Your Relationships In Public Areas?

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How do you handle your relationship in public areas? Do you guys hold hands with your partner and kiss freely in shopping areas or parks? Or do you guys have a 'restriction' with partner when comes to affections in public areas. If you do show affection in public , don't you feel unsafe contributing there are people around that well don't like gay people and may physically hurt you and your partner. SOrry for all these questions and im curious. x]

 

[M4P]

I met him at the airport tonight and kissed and hugged him in front of possibly 100 people

We're not necessarily "in your face" but we are who we are and that is how we live

 

[Tizinsane]

Nah...public affection is not for me.

It doesnt matter if its a girl and a guy, a guy and a guy, or a girl and girl. I really don't like it.

When I do get a bf, there won't be any holding hands/kissing/hugging/ass slapping etc. in public.

 

[p700granat]

It's probably not for me as well. But seeing them sometimes warms your heart. Recently I saw a girl seeing off her bf (both about my age) at a bus station, and after they kissed goodbye, and the girl almost walked out, the boy suddenly left the line and ran to the girl, hugged and kissed her again. It was such as a wonderful thing to see.

 

[mascbiguy]

i have kissed and held hands, hugged my ex-bf in public. didnt really get much of a reaction where i live(L.A) but when we were in some of the smaller suburbs, got a few looks. nothing more then that. if any one would of said anything or tried to get "psychical", well then we would of had a issue.

If you wont hold your BF/GF hand in public because you are scared that some one might react a certain way, then you are just giving them power over you and letting them tell you how to live. you should never change the way you act, or hide who you are because of fear. the more open/public gay couples live the more people will see it and get used to it.

 

[igamenir]

I don't mind when anyone hugs or kisses with their love, no matter of the gender.

When i love with my bf, i want to hold him and kiss him whenever i feel like that, no matter if we are at home or in train or whereever. Unfortunatelly, my bf don't like doing it coz he's afraid of what would all the people say. So he hold my hand only when we are far from home, like in other city. And he kisses me only home or in gay club.

But what i really hate are homophobes i sometimes met online, that talks about the terrible gay people holding hands in public and how that could effect poor children, but they don't care about the straigth couples i see hugging and kissing almost everywhere, sometimes even with their hand under the other one's shirt or in the others pants, what looks more like soft porn then showing love.

But it may be just a problem of our country (the first gay parade in our country was attacked by groups of neonacist and anarchist and other groups, while the police was just watching and doing like nothing)

 

[thewiz]

I love to hold hands with a guy I am dating. I have dated guys who have almost freaked when I put my arm around them while standing in a gay bar. One guy said he didn't want someone walking by possibly thinking he was gay! Duh!

I will hold hands but am sensitive to areas I am in. I have also kissed a guy good-bye or hello at the airport. I find more and more people really don't think much.

For me, I guess if a guy is afraid to show any appropriate affection is a turn off. I used to walk hand-in-hand with my wife and women; I guess I see nothing wrong and enjoy the contact with a man much more.

 

[G-Lexington]

Neither of us have ever been overly affectionate with anyone in public, and so we've meshed well that way. Occasional hands over the shoulder, perhaps a stray touch at times, and that's about it.

Lex

 

[RicanDAB]

Personally, I think that manners dictate PDA's be kept to a minimum, gay or straight. A quick polite kiss hello or goodbye, or hand holding, sure no problem. But I've seen couples holding each other "passionately," or pretty intense kissing in, say a Starbucks, and that's just awkward for everyone. Sure, there are exceptions - the above airport example, a nightclub, whatever - but even sill, have some discretion.

I don't know that there is a right or wrong answer, but that's my 2 cents. Oh, and also, obviously, be self aware enough to know if you're safe!

My sentiments exactly. Excessive PDAs are just not necessary. We both feel the same way and are comfortable with that.

The reality is that there are still assholes out there who will not think twice about swinging a crowbar to your head for exhibiting the smallest gesture of intimacy with your same-sex partner. With that said, I rather be safe than feel that I need to prove something to everyone.

 

[UC3543]

Neither of us have ever been overly affectionate with anyone in public, and so we've meshed well that way. Occasional hands over the shoulder, perhaps a stray touch at times, and that's about it.

Lex

That is the way it is currently with my boyfriend and me. but if we are in a movie theater e usually hold hands - or laste night for example at dinner we kissed - not sure if anyone saw. But we typically don't hold hands walking around in public, but if someone would watch us for a couple of minutes, I think it is rather obvious we are more than friends.

 

[hhoiffk2004]

there are a lot of guys here that show affection in public. how come i dont see much of guy with guy or girl with girl in my area (sydney australia)??

 

[DeMan06]

well, being in the middle of the bible belt... no, we don't do much of the PDA (we do value our lives). Occasionally we might hold hands here and there or get in a quick kiss; but in general no.

 

[muscleboy82000]

My BF and I control the level of PDA to fit where we are. We keep it low key when we are out and about except when we are in the "gay" area of town and then we are more open with it.