Your Best and Worst Experiences While Dating.

[FunFunk]

So tell us,

...what was your best experience while dating or in a relationship? Memories you will forever treasure.

...and what was your worst experience? Things you still remember but would prefer to forget.

Please answer concerning only serious dates, substantial relationships, committed partnerships and the like. Don't include one night stands, sex-only encounters or anything else of that nature.

 

[kramer362]

Well, my boyfriend and I have had a relationship for almost 9 months without a single hitch This is as good as I could ever hope for..

Sounds sleezy, but I don't care- I posted an ad on craigslist looking for a fuckbuddy in May of 2010. I got a bunch of responses and pictures emailed, some sounded good, one of them being his. The name he used under his email address was 'George Costanza,' and I immediately told him I'm a huge Seinfeld buff, and he said he was too. From there we started texting, eventually I worked up the nerve to call him and he had the most amazingly deep-sounding voice I've ever heard (I have a thing for deep voices).

I think I forgot about the fuckbuddy aspect from the first time we spoke. I had only seeked that out because I didn't think I'd ever find a guy who had so much in common with me who is also gay. Turns out I was wrong, and the day I met him we had sex within 10 minutes, lol. I found him so attractive I was intimidated to even talk to him, because he was so humble and the pictures he had sent didnt do him justice. The next time we hung out, I introduced him to my roommates and he he hung out with all my friends for a b-day party. It moved incredibly fast, and I usually have trouble committing to things, but I have not once doubted our compatibility.

One thing I make sure is to always be 100% honest with him. He knows I doubt monogamy, but he always knows how deeply in love with him I am, so he tells me if I'm safe he would be ok with me having sex with other people. I'm not ready to test our relationship like that though because I am completely satisfied.

I'm very independent and made that clear from the beginning. He has zero problems with me telling him I need alone time, and if we are out together and see a hot guy we tell each other and agree or disagree. When my friends asked how we met, I just said the internet. Anytime someone mentions craigslist or makes fun of the casual encounters section, we just grin at each other

 

[justsimon]

My best experience was with my most recent ex. It was a difficult relationship (mostly due to distance), but overall it was great.

My worst experience was getting dumped by her when she panicked about moving here.

 

[bankside]

My worst experience was dating someone with low self esteem. When someone thinks they're shit, they often think you must be shit too if you show any interest in them. And then they treat you accordingly. Never again.

My best experience is still happening, 13 years later.

 

[Ninja108]

Best experience - Meeting the love of my life at the school library in college. Been dating ever since.

Worst - with my first bf,who was simply using me to put a star in his book.

 

[Twinkie]

The age ol' addage: 2 (or perhaps 3) Wrongs NEVER make a right... Well it did here! (As I'll go on to explain)...

Worst Experiene No#1: My First BF... My BFF (whom I'd known since Yr/Grade 1) was his flat mate... Her & I were talking on MSN one nite, he walked by, saw my display pic on MSN, took a closer look... Took off back to his room & discovered I was indeed the guy he would regularly perve on on Manhunt.com... So he came back & my silly BFF set us up...

We lasted abt 6Mths... I was 21 & still living @ home & hadn't came out to my parents, so that sorta made things hard... In all honestly he was a manic depressent & a slob that didn't look after himself... I wasn't the least bit interested in kissing him...

Thankfully I recieved a Job Offer from the SRA of NSW... This was a god send, it gave me the exit road I need' to rid myself of him!

Worst Experience No#2... Manhunt.net strikes again!
I'd been Living in Sincity Aust. for 3Mths by the time my second relationship came along... It was 1830Hrs Aug 26 '09... I'll never forget the date, the time or the weather conditions... TYhey say this is common when one is injuried & narrowly survives a traffic accident, In my case I was the rider of a Motorcycle that was hit by a on-coming car & as a result ejected from the seat & thrown 50 meters, busting both my hands as I went over the handle bars... Anyway to the facts shall we ;-) ... I'd been relocated back to my place of birth where my parents still reside for them to look after me for the next 3Mths... I logged onto MH.Net & their in my inbox was a wink... So we got chatting.... OOver the next 4Weeks as we chatted more & more he said he had strong feelings developing for me & finally over MSN asked me to be his BF one nite... I agreed, We finally meet up in person, we seemed to go alright for abt 3 weeks after that, then it went all sour... I was 23, he was 43, so a good 20+ Yr age diffrence...
As my Best Faghag later told me... Honey, if his 43 & single, & has been for quite awhile & his previous relationships have never really worked out, he his single for a reason & from a pysch POV, after how his reacted of late, you clearly dodged a bullet!

I never heard from him again....

Worst Experience No3# Done w/- Manhunt, this time it was Mr Charmer on Match.com...

I received a wink from this guy on Match.com, we started eMailing, then we met for lunch one day, got texting back & forth, met a second time for drinks one Fri. Nite... We going to meet for lunch a second time by said he had work commitments... Then we were going to go to the Hunter Vine Yards on Sun., He text me on the Wed. to sat he was being sent to Brisbane on Business that Wkend, so wouldn't be able meet up.... I text he didn't reply... tried ringing, he wouldn't answer... I finely sent him one last final challenge by text... He replied that as he was leaving for Brisbane his former partner of 5Yrs from when he was living in the UK had turned up on his doorstep in SinCity Aust. out of the blue & he was just trying to handle & cope w/- him ATM... So he'd be in touch once he had things sorted... I never heard from hi again... No loss really!


& My best experiene yet: My Current BF...

I saw an ad on TV for dating site eHarmony... So I had a browse... It redirected me to their sister site for GLBT Rerlationships Compatible Partners.com... So I got a Ice Breaker from one of my Matches in March Last year... after the unrest I'd had with one of my previous BF's being 20+Yrs older then me, I was weary of going for some one any more then 10Yrs older then me his profile said he was 36, so their would be 12Yrs diffrence betwn us...
We started chatting via MSN & eventually agreed to meet for a movie on Good Fri. Things over the next 3Mths progressed slowly & as of April 2 we will celebrate 12Mths together

 

[FunFunk]

Well, my boyfriend and I have had a relationship for almost 9 months without a single hitch This is as good as I could ever hope for..

Sounds sleezy, but I don't care- I posted an ad on craigslist looking for a fuckbuddy in May of 2010. I got a bunch of responses and pictures emailed, some sounded good, one of them being his. The name he used under his email address was 'George Costanza,' and I immediately told him I'm a huge Seinfeld buff, and he said he was too. From there we started texting, eventually I worked up the nerve to call him and he had the most amazingly deep-sounding voice I've ever heard (I have a thing for deep voices).

I think I forgot about the fuckbuddy aspect from the first time we spoke. I had only seeked that out because I didn't think I'd ever find a guy who had so much in common with me who is also gay. Turns out I was wrong, and the day I met him we had sex within 10 minutes, lol. I found him so attractive I was intimidated to even talk to him, because he was so humble and the pictures he had sent didnt do him justice. The next time we hung out, I introduced him to my roommates and he he hung out with all my friends for a b-day party. It moved incredibly fast, and I usually have trouble committing to things, but I have not once doubted our compatibility.

One thing I make sure is to always be 100% honest with him. He knows I doubt monogamy, but he always knows how deeply in love with him I am, so he tells me if I'm safe he would be ok with me having sex with other people. I'm not ready to test our relationship like that though because I am completely satisfied.

I'm very independent and made that clear from the beginning. He has zero problems with me telling him I need alone time, and if we are out together and see a hot guy we tell each other and agree or disagree. When my friends asked how we met, I just said the internet. Anytime someone mentions craigslist or makes fun of the casual encounters section, we just grin at each other

Nice story. So, apparently, there's a glimmer of hope for Craigslist after all. Who would've thought?

 

[FunFunk]

I guess I should count myself lucky, my only really negative dating experiences have just been running into guys who swear up and down that they're looking for a real relationship / aren't all about hooking up, but end up being, in fact, all about hooking up and moving on to the next fling.

Unfortunately, I think that's something (nearly) everyone has experienced (and I doubt that I need to use the word "nearly" but I'm feeling generous).

 

[FunFunk]

My worst experience was dating someone with low self esteem. When someone thinks they're shit, they often think you must be shit too if you show any interest in them. And then they treat you accordingly. Never again.

My best experience is still happening, 13 years later.

The self esteem statement is so true. Also, at least in my observations, it seems as if a lot of "dominant" people (though not all or even most of them) have such issues and treat their partners poorly (and not just in sexual roleplaying).

 

[FunFunk]

Best experience - Meeting the love of my life at the school library in college. Been dating ever since.

Worst - with my first bf,who was simply using me to put a star in his book.

People who go on dates or relationships just to score or add another notch to their belts can be among the hardest on your emotions. While you're investing your genuine feelings and compassion on them, they're not only not showing the same mutually but actually completely uncaring about you. Very cold and insensitive, to say the least.

 

[FunFunk]

The age ol' addage: 2 (or perhaps 3) Wrongs NEVER make a right... Well it did here! (As I'll go on to explain)...

Worst Experiene No#1: My First BF... My BFF (whom I'd known since Yr/Grade 1) was his flat mate... Her & I were talking on MSN one nite, he walked by, saw my display pic on MSN, took a closer look... Took off back to his room & discovered I was indeed the guy he would regularly perve on on Manhunt.com... So he came back & my silly BFF set us up...

We lasted abt 6Mths... I was 21 & still living @ home & hadn't came out to my parents, so that sorta made things hard... In all honestly he was a manic depressent & a slob that didn't look after himself... I wasn't the least bit interested in kissing him...

Thankfully I recieved a Job Offer from the SRA of NSW... This was a god send, it gave me the exit road I need' to rid myself of him!

Worst Experience No#2... Manhunt.net strikes again!
I'd been Living in Sincity Aust. for 3Mths by the time my second relationship came along... It was 1830Hrs Aug 26 '09... I'll never forget the date, the time or the weather conditions... TYhey say this is common when one is injuried & narrowly survives a traffic accident, In my case I was the rider of a Motorcycle that was hit by a on-coming car & as a result ejected from the seat & thrown 50 meters, busting both my hands as I went over the handle bars... Anyway to the facts shall we ;-) ... I'd been relocated back to my place of birth where my parents still reside for them to look after me for the next 3Mths... I logged onto MH.Net & their in my inbox was a wink... So we got chatting.... OOver the next 4Weeks as we chatted more & more he said he had strong feelings developing for me & finally over MSN asked me to be his BF one nite... I agreed, We finally meet up in person, we seemed to go alright for abt 3 weeks after that, then it went all sour... I was 23, he was 43, so a good 20+ Yr age diffrence...
As my Best Faghag later told me... Honey, if his 43 & single, & has been for quite awhile & his previous relationships have never really worked out, he his single for a reason & from a pysch POV, after how his reacted of late, you clearly dodged a bullet!

I never heard from him again....

Worst Experience No3# Done w/- Manhunt, this time it was Mr Charmer on Match.com...

I received a wink from this guy on Match.com, we started eMailing, then we met for lunch one day, got texting back & forth, met a second time for drinks one Fri. Nite... We going to meet for lunch a second time by said he had work commitments... Then we were going to go to the Hunter Vine Yards on Sun., He text me on the Wed. to sat he was being sent to Brisbane on Business that Wkend, so wouldn't be able meet up.... I text he didn't reply... tried ringing, he wouldn't answer... I finely sent him one last final challenge by text... He replied that as he was leaving for Brisbane his former partner of 5Yrs from when he was living in the UK had turned up on his doorstep in SinCity Aust. out of the blue & he was just trying to handle & cope w/- him ATM... So he'd be in touch once he had things sorted... I never heard from hi again... No loss really!


& My best experiene yet: My Current BF...

I saw an ad on TV for dating site eHarmony... So I had a browse... It redirected me to their sister site for GLBT Rerlationships Compatible Partners.com... So I got a Ice Breaker from one of my Matches in March Last year... after the unrest I'd had with one of my previous BF's being 20+Yrs older then me, I was weary of going for some one any more then 10Yrs older then me his profile said he was 36, so their would be 12Yrs diffrence betwn us...
We started chatting via MSN & eventually agreed to meet for a movie on Good Fri. Things over the next 3Mths progressed slowly & as of April 2 we will celebrate 12Mths together

If at first (or at second, or at third) you don't succeed, try, try again. Then try some more. Good to see you finally have a relationship that's working out.

 

[Ninja108]

People who go on dates or relationships just to score or add another notch to their belts can be among the hardest on your emotions. While you're investing your genuine feelings and compassion on them, they're not only not showing the same mutually but actually completely uncaring about you. Very cold and insensitive, to say the least.

Indeed, that's why I only had a ocuple of dates until my second serious relationship. Two of the guys I went on dinner dates before I met my bf/fiance with wanted sex. Which meant I nipped dates in the bud.

 

[rareboy]

Well.

About 29 years ago, I was invited over for dinner to this guy's apartment for our first 'date'.

He's making dinner for us tonight.

 

[Ninja108]

..

Well.

About 29 years ago, I was invited over for dinner to this guy's apartment for our first 'date'.

He's making dinner for us tonight.

awww.....

 

[anchihiro]

I once went on a date with a weather man. By far the most boring gay man i've ever met.
All he kept talking about was the computers at his work that predicted weather, he just would not stop going on and on. Everytime i tried to change the subject he always cut it short and went back to talking about his bloody weather computers.

When he went to the bathroom i seriously considered doing a run for it.

Never saw him again.

 

[android91891]

worst experience was with my 2nd boyfriend he didn't know i was not out of the closet yet, he never asked so i assumed it didn't matter. he comes to my house(i still lived with my parents at the time) and decides to proclaim his love for me, tell me how much he cared. my parents freaked out and i had to pretend like i had no idea who he was, it was terible. we broke up and he stole a whole bunch of my clothes that didn't even fit him. i'm a size small he's atleast an xl-xxl