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24 year old finally coming out to my parents this week; here is the letter i'm sending them

ljghba1 said:
Well. My dad got home first. Read the letter and texted me. Said, " I love and accept you for who you are. Come home for dinner tomorrow night. Lets barbeque some steaks. And watch a ball game." Crying right now and still feels surreal. Mom hasnt read it yet. Is coming back home tomorrow.

My dad, the catholic, is an amazing dude. Ill update whenever my mom reads the letter.
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instant goosebumps on this post.

Your story is VERY recognisable to me. I didn't write a letter, but told my parents (in a very dramatic way :o ).

Both are very catholic, both responded very lovingly.

I thereafter told my bigger family and all were very accepting, even my religious grandparents...

I'm sure everything will work out for you. all the best!
 
ljghba1 said:
Thanks guys! Actually drove into the city and told some more friends. Everybody has been awesome. ive been walking in a dream state so to speak. My dads been texting me constantly throughout the night

talked to my dad about telling my mom. He just kept reassuring me. Hes gonna be there and said hes got my back.

Im very lucky. One thing I didnt mention. My dad is a former cop and military guy.

Im very lucky.
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May your lucky streak continue!
 
Mom came back. My dad had spilled the beans to soften it a bit since she has had a bad day. Just said dad told me hugged me said I love you. Read the letter, was very emotional, talked for over an hour about past boyfriends, what I dig in a guy, gay marriage rights and pretty much everything you can think of. Acted like it was no big deal. Bout to grill out and drink some beer with them for the rest of the night. Pretty amazing past two days. Lots of crying and laughter.
 
Hooray!!! :) Parents being parents! Now, you're really on your way!
 
OMG ... I am so envious! I am going to be 31 this December, and my devoutly Catholic mother is still convincing herself that I am merely JUST going through a phase. The rest of the family and my friends accept me, but I know how it is to want a mother's love.

I don't say "need" because I have an adopted son that is prospering so without it, despite a few attempts, and her attempt to extort me for money, lol. In a perfect world, this chat room wouldn't be such a welcome necessity.
 
my mom actually showed me the diane keaton clip in the family stone. And said I always knew. Then called her best friend whose brother is gay. They want to throw me a coming out party. That is too much for me right now. Told her about how im a "bear." She started cracking up about the terminology. Kept saying you better bring a boyfriend home soon. Lol.

To those struggling with parents. Keep trying to show them, that is all u can do. Be true to yourself and true to them.

I showed my mom a bunch of stuff to kind of explain what ive been through and who I am. She loved every second of it because she always wanted to know what ive been through and who I am and what I am about.

Dad and I are going for a man weekend tomorrow. Camping and hiking and whiskey. Ive never once felt like I wasnt normal around them since ive told them.
 
OMG!!! I am so envious of you! At the ripe old age of 30, my mom is still dillusionally convincing herself that I am merely just going through a phase, but what else do you expect when one has right-wing Republican parents?


ljghba1 said:
my mom actually showed me the diane keaton clip in the family stone. And said I always knew. Then called her best friend whose brother is gay. They want to throw me a coming out party. That is too much for me right now. Told her about how im a "bear." She started cracking up about the terminology. Kept saying you better bring a boyfriend home soon. Lol.

To those struggling with parents. Keep trying to show them, that is all u can do. Be true to yourself and true to them.

I showed my mom a bunch of stuff to kind of explain what ive been through and who I am. She loved every second of it because she always wanted to know what ive been through and who I am and what I am about.

Dad and I are going for a man weekend tomorrow. Camping and hiking and whiskey. Ive never once felt like I wasnt normal around them since ive told them.
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Not often do I read a whole post when I realize that it's more than a 2 minute read, as I am a fairly slow reader. That was an extremely beautiful letter that put a smile on my face. I think that such a letter would make even Fred Phelps accept a gay relative. That being said, It also made my day. I am a sucker for happy endings, especially when they are real. I am truly happy for you, and your family. Having a gay son should be a blessing, it's something that isn't as common. You get to separate yourself from the norm in many beautiful ways, as long as the family accepts it, which yours did. I hope the future holds many bright and wonderful things for you and your family :)
 
ljghba1 said:
my mom actually showed me the diane keaton clip in the family stone. And said I always knew. Then called her best friend whose brother is gay. They want to throw me a coming out party. That is too much for me right now. Told her about how im a "bear." She started cracking up about the terminology. Kept saying you better bring a boyfriend home soon. Lol.

To those struggling with parents. Keep trying to show them, that is all u can do. Be true to yourself and true to them.

I showed my mom a bunch of stuff to kind of explain what ive been through and who I am. She loved every second of it because she always wanted to know what ive been through and who I am and what I am about.

Dad and I are going for a man weekend tomorrow. Camping and hiking and whiskey. Ive never once felt like I wasnt normal around them since ive told them.
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That is wonderful news! You truly are blessed with amazing and accepting parents. I'm sure this will lead to many great times now that you are out to them. :)
 
Mothers just want to have grand kids immediately. They hardly care about the situation- lol.
 
Good for you! That is terrific and I am so happy to hear that your parents were supportive, understanding, and loving. Congrats man!!
 
thought i would bump this thread. thanks to everyone who posted in here.

crazy how time flies and how quickly things come together, but i found this very special, kind man. i feel very lucky. been dating for the past 6 months and i'm the happiest i've ever been in my life.

i posted this in the bears subsection but i'm the guy on the left.

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i'll also add that i came out to everyone in my family. Both sisters were extremely supportive. my middle sister cried her eyes out because she was so sorry and gave me a big hug and told me how much she loved me. told her husband and he treated me like his little brother the next time i saw him. no change whatsoever. my parents were thrilled. oldest sister just cracked jokes, same old same old.

I came out to my extended family which was the hardest. they are deeply religious and some have said very homophobic things in the past. one of my cousins (the liberal one) stood up and hugged my mom and said "your son is a wonderful man and i'm so happy you guys told us" my other cousin and aunt and uncle said nothing. My dad got his badass face on and said "if anybody has a problem with this, you can go fuck yourself" verbatim. i almost busted out laughing. although after all this happened i can see a difference in the way they treat me but i'm not bothered by it. it's all they see is that i'm gay. my dad has really been a rock through all of this. and my parents treat my guy just like both of my sisters husbands.
 
Good for you! It's nice to hear something good happening. I hope things keep going for you as it is now. :)
 
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