Yesterday, I was fine. Today I can't take it...

[gameboy 11]

Yesterday I was in a great mood. And if you knew me personally, even though I'm a relatively good person, you'd know that those things don't come my way too often.

Anyway, I was chatting with about 4 different people online yesterday, and our conversations were pretty exciting or at least mildly so. I can't put my finger on why I was so content with life, even the shortcomings, but I was. And I was happy, trying to hold on to it for dear life.

Have you ever felt that way?

Sometimes it's just nice to know that someone relates to you. But other times, that doesn't even matter in the slightest.

Anyway, today was different: Our internet was out almost all day and it's my life, so I was a bit on edge, but I'm thankful that for almost the past hour now, it has been on. But I still feel like total shit.

It did make me happy when some guys looked my way in the store today. Sometimes they don't do that, and I can never seem to tell who's gay and bi, and who isn't. That also puts a strain on trying to find a boyfriend. It doesn't help to be super shy and introverted. But I also understand that that's a turn on to some. Anyway, almost every time I go out, I pretty much think that, "It just could happen. You never know!"

But nothing happened today. Oh well, tomorrow's another day!

I'm going to bed now because I usually feel better once I've had sleep.

C ya later, and thanks for even coming in here and acknowledging my existence.

^_^b

 

[G-Lexington]

Don't wait for others to acknowledge your existence. Acknowledge it yourself. I have a feeling if you were better friends with yourself, you'd have more days like yesterday.

Lex

 

[HazieDays]

I know exactly how you feel, my mood is generally mildly good, but there are days when I can hit extreme highs and extreme lows, sometimes it's only small things and other times big things that can set it off, but it can also be for absolutely no reason at all. It's strange, it used to happen more frequently in my last year of high school (which was last year), but I noticed this year that things have generally been better. I'm more outgoing and I'm a lot more appreciative of life, that and my friendships that I've carried through high school have become, if possible, even stronger since I left school. It definitely helps to focus on the positive things in life, rather than the negative things.

 

[rareboy]

The extreme highs and lows usually indicate that there's something else going on.

Your existence is not validated through fairly shallow contact with people on-line.

Just a few thoughts. If you eat stuff with msg....don't. If you drink a lot of soft drinks, particularly those with caffeine and fructose....don't. If you are sleep deprived or subject to bad sleep patterns, get some help for this. If you are already on meds, make sure they are in balance for you.

I would suggest, as always, that you try to join some groups that share common interests; there is more chance of you finding someone to connect with.

 

[gameboy 11]

The extreme highs and lows usually indicate that there's something else going on.

Your existence is not validated through fairly shallow contact with people on-line.

Just a few thoughts. If you eat stuff with msg....don't. If you drink a lot of soft drinks, particularly those with caffeine and fructose....don't. If you are sleep deprived or subject to bad sleep patterns, get some help for this. If you are already on meds, make sure they are in balance for you.

I would suggest, as always, that you try to join some groups that share common interests; there is more chance of you finding someone to connect with.

I quit drinking pop for about 3 months or so, and it wasn't even hard. But I'm back to my old habits! Anyway, I don't usually consume caffeine more than 10 times a year and my sleeping is good. The only thing that "might" be a problem is that I go to sleep really late. But I do get good sleep usually.

Is that bad?

 

[nihilis]

I can't put my finger on why I was so content with life, even the shortcomings, but I was. And I was happy, trying to hold on to it for dear life.

The first thing you need to do is relax a little. Trying to hold on to happiness rather than enjoying it makes it that much harder for you when it goes away. Don't force it, you'll only miss enjoying good opportunities when they do come your way because you'll be too busy chasing those random moments of bliss.

Have you ever felt that way?

Yes, quite a bit. I got into a situation where a friend was going through some bad shit a while back. I love this guy, and I put all my energy into making him feel better, making him happy, helping him, etc. The point is that when things got better (thank God), I no longer had all of that to focus on, so I had to go back to focusing on myself. Losing your diversions and focal points can leave you feeling empty sometimes. Having no place to direct your energy, especially being single, leaves you with a loneliness that makes it hard to function. I was like a junkie looking for scraps of attention, elated when I got them, but miserable when things didn't go my way. I even got this way with all my other friends and family as well. It's no way to live.

As others have said, you need to focus on yourself a little bit. Take up an instrument, do some art, learn a language, go to a gym. Do something that you want to do that enriches you. You cannot depend on others for happiness. It's a hard lesson and it takes time to learn, but it's one worth learning now. No one wants an insecure mess, they want someone who's got themselves together. I'm by no means secure, but I'm starting to get better. You find that if you make real connections, people come seek you out, they always come back to you no matter how busy they are. If there's love in your life, both for yourself and for others, you'll be able to see a lot more happiness every day.

 

[gameboy 11]

The first thing you need to do is relax a little. Trying to hold on to happiness rather than enjoying it makes it that much harder for you when it goes away. Don't force it, you'll only miss enjoying good opportunities when they do come your way because you'll be too busy chasing those random moments of bliss.



Yes, quite a bit. I got into a situation where a friend was going through some bad shit a while back. I love this guy, and I put all my energy into making him feel better, making him happy, helping him, etc. The point is that when things got better (thank God), I no longer had all of that to focus on, so I had to go back to focusing on myself. Losing your diversions and focal points can leave you feeling empty sometimes. Having no place to direct your energy, especially being single, leaves you with a loneliness that makes it hard to function. I was like a junkie looking for scraps of attention, elated when I got them, but miserable when things didn't go my way. I even got this way with all my other friends and family as well. It's no way to live.

As others have said, you need to focus on yourself a little bit. Take up an instrument, do some art, learn a language, go to a gym. Do something that you want to do that enriches you. You cannot depend on others for happiness. It's a hard lesson and it takes time to learn, but it's one worth learning now. No one wants an insecure mess, they want someone who's got themselves together. I'm by no means secure, but I'm starting to get better. You find that if you make real connections, people come seek you out, they always come back to you no matter how busy they are. If there's love in your life, both for yourself and for others, you'll be able to see a lot more happiness every day.

Simply sweet! I think this takes the cake as the best post in the topic. I felt shitty again earlier, but that's over now!

*dances*

 

[xterranx]

If you eat stuff with msg....don't.

...what exactly is wrong with MSG?

 

[rareboy]

Monosodium Glutamate is one of the worst poisons we have come up with to put into our food in order to make up for the lack of real flavours in all the processed crap we eat. It can create sleep and behaviour disturbances along with myriad other side effects. Along with high fructose corn syrup it can wreak havoc with body chemistry and metabolism, which can be a significant contributing factor to anxiety and clinical depression.

I'll pull an article I received recently and post it in hot topics on Monday or Tuesday next week when I'm back in the office. In the meantime, start taking a good look at what you are eating if you find your moods shifting dramatically over short time periods.

 

[confusedboy23]

I've always been a lonely kinda person, preferring to be on my own or with a small group of friends than with a large gang. But even as a loner, I tend to often have bouts of minor-depression, or those days of feeling down and just not knowing what my mind is really up to. I've been that way for the past couple of days wrestling with thoughts of my ex. I guess we just can't really control our mind but I'm sure if we hang in there, we'll be all fine.

 

[rareboy]

Confused...

shut down your computer. Go outside. Go for a walk or to the museum or somewhere different. Depression loves inertia and loners.

 

[chance1]

Your existence is not validated through fairly shallow contact with people on-line.

Bingo

what a great sentence

and so true

U are not defined by others

good advice from rareboy

 

[Eyghon]

This happened to me quite frequently during the summer. One night a cried myself to sleep. Not long after that I was on top of the world. And so on and so forth like that in a vicious circle. I'm in an extended period of feeling better about myself, mostly because I have more purpose now than I've had in a while.

I understand the thing about people. I'm also intensely shy and introverted. I'm always approachable, but I probably don't look it because I'm anxious. You never want to define yourself by other people, but sometimes it's hard to see past your distance from others.

I always think it's best to enjoy those inexplicable good moods while they last. Trying to hold onto them makes them go away real fast. I try to roll with the emotional punches, if that makes any sense.

 

[xterranx]

Monosodium Glutamate is one of the worst poisons we have come up with to put into our food in order to make up for the lack of real flavours in all the processed crap we eat. It can create sleep and behaviour disturbances along with myriad other side effects. Along with high fructose corn syrup it can wreak havoc with body chemistry and metabolism, which can be a significant contributing factor to anxiety and clinical depression.

I'll pull an article I received recently and post it in hot topics on Monday or Tuesday next week when I'm back in the office. In the meantime, start taking a good look at what you are eating if you find your moods shifting dramatically over short time periods.

Uhhh... I've had MSG my entire life (Asian. <_<) and I don't seem to be experiencing ~behavioral disturbances~ but feel free to post the article. I want to read it.

 

[spreadeagle]

So let's look at this:

Your first paragraph implies that you believe there is a relationship between being 'an essentially good person' and having good things happen to you.

Then you seem to connect the 'good' things that happened to you with your being in a good mood.

Next you acknowledge that sometimes something that happens is 'nice' and at other times the same thing seems irrelevant.

The reality is that by-and-large things that we experience are absolutely neutral. Whether we perceive them as 'good'or 'bad' depends on our expectations and on the choices we make about how we want to react to experience.

Moods are simply repetitive thought patterns, but you're the one who is thinking the thoughts. Whether someone looks at you and smiles, or doesn't smile, means nothing at all about you unless you decide it does. If you can understand and practise this you'll understand the secret of happiness.