Alright this is kind of a complicated situation, hopefully you guys can give me some good advice and help me out...
See, I've been working with this guy for months now, there actually wasn't much of an attraction at first but over time I started to like him. I'd say I've been really into him for about two or three months. Now here's the first thing where it gets complicated, I actually have a boyfriend, one who I've been with for nearly four years and I love with all my heart. Never in this four years of us being together have I ever thought about or even looked at another guy until this one who I'm working with now. I don't really think cheat on my boyfriend or anything and I kno the best thing to do for my relationship would be to leave the situation alone but it's just something about this guy that I can't stop feeling.
Now here's the other thing, I'm actually not really sure if my "work-friend" is gay. He constantly talks about how much he loves girls pussy and getting head from females and things like that but he also does alot of things that makes me thing he may be bi or maybe just very curious and liking me. For instance, every single day at work it seems he goes out of his way to pick with and say things to me, sometimes just playful things such as throwing stuff, or messing up what I'm working on, knocking my things over, bumping me, making little smart comments, just very picky things like that. Of course I do all these things back because I really like him, also a few people who work with me kno about this and when they view things like this they tell us to stop flirting to which he just laughs off. He also asks me questions about my sexuality constantly, to a point where it really seems like he's interested, as it doesn't stop and it's usually really in detail. But he always seems to brush it off after a while by saying something like "I'd never do that shit, how can you not mess with a female, that's nasty" and your typical "straight" homophobe comments like that which I'm sure you've all heard.
Now, I'm actually leaving this job. Wednesday wil actually be my last day as I've found a better one. I've been picking with him saying little things like "I kno how much you're gonna miss me" and "I'm sure you'll be bored and crying every day" for the past week or so to which he just laughs and says something smart that makes it seems like he'll be glad and what not. We get along really well and I really wanna keep talking to him as I think I'm catching feelings but the thing is I'm just so scared to flat out say how I like him and would like to mess with him because I don't kno for sure if he's gay or curious or whatever. I mean, I say little sexual things, and he has too, one comment which really stands out was when he told me he'd "tear it up and have me crying to mama" if I was with him, which actually left me speechless, lol. It's just so frustrating because it's like one minute he's into me and constantly flirting and what not then the next he's saying how he would never and how he loves girls. In a way I look at it like what do I have to loose it's my last few days and if he says no I won't see him as much (but I will be in there often if we continue) so what difference would it make but on the other hand I'm just so scared of the reaction, it just seems like a really delicate situation. I just wish he'd go ahead and make a move but I honestly don't think he's the type to make the first move especially being that it's something he's not used to.
I've though about asking for his number on my last day or something but I really don't kno how to go about it or anything. I'm not sure if he knows I like him or not, if not then something wrong as I constantly throw out hints, especially when we flirt back and forth but who knows. I just really need some advice you guys, WHAT SHOULD I DO?
See, I've been working with this guy for months now, there actually wasn't much of an attraction at first but over time I started to like him. I'd say I've been really into him for about two or three months. Now here's the first thing where it gets complicated, I actually have a boyfriend, one who I've been with for nearly four years and I love with all my heart. Never in this four years of us being together have I ever thought about or even looked at another guy until this one who I'm working with now. I don't really think cheat on my boyfriend or anything and I kno the best thing to do for my relationship would be to leave the situation alone but it's just something about this guy that I can't stop feeling.
Now here's the other thing, I'm actually not really sure if my "work-friend" is gay. He constantly talks about how much he loves girls pussy and getting head from females and things like that but he also does alot of things that makes me thing he may be bi or maybe just very curious and liking me. For instance, every single day at work it seems he goes out of his way to pick with and say things to me, sometimes just playful things such as throwing stuff, or messing up what I'm working on, knocking my things over, bumping me, making little smart comments, just very picky things like that. Of course I do all these things back because I really like him, also a few people who work with me kno about this and when they view things like this they tell us to stop flirting to which he just laughs off. He also asks me questions about my sexuality constantly, to a point where it really seems like he's interested, as it doesn't stop and it's usually really in detail. But he always seems to brush it off after a while by saying something like "I'd never do that shit, how can you not mess with a female, that's nasty" and your typical "straight" homophobe comments like that which I'm sure you've all heard.
Now, I'm actually leaving this job. Wednesday wil actually be my last day as I've found a better one. I've been picking with him saying little things like "I kno how much you're gonna miss me" and "I'm sure you'll be bored and crying every day" for the past week or so to which he just laughs and says something smart that makes it seems like he'll be glad and what not. We get along really well and I really wanna keep talking to him as I think I'm catching feelings but the thing is I'm just so scared to flat out say how I like him and would like to mess with him because I don't kno for sure if he's gay or curious or whatever. I mean, I say little sexual things, and he has too, one comment which really stands out was when he told me he'd "tear it up and have me crying to mama" if I was with him, which actually left me speechless, lol. It's just so frustrating because it's like one minute he's into me and constantly flirting and what not then the next he's saying how he would never and how he loves girls. In a way I look at it like what do I have to loose it's my last few days and if he says no I won't see him as much (but I will be in there often if we continue) so what difference would it make but on the other hand I'm just so scared of the reaction, it just seems like a really delicate situation. I just wish he'd go ahead and make a move but I honestly don't think he's the type to make the first move especially being that it's something he's not used to.
I've though about asking for his number on my last day or something but I really don't kno how to go about it or anything. I'm not sure if he knows I like him or not, if not then something wrong as I constantly throw out hints, especially when we flirt back and forth but who knows. I just really need some advice you guys, WHAT SHOULD I DO?
