1st time! What do I do? and how!?

[Jo-thin]

hey guys,
me and my boyfriend have been dating since
a week before thanksgiving... so its been like 2/3 months now!

Well we have a sexual relationship doing oral and cock frotting.
We cock frot all the time... that's how we have sex, but we've thought
about anal like a week ago.
I'm honestly not into anal sex but for some reason I want to do it with
this guy! He said he's down with doing that, but I'm scared for
lots of reasons! Well I'm going to do him and he's smaller than me
as in height! (He's like to my chin) so he's a small guy, I'm afraid
I might hurt him! My size is 7 inches and I don't even know how
to even start by sticking it in there! We're both young and don't
know how! any advice?
as in what kind of lube, condoms, how deep do I go!? I just don't know!!
let me know everything!!!! plz!

btw
I'm not planning to get screwed!

 

[boredman321]

condom and lube are preference as long as the lube dosent deteriorate the condom... most lubes will say NOT LATEX/CONDOM FRIENDLY or something like that on the bottle... as for how deep, thats more of a comfort thing, most guys tend to go all the way in.... if things dont work out the first time, dont be discouraged and try again.... most people start with fingers to loosen the other guy up, or you could use a dildo if you have one handy.... communication is key, make sure hes comfortable, anal sex wont feel pleasant for the for 5 minutes or so, but if you go slow, it shouldn't hurt either ...on top of everything have fun!

 

[KaraBulut]

It's a commonly asked question.

There are a couple of earlier threads you might check out:

My First Time

Topped for the first time aaaand...

 

[Bamaboi200384]

Make sure...most importantly...that you are ready. Dont do something you will regret later down the road. Make sure you are 100% ready to it. And like everyone said...CONDOMs, lots of lube and take it nice and easy....at first.

 

[Caaake]

Go slow and gentle. play nice, and let us know how it went!

 

[Jo-thin]

alright!!!
Thanks guys....!
we're gonna give it a shot!
as soon as we get the right things for it! hahaha

 

[Jo-thin]

I guess It didn't go bad but it hurt him a lot!
Is it true there's 2 holes inside the anal?

He said it felt good but when he jacked himself off but it was mostly painful than pleasurable!

 

[KaraBulut]

I guess It didn't go bad but it hurt him a lot!
Is it true there's 2 holes inside the anal?

Not two holes but there are two bands of muscle called sphincters. The outer sphincter you can see and is what most people refer to when they say "butthole". About an inch further inside is a second sphincter.

The two sphincters explains why sometimes during anal sex you are able to get inside but then you feel more resistance like your penis is bumping up against something. That "something" is the internal sphincter.

The reason that we recommend that the top use a lubed finger or a small toy to "prep" the bottom is that it takes some preparation and training for an inexperienced bottom to learn to relax the internal sphincter.