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4.5" penis insecurity

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I was messing around with a guy, I'm 4.5" and 5'3" tall (most of the times it's ~4, 4.5 if I'm really horny, 4.75" if I'm REALLY horny), he was 7.5". He didn't say anything at first but when we were lying around, he said "it's so little", and later when I asked if he had any condoms to fuck him, he said he did but he didn't know if they would fit me -_- He was kissing me aggressively but I was just letting him deep tongue me instead of reciprocating like earlier... He later asked if he was mean, and I just rolled over in a fetal position lol. We did cum later but I still think about it...

Any advice? I've been with 6 guys, he's the first out of six that's been mean about it. This other hottie giggled when I asked him how long his was (7), and I commented on it vs mine, but I didn't take his giggle seriously.

BTW, we're both in the closet, and he said something about how he likes eating pussy and wished he was straight instead of bi lol so that's why I posted here lol

FWIW, we sucked, jacked, fought swords, kissed, spoon, cuddled.
 
The only problem with condom fitting, might be if you lack girth, but in terms of length, you should be fine. You don't really seem that small. Maybe only about half an inch or so below the general average.

There's a poll here with several people of similar size.
http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=360213

But you generally seem to be managing fine with what you've got, so there's probably nothing to be insecure about.
 
Reminds me of the old, Rodney Dangerfield joke. It was something like the following:

The first time I had sex with my wife, she told me to give her 8" and make it hurt. So I fucked her twice and slapped her.
 
I've had great 10", terrible 9", amazing 4.5", awful 6" and anything in between.

Point is, you really have nothing to worry about. If you know how to use it, 4,5" is a good size. :)
 
I'm a 4.5 too, I only had one sexual experience and the guy seems cool about it. I guess me being a bottom doesn't matter that much.
 
the guy sounds like a GIANT jackass. I would have gotten dressed and left. If it's too small for him, he can go find someone that's bigger. You can't change your size. Those pills are a fraud and the surgeries cause more harm than good.

Stop worrying about your size and work on the type of people you are choosing to be with. obviously their rude, self centered and only care about themselves. Where are you meeting them? Most guys could care less about the size of your dick and just want to have fun.

just be yourself and have fun. if the guy your with insults you, leave. they don't deserve to be with you.

Steven.
 
Well, I have 4.5" so I know what you're feeling. Some guys like bigger dicks, some guys like smaller dicks, and other guys just like dick :p
 
craigslist, sketchy I know... He's hot, I think a little unaware of what comes out of his mouth... It was a fun hot time mostly. I don't know if I should confront him, or just give him one more chance. He did realize he was annoying me since he asked about it I guess. Then again, sometimes people ask if they are being cruelly/manipulatively.
 
Thing is most guys who have large cocks have no clue what it feels like to have a dick smaller than 5 inches. Their words are very mean, cause that's like telling someone they're fat. I would just stop talking to this guy, cause what he said to you is a definite deal breaker. Doesn't matter if he's hot, don't let that asshole make fun of you.
 
Let the comment and the guy go and I'd prefer small to large any day.
 
Charmander said:
craigslist, sketchy I know... He's hot, I think a little unaware of what comes out of his mouth... It was a fun hot time mostly. I don't know if I should confront him, or just give him one more chance. He did realize he was annoying me since he asked about it I guess. Then again, sometimes people ask if they are being cruelly/manipulatively.
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I've done the craigslist thing myself. hey, everyone gets horny right. you keep saying "he's hot". being hot doesn't excuse his behavior. I dated an abercrombie model. trust me, he was hot too but I wouldn't have let him make me feel bad about myself.

It's up to you if you give him another chance or not. I'd definitely let him know that what he did wasn't funny and really hurt your feelings. If he apologizes for it then I'd probably give him another chance. If he down plays it or isn't sincere with what he says I'd tell him to go pound sand. being hot doesn't give him the license to be mean. If your good looking enough to get with this uber hot guy you will be able to find another one that will treat you better.

Steven.
 
im not hung, but im not small either at around 6.5, so maybe thats why i dont get insecurity over cock size, but even still, ive been with like 4.5s, 5, etc, and its never prevented me from enjoying the guy.

ok, so what everyone who's insecure secretely wants admitted: im not gonna lie, a big cock IS a turn on. it can be like 'wow!' but honestly, like... who cares? if ur 4.5 then whatever, you can still satisfy me just as well as the other guy, and even if my jaw doesnt drop when i take your pants off (altho apparently sometimes it doesnt quite drop enough in some cases lol) doesnt mean im thinking 'omg small penis eewwww,' infact ive never really even thought about a smaller dick in the moment. or really even afterwards... like, who cares?

anyone that cares about the size of a cock enough for it to impact the quality of the sex is not someone you probably want to hook up with too often :p. for that reason ive just never really understood the dick insecurity. of course i guess i have some weird insecurities myself so whatever :p. (like being naked around straight guys, or public urination lol)
 
I wouldn't worry about it. Penis size really doesn't matter much, at least not to me. My ex was on the smaller side of things and the guy I'm with is even bigger than I am, but in both cases it wasn't their dicks that attracted me anyway.
 
pai mei said:
im not hung, but im not small either at around 6.5, so maybe thats why i dont get insecurity over cock size, but even still, ive been with like 4.5s, 5, etc, and its never prevented me from enjoying the guy.

ok, so what everyone who's insecure secretely wants admitted: im not gonna lie, a big cock IS a turn on. it can be like 'wow!' but honestly, like... who cares? if ur 4.5 then whatever, you can still satisfy me just as well as the other guy, and even if my jaw doesnt drop when i take your pants off (altho apparently sometimes it doesnt quite drop enough in some cases lol) doesnt mean im thinking 'omg small penis eewwww,' infact ive never really even thought about a smaller dick in the moment. or really even afterwards... like, who cares?

anyone that cares about the size of a cock enough for it to impact the quality of the sex is not someone you probably want to hook up with too often :p. for that reason ive just never really understood the dick insecurity. of course i guess i have some weird insecurities myself so whatever :p. (like being naked around straight guys, or public urination lol)
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The thing that smaller guys need to realize is that, yes, while most guys find a big one a turn on, there are plenty of other turnons, like being good looking, or being a good kisser, or having a hot body, or a cool personality, or plenty of other things.

Most guys find having some muscle to be a turnon. I'm not very muscular, but I don't have a serious problem with that. Plenty of other things can be attractive.

And a smaller one doesn't have to be an issue either. I was with a guy who was 5 who was very confident and great at sex, and it was awesome to me (and he was the top).
 
I deleted his number from my phone. I have his email and I'll probably delete those, which have his email lying around. Not just cause he's a jerk, he also knows another guy I mess with, the other guy got upset when he found out. That's another day another thread though lol.
 
Charmander said:
I deleted his number from my phone. I have his email and I'll probably delete those, which have his email lying around. Not just cause he's a jerk, he also knows another guy I mess with, the other guy got upset when he found out. That's another day another thread though lol.
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Sounds like a great idea. your definitely doing the right thing.

First. Dont let the size of your penis upset you. believe me, your just fine. be confident and proud of it. instead of having a good time your worried about what the other guy is thinking about it. let that stuff go. you will have a lot more fun if your not focusing on it. most of the guys I've been with have been smaller than I am. NOT ONCE have I had a bad experience because of their penis size.

You ran into a jackass. it happens. don't let it ruin your sex life. turn it into a positive. You've learned that if it happens again to tell the guy to piss off, get dressed and leave. build a little self confidence and improve your self esteem. Theres NOTHING wrong with your penis. NOTHING.

Steven.(*8*)
 
This has only happened 1 out of 6 times, but I'll try the leaving thing if it happens again :)
 
Charmander said:
This has only happened 1 out of 6 times, but I'll try the leaving thing if it happens again :)
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It is definitely more about the quality than quantity.

He sounds like the kind of guy who measures his own worth by his penis size.

I would have just said 'Fuck You, Get Out' and then pushed him out of bed.
 
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