Yet another thread about relationship problems

[floridaboy]

So I've been dating this guy for about 5 months now, I was in a fowl mood and told him so, but he kept pestering me about how the job I have isn't good enough(even though I make more than him) and I don't talk to him enough and thought I was cheating on him, which is something I'd NEVER do

So eventually I got tired of it and told him off and I told him I didn't want to see him again. But it's been a couple of days now, and he keeps telling me he's sorry and that he misses me.

should I take him back, or stick to what I said to him the first time that I don't want to see him anymore???

 

[sixthson]

Why ask us? Ask yourself. Do you want to see him again?

Unless you are leaving something out, is sounds like a lot of drama for a minor conflict.

 

[jaysizzles]

Do you want to see him again?

It seems to me that if you wanted a relationship with him your knee jerk reaction would not have been to break up...you'd have argued, gone to your separate places, cooled off, and then talked about what was bothering you....like what adults in committed relationships do. Serial breaking up in fits of anger and then in the next few days getting back together is so high school-ish. Either it's that or subconsciously you may just want out...idk.

Only you can decide if you want to be in a relationship with him. Do you foresee the ability in each of you to adapt to the others needs/moods...to learn to communicate with the other and build what you have into a relationship where each knows when to press an issue and when to back off...?

 

[floridaboy]

Why ask us? Ask yourself. Do you want to see him again?

Unless you are leaving something out, is sounds like a lot of drama for a minor conflict.

i do kind of want to see him still, but i know we're just going to keep fighting. I was just thinking this would save both us of alot more turmoil and stress at the cost of me feeling bad for a bit.

 

[Rolyo85]

To be blunt, you both sound like you're in your early teens. "I never want to see you again" is what little girls do when their daddies won't buy them a pony. That said, the key to a successful relationship isn't finding the guy you won't argue with, but the guy that you could talk about your disagreements with. When your guy has problems with you, you talk to him about it, you don't tell him you don't want to see him again. Why does he think you're cheating? Why doesn't he like your job? You don't have to answer these questions here, but do YOU know?

 

[Howlly]

Sounds like he's trying to pin something on you because he's got a guilty conscience. There's no explanation for why he would moan about your job if it was better than his.

Dump him, move on.

 

[Seasoned]

Don't dump him just yet. You may have to, but all of us have got to remember that relationships aren't prince charming scenarios. They are with real people with real issues and they require work. Communication is key. Start practicing. Go to the self help section at the library or bookstore and find a book describing fair fighting. Make sure he reads it and then put it to good use. Good luck.