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3some with my current bf and my ex....

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Well basically my bf and I have discussed this many a time. We've been together now 14 months. The other day he met my ex who I went out with 2 years ago, they got on pretty well and there was no jelousy at all. Infact i'm pretty good friends with my ex :) and my bf liked him. So the topic of 3somes came up again the other night and we discussed that we should have one to get it out our system to experiment etc. Our only problem in the past is that we both dont want to mess up what we've got. However I feel we're very open! We'l discuss the hotness of guys a lot we're just like best friends more so at times than lovers! :) So with that in mind we finally both agreed that we'd like to try one, well atleast with boundaries... such as us two pleasuring the guy or vise versa... We talked about who we would pick and he mentioned my ex :) now at first I thought surely he would be jelous? but he assures me he wont be and he trusts me enough, it was a mutual split up between my ex and i and it didnt really mean anything in comparison to my current relationship.

So do you think this is the right decision? I spoke to my bf and I trust him too and we're both deffinatly game and so is my ex, he even offered when i mentioned we were considering it. Any thoughts would be appreciated. I just need someone to talk to other than my bf about this... :)
 
I've spoken to quite a few couples who tried to "open" their relationship up, or to do a threesome. Very, very few people make it work; it destroys most relationships.

If you think it will work for you, proceed with caution.
 
Maybe instead of the threesome with your ex, you could just put several highly venomous spiders in your underwear. It would be just as much fun for a lot less work.
 
It honestly sounds like a plot to some gay porno.

And gay porn plots don't really turn out well in real life.
 
Just three words of advice.....

forget about it.....

(no jokes intended...)
 
I know a guy named Toby who had a boyfriend. A friend came to visit from California. Toby, his BF and Mr. Cali had a 3-some. He told me all the hot details the next day. Things like having two cocks in his ass was the awesomest thing he'd ever experienced. Two, yes two, days later his boyfriend kicked him out and Mr. Cali had gone home. Relationship destoryed for one night of good sex.
 
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you've got to be kidding.!

how old are the three of you?

what will/would you do if your b/f and your ex really hit it off?

i assume at least one of you is attending college?

i think the two of you - you and your b/f should see a therapist and really discuss what relationships mean and what they require.

a book i suggest you take a look at "Break Up or Breakthrough" -Dr. Dina Evan - a guide to richergay and lesbian relationships.

as long as you have possed idea, i think it would be nice if you kept us posted on what you decide to do - what happens(i think this is one case where people should have the details of what took place, given what you have alreeady posted) - and how everyone is handling things after what ever decision (or actions) you have made.

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Are you serious? *I* would be the one worried. Your ex is over you, you're the old thing from his past, but your boyfriend is the NEW thing. I would be very afraid that both of them really liked each other. You would never know dude.

Just don't play with fire, this is a horrible idea and I'm glad everyone is telling you so. If you really feel the need to have a 3some then do it with someone you both don't know and will never see again.
 
Ahh thanks guys... I kinda knew i'd get a pretty bad response, i understand and appreciate the advice. Gonna have another long talk with my bf about it... It's made me think it probably won't happen again. I'm guessing a 3some should be kept more fantasy based then?
 
I had 3somes with my ex quite a few times. But it was always people we didn't know. On a couple of occasions we hooked up with people we did know but they weren't close so it wasn't a big deal (although after we broke up he tried to get in contact with the guy I knew who had a 3some with us, and that kinda bothered me).

I think it is possible to live the fantasy but it is a horrible idea to do it with people you know, specially with ex boyfriends.
 
The only way I see this ending, is the two of them end up together, and you posting 'bitch' threads here complaining that the BF left you for your EX.

Haven't been there, but seen it happen enough times.

... and if the BF is already eye-ing the EX, I would seriously be worried.
 
ever thrown a match into a gasoline pit?
That's basically what you're doing here. Nothing and I mean NOTHING good can come out of this.
 
penispleasure said:
Ahh thanks guys... I kinda knew i'd get a pretty bad response, i understand and appreciate the advice. Gonna have another long talk with my bf about it... It's made me think it probably won't happen again. I'm guessing a 3some should be kept more fantasy based then?
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There's a potential for things to go south in many different ways. Sure you could come out of this unscathed and with your relationship intact, but you may not. Ultimately you have to weigh this.

As far as keeping a threesome fantasy based, I don't think it would be as much of an issue if it was with someone you both didn't know.

That said, I can so understand how tempting this threesome would be. I wouldn't mind having a threesome with my boyfriend and one of his friends, but I know that would be a horrible idea, so it has to be kept a fantasy.
 
The only way it will work is if there is an amount of uncaring. Both you and your boyfriend have to not care about this. Most people use sex to concrete the a relationship. If your relationship isn't dependent on the sex to function, it is possible.

All that aside, it's the trust most everyone can't give. They can shout all day long that they trust their partner, as long as the partner isn't going to try that trust. :)
 
I say go for it. You and your current bf have discussed it and realize what you're getting into. Your ex is still a friend after quite a while of your being apart...and it hasn't come between you and your current bf. I don't think it will afterwards either.

I agree with what fetaby said above...keep emotions out of it...it's just sex. I'd also make sure that equal attention is placed on everyone...so no one is left holding their own. Keep kissing of the ex to a minimum...kissing to me is more intimate than sex. You may also want to establish a code word with your current bf that if either of you are uncomfortable with how things are progressing you'll switch things up.

I'm not into 3somes...but I have often had sex that did not involve any romantic feelings...it was just fun sex. Go into with that attitude and you'll be fine.
 
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