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19yo hooking up with 50yo
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A 50 year old meeting a 19 year old - yeah, you are not only going to want to meet in a BUSY public place, but also let someone know where you are - if not have them waiting on the other side of the room to help you out in case you get in trouble. I just don't trust the whole 50 year old going for the 19 year old virgin.
So thinking the same thing.....pedo alert....sorry but it has to be said
Yeah, a guy wants someone who's above the age limit...that's TOTALLY pedophilia! Especially if he's looking to do it with someone who's already a fully physically developed male! That's totally a pedophilic desire!
Anyway, peanut gallery aside, some advise on sex:
First of all, cut yourself a break--you're new to this. Don't expect to be able to blow his mind on your first time. If he expects that, then he's probably not a good sexual partner, in all honesty. Especially if he knows you're a virgin
Deep throating is something that takes practice. Generally, it's about opening your throat and convincing your body not to gag from the feeling. Obviously, that's known as "suppressing the gag reflex." I would stick with heavy licking (that's basically more of the blow job than any actual "sucking") and insertion that's comfortable to you. If you wanna be adventurous, try taking it down your throat, but don't force yourself. And if he tries to just shove it down your throat, he's probably going to gag you, choke you, and wind up with stomach acid bath on his dick (just more reason for him to be a slow and understanding partner).
But, I find that length usually isn't as much of an issue as girth is. If he has a medium length disk, but it's wide and girthy, it can be hard to get in. A longer dick that's average in width is much easier to deep throat and blow. If it's just to girthy, don't force it or it'll probably hurt him because of your teeth.
If you end up fucking, use a condom, obviously (which you could also be using for the blow job, btw). Make sure he really gets you ready by slowly fingering you with lots of lube and gradually adding more fingers to get your anus and rectum used to a larger object entering it. Additionally, he should be helping you relax, which will make penetration much easier. Foreplay is a great way to do this, so it's one more reason for him to be a good partner and get you riled up and horny and comfortable. As he lubes you up you can also make it easier for him to finger you by pushing out like you're going to poop. Pushing out causes the sphincter to relax and open. Tensing will obviously cause the sphincter to clench and tighten. While he's fingering you, he can also gently massage your prostate to make you feel good and get your dick hard.
When he starts penetrating you, his condom-covered dick should have a good deal of lube on it. As he starts to press in, push out again (re: like taking a dump) and it should slowly enter. If he's really big and it starts to hurt, he should sense that you need him to wait (and tell him to wait if you feel like it's too big or it's not going in or hurting) and he should stop and let it sit where it is until your anus gets adjusted to the size and feel. When you feel ready, give him the okay and he can try to go a bit further in and repeat until he's able to go in comfortably inside you. You may need to apply more lube during this process and it never hurts to have a good amount.
As he gets deeper in, he can start pumping gently and slowly to get your rectum to open up a bit more and get used to the moving action. If it hurts a great deal, tell him so and he should stop and let you get used to the penetration or pull out and gently continue fingering you to help you relax and open up.
If he's able to enter and fuck you comfortably, then feel free to go faster and harder and wilder.
Try out different positions, too. There a bunch of good positions for prostate stimulation. Generally, if you're both facing each other, then his dick (if it curves up slightly) is in a good position to hit your prostate as he fucks you such as missionary position or sitting on it and facing him (reverse cowboy, my personal favorite). For missionary a good way to get some prostate stimulation is to have something like a pillow under your butt to give your hips more of an upward boost and make his disk pass under your prostate. or, if you've got some good ab strength, you can just pull your legs up like you're doing leg lifts and raise your ass to achieve the same effect. If he does more downward thrusting, being on your stomach, doggy style, or sitting facing his legs (cowboy) are all good positions.
But as you can probably tell from this post, the biggest thing here is observation and communication. You can provide the best pleasure for him by watching him while you blow him or stimulate him and see what really gets a reaction from him. Does he gasp or sigh when you lick his neck or his ear? Does his body tense in a good way when you pinch, lick, or brush his nipples? Does his dick jump when you kiss him? Does he growl when you moan or call his name? What about if you lick around his navel or play with his balls? All of these kinds of things are great indicators to what you're doing that really gets him going or pushes his buttons. Additionally, I generally find that things I like or the places I would want to be touched and the way I'd like them to be stimulated is a great instinct to utilize on your partner. More likely than not, they like it too and if they don't, just move on to the next thing.
And of course, it's not at all up to you to provide the pleasure. It's his job as a good partner in bed to make you feel good. He should also be observant of what turns you on (though sometimes, you just gotta be more obvious or vocal about it). If he's not getting it, try gently guiding his hand to where you want him to touch, or give a bit of a more audible groan when he does something you like. If he's unwilling to do something that is reasonable to help you get going, then maybe he's not the best partner (which you can consider in the future).
And the MOST important thing is that you have safe sex and that you feel comfortable and in control. If something doesn't feel right, or hurts, or you just aren't ready and want to stop, you should always be able to. If you don't feel like he's going to listen to you or if he's pressuring you to take it further than you're ready to, tell him to stop and be assertive. You don't have to do anything you don't want to and he should respect that or you're outta there.
If he shows you a good time, then you're more likely to come back and have some great chemistry and future sessions than if he makes you uncomfortable and hurts/freaks you out and you never come back. You've got the power here. Good luck and have fun!
Anyway, peanut gallery aside, some advise on sex:
First of all, cut yourself a break--you're new to this. Don't expect to be able to blow his mind on your first time. If he expects that, then he's probably not a good sexual partner, in all honesty. Especially if he knows you're a virgin
Deep throating is something that takes practice. Generally, it's about opening your throat and convincing your body not to gag from the feeling. Obviously, that's known as "suppressing the gag reflex." I would stick with heavy licking (that's basically more of the blow job than any actual "sucking") and insertion that's comfortable to you. If you wanna be adventurous, try taking it down your throat, but don't force yourself. And if he tries to just shove it down your throat, he's probably going to gag you, choke you, and wind up with stomach acid bath on his dick (just more reason for him to be a slow and understanding partner).
But, I find that length usually isn't as much of an issue as girth is. If he has a medium length disk, but it's wide and girthy, it can be hard to get in. A longer dick that's average in width is much easier to deep throat and blow. If it's just to girthy, don't force it or it'll probably hurt him because of your teeth.
If you end up fucking, use a condom, obviously (which you could also be using for the blow job, btw). Make sure he really gets you ready by slowly fingering you with lots of lube and gradually adding more fingers to get your anus and rectum used to a larger object entering it. Additionally, he should be helping you relax, which will make penetration much easier. Foreplay is a great way to do this, so it's one more reason for him to be a good partner and get you riled up and horny and comfortable. As he lubes you up you can also make it easier for him to finger you by pushing out like you're going to poop. Pushing out causes the sphincter to relax and open. Tensing will obviously cause the sphincter to clench and tighten. While he's fingering you, he can also gently massage your prostate to make you feel good and get your dick hard.
When he starts penetrating you, his condom-covered dick should have a good deal of lube on it. As he starts to press in, push out again (re: like taking a dump) and it should slowly enter. If he's really big and it starts to hurt, he should sense that you need him to wait (and tell him to wait if you feel like it's too big or it's not going in or hurting) and he should stop and let it sit where it is until your anus gets adjusted to the size and feel. When you feel ready, give him the okay and he can try to go a bit further in and repeat until he's able to go in comfortably inside you. You may need to apply more lube during this process and it never hurts to have a good amount.
As he gets deeper in, he can start pumping gently and slowly to get your rectum to open up a bit more and get used to the moving action. If it hurts a great deal, tell him so and he should stop and let you get used to the penetration or pull out and gently continue fingering you to help you relax and open up.
If he's able to enter and fuck you comfortably, then feel free to go faster and harder and wilder.
Try out different positions, too. There a bunch of good positions for prostate stimulation. Generally, if you're both facing each other, then his dick (if it curves up slightly) is in a good position to hit your prostate as he fucks you such as missionary position or sitting on it and facing him (reverse cowboy, my personal favorite). For missionary a good way to get some prostate stimulation is to have something like a pillow under your butt to give your hips more of an upward boost and make his disk pass under your prostate. or, if you've got some good ab strength, you can just pull your legs up like you're doing leg lifts and raise your ass to achieve the same effect. If he does more downward thrusting, being on your stomach, doggy style, or sitting facing his legs (cowboy) are all good positions.
But as you can probably tell from this post, the biggest thing here is observation and communication. You can provide the best pleasure for him by watching him while you blow him or stimulate him and see what really gets a reaction from him. Does he gasp or sigh when you lick his neck or his ear? Does his body tense in a good way when you pinch, lick, or brush his nipples? Does his dick jump when you kiss him? Does he growl when you moan or call his name? What about if you lick around his navel or play with his balls? All of these kinds of things are great indicators to what you're doing that really gets him going or pushes his buttons. Additionally, I generally find that things I like or the places I would want to be touched and the way I'd like them to be stimulated is a great instinct to utilize on your partner. More likely than not, they like it too and if they don't, just move on to the next thing.
And of course, it's not at all up to you to provide the pleasure. It's his job as a good partner in bed to make you feel good. He should also be observant of what turns you on (though sometimes, you just gotta be more obvious or vocal about it). If he's not getting it, try gently guiding his hand to where you want him to touch, or give a bit of a more audible groan when he does something you like. If he's unwilling to do something that is reasonable to help you get going, then maybe he's not the best partner (which you can consider in the future).
And the MOST important thing is that you have safe sex and that you feel comfortable and in control. If something doesn't feel right, or hurts, or you just aren't ready and want to stop, you should always be able to. If you don't feel like he's going to listen to you or if he's pressuring you to take it further than you're ready to, tell him to stop and be assertive. You don't have to do anything you don't want to and he should respect that or you're outta there.
If he shows you a good time, then you're more likely to come back and have some great chemistry and future sessions than if he makes you uncomfortable and hurts/freaks you out and you never come back. You've got the power here. Good luck and have fun!
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Thank you Luminum for the epic advice, but to the rest of the latest posters, I found him, and contacted him, not the other way around!
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Luminum: What an absolutely marvelous post! Your sage advice is so eminently practical but at the same time exhibiting concern, a sincere willingness to freely share your experience and reaching out to another in need of assistance. You have made being a Jubber worthwhile for me. Too often all I see here is mean spirited gay 'bitchiness', which can be rather discouraging at times. That is why I find your post to be so refreshing, just a good solid interesting read. Thanks !
A thought: perhaps you should start a thread devoted solely to practical tips and techniques. Many of us could benefit from our shared experiences. Besides this topic could reinforce the often overlooked thought, SEX is above all about FUN/ENJOYMENT .
Again, thank you for taking the time to share.
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'Your life is a sham, 'till you can shout out I am what I am.'
A thought: perhaps you should start a thread devoted solely to practical tips and techniques. Many of us could benefit from our shared experiences. Besides this topic could reinforce the often overlooked thought, SEX is above all about FUN/ENJOYMENT .
Again, thank you for taking the time to share.
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'Your life is a sham, 'till you can shout out I am what I am.'
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Let us all here know when he does nail you, I sure we would love to know are the 'in's and out's' of the details
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I appreciate the kudos, though I also tend to be quite bitchy. Sometimes I'm a good person, haha.
But, this kind of stuff on technique comes up quite a bit in the relationships forum. There may be a sticky up top in there you can check out!
Anyway, lrgcksck18, I hope that's helpful and let us know how it goes!
But, this kind of stuff on technique comes up quite a bit in the relationships forum. There may be a sticky up top in there you can check out!
Anyway, lrgcksck18, I hope that's helpful and let us know how it goes!
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So......bad news and good news haha.....I found out the guys name, and googled it with the area he lives in.........he's on the sex offender registry. Luckily he was charged over 30 years ago. But that and the fact that we was kind (an I really mean really) pushy about things, telling me what to do, and would correct me all the time. Even told me to change my AIM icon b/c he didn't like it (i didn't, and I told him I wasn't, and he could get over it.) I am no longer talking to him. However, I have started talking to a few other guys who are a lot nicer, and aren't pushy, and are younger, 27 and 32. SO thank you to all the skeptics who voiced your concerns lol, it motivated me to check up on it.
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I'm glad you checked up on it and are now away from him before something happened. Good luck with the other guys!!
biguy732
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I just had a feeling about this situation - good for you for doing your homework first.
Glad to hear you did the research before things got bad. Sucks that despite seeming like what you wanted, he ended up being a jerk. You'll find much better out there and remember to always be careful and safe. 
In the future, it may not be as easy as googling the SOR. Go with your instincts, kiddo.
In the future, it may not be as easy as googling the SOR. Go with your instincts, kiddo.
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good going on checking him out. I usually check out the guys I fool around with as well just in case.
Yeah, unless they're hot and what you're looking for...
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The dick doesn't lie! My dick tells me I want to fuck older men. My dick thinks your opinion is worthless. No offense.
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HAHAHA GUYS stop the fightinggg I like guys my age, but I like older guys too, I don't go for guys my age much because they are usually too immature and drama-ridden I've found. I don't like fem gays in a sexual way and most of the time in a friend way. There are just not enough masc. gays my age for me to find one I actually click with.
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I find the same thing lrgcksck18. But I also find that they are too attached. Older men that I meet aren't like that. Plus older men get me more excited, where as younger guys dont. When I get older thats when ill like younger .
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