Riverrick
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I swear. Hanging around this Forum is changing me.
So I was visiting my parents this weekend. They are older, late 70's early 80's. But they’re in good health and are pretty normal. I came out to them about 25 years ago. It wasn’t pleasant. My mother went into this big dramatic scene like the world was ending. My father was more subdued about it. Fortunately I wasn’t living at home and so I left. They came around fairly quickly because I gave them an ultimatum – basically deal with it or rarely ever see me again. I wasn’t going back into the closet.
So over the years, they have adjusted. They have been kind to my boyfriends and always included them. They still don’t bring the subject up on their own very often and never ask me if I’ m dating, which kind of annoys me. We talk about gay issues once in a while so all in all I think they’ve done fairly well. (By the way, I have a gay sister too!
That’s another story. )
Well, this weekend, I’m visiting with my parents and a different sister and her grownup daughter. We’re all sitting in the living room and football is on – my dad is watching it. I’m looking at the players and I ask him a question about the rules of the game. A few minutes later, my mother says why don’t you move over to this chair so you can see the TV better.
And I say, “Oh I’m fine. I’m not really watching it. I’m just checking out the hot guys.”. What did I just say? I NEVER talk like that around them.
My parents were silent for a minute. My niece who was reading kept reading but was smiling. I didn’t look at my sister.
A few moments passed and everyone started talking again.
The truth is that I said exactly what I wanted to say. It was the truth. But I usually edit myself around them. Something came over me, though. It was like I was here in this forum and everyone was watching and....I decided I wanted to be as honest as I’ve seen some of the JUBBers from here be recently.
So I think you guys are affecting my reality and I kind of like it. Thanks for that!
So I was visiting my parents this weekend. They are older, late 70's early 80's. But they’re in good health and are pretty normal. I came out to them about 25 years ago. It wasn’t pleasant. My mother went into this big dramatic scene like the world was ending. My father was more subdued about it. Fortunately I wasn’t living at home and so I left. They came around fairly quickly because I gave them an ultimatum – basically deal with it or rarely ever see me again. I wasn’t going back into the closet.
So over the years, they have adjusted. They have been kind to my boyfriends and always included them. They still don’t bring the subject up on their own very often and never ask me if I’ m dating, which kind of annoys me. We talk about gay issues once in a while so all in all I think they’ve done fairly well. (By the way, I have a gay sister too!
That’s another story. )Well, this weekend, I’m visiting with my parents and a different sister and her grownup daughter. We’re all sitting in the living room and football is on – my dad is watching it. I’m looking at the players and I ask him a question about the rules of the game. A few minutes later, my mother says why don’t you move over to this chair so you can see the TV better.
And I say, “Oh I’m fine. I’m not really watching it. I’m just checking out the hot guys.”. What did I just say? I NEVER talk like that around them.
My parents were silent for a minute. My niece who was reading kept reading but was smiling. I didn’t look at my sister.
A few moments passed and everyone started talking again.
The truth is that I said exactly what I wanted to say. It was the truth. But I usually edit myself around them. Something came over me, though. It was like I was here in this forum and everyone was watching and....I decided I wanted to be as honest as I’ve seen some of the JUBBers from here be recently.
So I think you guys are affecting my reality and I kind of like it. Thanks for that!
I'm hoping that they will happen to me when the time is right too. Being here on JUB has had a great impact on my life too, to here's a big THANK YOU to all you awesome fellow JUBbers!!!! 
