think that you walk or talk like a girl. Or your music changes. I just would like people to know not that I care or not not all gay/bi guys are what you think gay/bi is 2009 people

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