21, Bi and fucked for the first time.

[BostonPirate]

you probably tense up less when you are in control. Try trusting him more and not squeezing when he's inside you.

 

[jizzinmypants]

you probably tense up less when you are in control. Try trusting him more and not squeezing when he's inside you.

Wow I didn't think about that. Good advice. I thought I was relaxed but maybe not.

 

[BostonPirate]

Wow I didn't think about that. Good advice. I thought I was relaxed but maybe not.

Being in control always relaxes you a bit when it comes to anal sex. Try doing what the guy said above with doggie style, but have your buddy stay still and you move back and forth to stroke him with your ass. See of that is another position you like with you in charge, so to speak. have him lean back and enjoy the ride.

Over time, you will learn how to not clench. Its the bodies natural response to having something in the spincter. Try to get your body to stop working against you.

 

[spunk-junky]

The bottom line (no pun intended) is practice. I have to agree with all the advice given here. They are right on.

 

[smoothoralbottom]

Pretty much what everybody here said. It most definitely takes practice. Try with a small dildo first to get your anal muscles used to being stretched and pried open a little. Soon enough, you'll "outgrow" that and want to go bigger. I went from a tiny dildo maybe 2" around to a big, fat cucumber as well as a buttplug that was 6" around. To me, a bigger toy just feels better. I've also been a lot more comfortable riding as well. No other position feels nearly as good as you being on top of him. Once you find your "spot", nothing feels better. You'll let yourself go, close your eyes and just moan in ecstasy. you'll be able to take him all the way in and enjoy every last inch he penetrates with you.

I'm so fucking horny now...

 

[Ninja108]

it will take pratice. PLus, you're also tense and not used to being the bottom.
It will get better in time

 

[versatileplayer]

Main thing is to relax. Just let that cock ease on into you. If you want it to be virtually painless, there are two muscles that you have to get passed when getting a dick into an ass....

Push the penis against the first one for about 10 seconds, and it will automatically relax. Then do the same with the second one, it will relax, then slowly slide it in - and it will stretch your hole open.

Also - make sure you're really "clear" - and then "push out" when he's going to go into you..... this will open your hole too - I have to do this if the guy has a really big dick - like anything over 8 or 9 -

I've taken some really big cocks with no pain at all - and I mean BIG - 12 inches and more.....

 

[smoothoralbottom]

Also - make sure you're really "clear" - and then "push out" when he's going to go into you..... this will open your hole too - I have to do this if the guy has a really big dick - like anything over 8 or 9 -

Right, you definitely have to push out as if you're "pooping". Sounds gross but it works, the best thing to do is douche or give yourself an enema beforehand.

 

[jizzinmypants]

Well let me just say that most of you were right. I got fucked again and have learned to enjoy it. I like being on top and I like doggystyle. There are some positions I don't like though. I think I have gotten the hang of relaxing while i'm being fucked. It still hurts the first time I stick it in though but that goes away and it starts to feel good. Also, I've made it a habit to squirt water up my ass beforehand to get rid any "debris".

Next on the agenda is to get my fuck buddy to stop calling my ass pussy.

 

[spunk-junky]

Jizz- I hate that too. I hate when guys call it pussy or man-pussy.