To all those that are saying "just get out of the house" or "ofcourse you haven't had a boyfriend, you never leave the house, so just go out" (or sumthing along those lines) you obviously are making those comments out of ignorance.
I say this because from reading the OP's 1st message I have a feeling you may have some sort of anxiety disorder, Agoraphobia, Social Anxiety etc Ofcourse their is a major possibility you dont because i am just determining this from literaly less than 5 lines of text but it is possible.
So in the case that this is an anxiety disorder, for some one to say "just get out of the house" is not only ignorant but also patronising. Imagine what you have a fear of or difficulty with, be it heights, spiders etc......just go look over the edge of the cliff, just go sit in that room full of spiders! Can you see how ignorant & unintelligent that is to say? I suppose you say to a smoker, "just quit smoking" ?
At the OP & georgeeadsfan; Far be it for me to say this & I think it is silly to diagnose or assume you guys may have some sort of anxiety disorder, but from someone who has had severe social anxiety, there are alot of similar attribute/"symptioms" of someone with an anxiety disorder so it may be a good idea to just google Social Anxiety or Agoraphobia but also consider visiting a GP (ur local doctor).
I never wanted to leave the house because I equated social interaction with substantial discomfort and causing a high degree of stress & anxiety that could be avoided simply by elimating social interaction from my life. It started by reducing the not going out as much with friends, breaking off friendships, doing big shops at the grocery store so I only have to go once a month, to essentially becoming a recluse where I identify the outside world as representing incredible stress + anxiety. This is where you become depressed, develop low self esteem + low self worth.
For the OP you most certainly would not have this disorder & someone could never determine whether you do from a few lines of text but for georgeeadsfan everything you have described is pretty close to what I had.
I say this because from reading the OP's 1st message I have a feeling you may have some sort of anxiety disorder, Agoraphobia, Social Anxiety etc Ofcourse their is a major possibility you dont because i am just determining this from literaly less than 5 lines of text but it is possible.
So in the case that this is an anxiety disorder, for some one to say "just get out of the house" is not only ignorant but also patronising. Imagine what you have a fear of or difficulty with, be it heights, spiders etc......just go look over the edge of the cliff, just go sit in that room full of spiders! Can you see how ignorant & unintelligent that is to say? I suppose you say to a smoker, "just quit smoking" ?

If this makes you feel any better, I am 27 and I have never had a boyfriend. Maybe a question anybody should be asking is: "Why?", "Why do you not leave your house, ever?" I wish that I never had to leave my house ever. But I have a job. And I have met people at my place of work who I never talk to because I think that they are too good for me/won't be interested in me. I don't go to gay clubs ever. I am sorry this is supposed to be about you not me. The only thing that I can suggest to do is go out that is the first step. Go out and see what is out there. You may be surprised. I also go out sometimes to town to buy things. I see people then and I can't talk to them either. But you have to find the courage to speak to people (like I don't). Sorry for not helping much. Or at all.
At the OP & georgeeadsfan; Far be it for me to say this & I think it is silly to diagnose or assume you guys may have some sort of anxiety disorder, but from someone who has had severe social anxiety, there are alot of similar attribute/"symptioms" of someone with an anxiety disorder so it may be a good idea to just google Social Anxiety or Agoraphobia but also consider visiting a GP (ur local doctor).
I never wanted to leave the house because I equated social interaction with substantial discomfort and causing a high degree of stress & anxiety that could be avoided simply by elimating social interaction from my life. It started by reducing the not going out as much with friends, breaking off friendships, doing big shops at the grocery store so I only have to go once a month, to essentially becoming a recluse where I identify the outside world as representing incredible stress + anxiety. This is where you become depressed, develop low self esteem + low self worth.
For the OP you most certainly would not have this disorder & someone could never determine whether you do from a few lines of text but for georgeeadsfan everything you have described is pretty close to what I had.




















