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18 and still a virgin.

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So, I'm 18, gay and I'm not out to anyone. Recently I've been really pissed about the fact that I just can't get any kind of action. I've never been kissed. The further I've gone was oral sex, There was a guy in my school when I was 14 and we sucked each other, he wanted to fuck me and I wanted him to fuck me but it never happened and we lost touch.

I was hoping someone could give some tips on how to get some action, I know it's hard cause I'm not out and kind of shy, but can anyone tell me what I could do?
 
Being out helps. Like a lot.

Failing that, online is the best way, although be careful and always meet in public first. I'd rather have sex with a guy I like though.
 
First of all, even today most gay guys lose their virginity way past 18, so there's no rush.

And yeah, if you want anything other than getting fucked, you should come out. Figure out your life before dragging others in it ;)
 
Well, I made it to 20 with only a couple of bj's and hand jobs so I wouldn't get too worried.

It would always be great to have sex with someone that you felt a stronger connection with, but hey, I did it with one night stands when I was starting out and made a lot of friends along the way.

The easiest way to get lots of sex when you are 18 would be to hit a bathhouse or gay gym/sauna.
 
No, actually, the easiest would be Grindr.

I suppose......................................But you'd have quantity at the steamies versus Grindr where interludes may involve travel....
 
Geez 18 (just legal) and complaining already. What saddens me is your priority is "getting action" and not falling in love and then getting action from that. Which basically means you want to fuck the first person who will ask for it. There are no awards for losing your virginity early and there are a lot of users out there
 
I realize you're horny as we all are. However, don't lower your self-esteem that you're only 18 and still a virgin. You are incredibly young and there is no rush to losing your virginity. Your priorities should focus on coming out. What about your friends and family? Are you creating a personal environment for yourself that is based on honesty and acceptance? When you no longer have no hide your attraction for other males, then you'll be surprised how quickly you'll get some action. Just remember to choose your partners responsibly. It's easy to find sex, but find someone who is worth having it with. It doesn't have to be love or a boyfriend, but at least find a close person you can develop a deep bond with. The sex with that kind of a person is so much better than a one-time hook-up.
 
I realize you're horny as we all are. However, don't lower your self-esteem that you're only 18 and still a virgin. You are incredibly young and there is no rush to losing your virginity. Your priorities should focus on coming out. What about your friends and family? Are you creating a personal environment for yourself that is based on honesty and acceptance? When you no longer have no hide your attraction for other males, then you'll be surprised how quickly you'll get some action. Just remember to choose your partners responsibly. It's easy to find sex, but find someone who is worth having it with. It doesn't have to be love or a boyfriend, but at least find a close person you can develop a deep bond with. The sex with that kind of a person is so much better than a one-time hook-up.



First of all, thank you for the advice. I just wish you could explain me why I should come out before I can have sex. And it's not like I'm rushing to lose my virginity, I just want sex.
I'm struggling with find the curage to come out and considering the enviroment I live in I don't think it will happen anytime soon.
 
First of all, thank you for the advice. I just wish you could explain me why I should come out before I can have sex. And it's not like I'm rushing to lose my virginity, I just want sex.
I'm struggling with find the curage to come out and considering the enviroment I live in I don't think it will happen anytime soon.

Because sex is rarely JUST sex, and having confidence in who you are is key for the experience being actually good. Sex has emotion in it, it's not just masturbation with another person. Of course you CAN have sex before coming out. It's just that coming out as early as possible is always the best course of action.
 
First of all, thank you for the advice. I just wish you could explain me why I should come out before I can have sex. And it's not like I'm rushing to lose my virginity, I just want sex.
I'm struggling with find the curage to come out and considering the enviroment I live in I don't think it will happen anytime soon.

I think it'll be in your best interest to figure yourself out first. Sex with someone who is shy and insecure isn't fun for anyone. You don't necessarily have to come out and tell the world - people don't need to know your business. But you have to accept yourself. Come out to yourself. Then, I would advise waiting to have sex with a boyfriend, not some random guy. You're an introvert. Nothing wrong with that btw, I am too. But as shy as you are, do you really think you have the confidence to have sex with just anyone? You say you can barely hold conversations without getting awkward.... where are you going to find the confidence to strip down and fuck someone you barely know? Sex with someone you love and someone who loves you will give you all the confidence in the world. I'm not knocking random hook ups though. If you got it like that, do you boo. Hit it and quit it, hump it and dump it. But it's not for everyone, and I don't think it's for you.
 
So, I'm 18, gay and I'm not out to anyone. Recently I've been really pissed about the fact that I just can't get any kind of action. I've never been kissed. The further I've gone was oral sex, There was a guy in my school when I was 14 and we sucked each other, he wanted to fuck me and I wanted him to fuck me but it never happened and we lost touch.

I was hoping someone could give some tips on how to get some action, I know it's hard cause I'm not out and kind of shy, but can anyone tell me what I could do?

I didn't have my first kiss until I was 18... Lost my virginity right before 19. My boyfriend just gave me his virginity a few days ago and he's 19 about to be 20. Be proud of it. Give it to someone you like :)
 
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