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Yet again....I end up being "just friends"

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Story of my life.

I met a guy Oct. 12, in a bar (my first ever bar pick-up, and I'm 42), we hit it off and start seeing each other. This guy truly pushed all my buttons, sexually and otherwise. We both have our issues, but it seemed like it could work.

Not.

Not that it was a surprise, something changed recently and there was an awkwardness in the air. We had the discussion last night, decided we don't want to lose each others' friendship. We had so many truly deep conversations, there's definitely a bond of some kind. I do truly like the guy and enjoy his company, and I remind myself of how hard it is to find true friends.
But, part of me can't help but say.........this again. I thought I might actually have someone special to share the holidays with.......alas, it was not to be.

Not feeling great right now.


But, I'm putting on a :-) anyway.

Happy Friday.
 
tomorows a new day yesterday was history tomorrow is the future chin up walk tall
 
I'm sorry, Mr Matt. I don't have words of wisdom; the rules of attraction are a mystery to me.
 
I can sympathize with you on that! I just had the same thing happen! Met a guy, was going great for a few months, then he lost interest. I just got a phone call, and email, and an instant message, all yesterday, saying he just wants to be friends! That is cool! But it does kinda put a damper on the "good times" feelings!!
 
I'm sorry, that sucks but friends are hard to find, and those you can have deep meaningful conversations with are even more rare. But if you feel lonely maybe you should try and make some one else's holidays better. Maybe be a mentor or buy a toy for a needy kid, it never hurts and you can know you have made some else happy. That cures my loneliness for a while, when i get lonely that is. But happy holidays to you(!)
 
Thank you all very much for your thoughts.

The hard part of this one is it's been a VERY long time since I felt like I had a chance to have something special with someone. I shut down for YEARS, trying not to connect or get close to anyone. I will not do that this time - in fact, there is someone out there that I saw briefly that may be interested again. BUT - I also know I need to be careful right now, since this just ended.
My life truly is a gay soap opera.:-({|=


:-)
 
Well that's not a happy thing but there's a lot good going on from what I can see.

You're open again after being closed for years. That's huge.

You're 42, which I think is a great age to meet the right guy.

It sounds like you really liked this guy and connected but I don't get from your post that you fell madly in love with him and will be carrying a painful torch over it, so a good friendship might continue to evolve.

It's too bad he did this right before the holidays but on the other hand it's a festive time of year with lots of parties and people feeling friendly, so it's easier to meet someone new -- or a lot of someones.

Keep being open -- maybe this guy was just a preview to teach you something you need to know for your relationship with the right guy who's about to enter your life.

You're in your prime. ..|
 
(*8*) (*8*) Not enough hugs for you in this thread yet. That just means your wonderful man is still waiting for you around the corner.
 
I am so sorry...I know that it is so hard to open up, but at least you tried and you should give yourself some credit for that (*8*) (*8*)
 
Matt, sweety, I am so sorry about your heart-ache; but it's so much better to find out NOW that the person is NOT for you than later when you've given them your heart and they burst it open!

Just know that love is something NOT taken lightly and when you finally find the right man to share your life that he will be there forever....

Keep that smile on your face and your head held high!!

Good hunting! lol(*8*) (*8*) :kiss: :kiss:
 
you sound like you need a hug, so im giving you a BIG HUG, i hope you cheer up soon, because, as you know well more then i do, this is life. you will find someone just dont get you hopes up. and again, another BIG HUG.
 
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