A different perspective -Str8 men & changing rooms

[hothunk222]

Re: A different perspective -Str8 men & changing r

Most of the content about changing rooms is about gay/bi men checking out straight men, which is great, but what about straight men, what does the changing room mean to you?

Do you feel insecure? Self conscious? Are you aware of men checking you out? Do you check out other guys and their packages. Does it creep you out when people stare? Or do you like it ? Or do you simply see a changing room as a changing room?

What are your thoughts?

Straight guys do sneak peeks at each other but only to see how they compare to other guys, it's normal.

 

[d1919v]

Re: A different perspective -Str8 men & changing r

well just to add my own two cents i was on the no. 6 train in new york yesterday, and was reading a book, and this guy sitting opposite from me was just blatantly staring at me. i just swallowed my harrow, which he noticed that he frightened me. so as far staring and checking out, there's a difference. i would say that it's NOT COOL to check someone out for far too long, when they obviously are not interested. as a gay man, i feel that i can say that honestly.

 

[hothunk222]

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I never said they didn't. I'm asking whether the changing room is seen differently from a gay mans perspective to that of a straight mans?

What's it like to be a straight man in a changing room?

I think they just see it as a place to shower and change clothing and maybe if you are in team sports a place to bond a little with your fellow teammates, nothing more.

 

[Storybook_Man]

Re: A different perspective -Str8 men & changing r

I never said they didn't. I'm asking whether the changing room is seen differently from a gay mans perspective to that of a straight mans?

What's it like to be a straight man in a changing room?

The fact that gay men like men and straight men like women ... Not saying gay men only go to these places for that, but they sure look..


I agree with hothunk

 

[eoinfc18]

Re: A different perspective -Str8 men & changing r

hey im straight and i luv to check out other guys in changing rooms. Its nice to let ur imagination run wild for a while

 

[shotgun17]

Re: A different perspective -Str8 men & changing r

hey im straight and i luv to check out other guys in changing rooms. Its nice to let ur imagination run wild for a while

sure you'r like the many ones who say their str8 here.

 

[Ninjitsu]

Re: A different perspective -Str8 men & changing r

Unless I have to hit the gym before going to work, I typically try to avoid the locker room.

I have been in situations where there were naked men in the locker room, though. But typically at my gym, the locker room is usually empty. When there are a few guys there talking amongst themselves, it's not really that super-big of a deal to get in there, change, and get out. After all, the room is there so you can be naked for a time. It's when there's only one other guy in the room that I feel most uncomfortable. I've only been in that particular situation once, and it was just very weird -- especially with him being a saggy older guy. I just averted my eyes and keep concentration on getting my stuff together (since I already had changed).

So in a typical changing room setting, I don't look at anyone, and I keep to my own business. I am a bit self conscious about myself, and being naked in the company of other naked strangers is just . . . weird.

So if other guys check me out, I don't notice. And frankly, I'd rather remain naively unaware of it. But if I had my choice, I'd rather either be completely alone, or in the company of a small group.

 

[Ninjitsu]

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See, I can people-watch at the beach. But when you're standing naked in a room full of naked people with no desire for sex [with men], it's weird. I'm not a free spirit or exhibitionist.

 

[Johnny Yen]

Re: A different perspective -Str8 men & changing r

I'd venture to guess that straight men admire the human body regardless of its sex. Body building is sport where men of all persuasions regularly compare themselves with one another. That fact that a man admires the appearance of another man is no indication of sexual desire.

This might be hard for some gay men to understand as they desire men for more complex reasons.

 

[kingkhan]

Re: A different perspective -Str8 men & changing r

As someone who is bi or hetero flexible I would be uncomfortable with guys checking me out in a changing room becuase, if I thought about sex with most guys I would be disgusted and str8 guys who don't enjoy anything sexual with guys would probably be creeped out.

 

[voyager1994]

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i admit i do check out men in the change/locker room only because they have a great body as a result of working out. i mean i'm not interested to look if the guy is out of shape or skinny even if he is good looking. you can't help but notice or appreciate how much work those men have put in to have sexy abs or nice biceps or sexy chest. but do i know if the guy is straight, bi or gay? i don't, and it doesn't really matter. of course, when i look, i do it discretely so i won't make him uncomfortable let alone embarrass myself.

 

[blackbeltninja]

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^Agreed.

I always feel bad if someone notices me checking him out, since that's not what either of us are at the gym for (theoretically) and I don't want to make anyone feel uncomfortable about being there.

-d-

 

[blackbeltninja]

Re: A different perspective -Str8 men & changing r

how does everyone (gay/straight/bi) feel when they're in the changing rooms?

It used to bug me, getting undressed in public, but I took my own advice and did it for a week and got over it. Now I'm fine with it.

I usually don't care if anyone sees me naked. Occasionally I meet someone I know there and I feel reluctant, but only for a bit. Likewise if the dude next to me drops trou and is sporting a monster, it always makes me a little self-conscious. I will occasionally engage others in conversation, provided they don't have that deer-in-the-headlights look about them - as I said, I don't want to make anyone feel uncomfortable in there.

So yeah - I'm down with it. I'm flattered if people look - I don't do the changing-under-a-towel gymnastics and contortions, but I'm not the guy who wanders around for hours at a time with his cock out, either.

-d-

 

[percy]

Re: A different perspective -Str8 men & changing r

Straight men do look at each other and compare. As others say it is natural to compare.

If you talk to straight women they will also tell you the same. They are more likely to be open about comparing boobs and bums then bitching about each other.

If you listen to a bunch of straight guys who play sport together you will often hear them talking about other members of the team. Things are said like xxx is hung like a horse or yyy
has a tiny cock, zzz has a big pair of balls ect. They will also joke about other things to do with their mates such as hairy or bald chests. The difference is that it is non-sexual whereas a gay guy will be looking at other men in a sexual way. The straight guys look can be compared to a gay man looking at a girl thinking she is pretty but not having any sence of arousal.

Each straight man will have different emotions to being eyed up. Some blokes will spend time flaunting their body because they are exibitionists and like the attention. They probably secretly like being eyed up but thats as far as it goes. Other guys, those who just shower,dry and get dressed, are more likely to be freaked out if they think they are being eyed up. Some straight guys will get nasty as they find it intimidating being fancied by a man and think it might turn them gay.
One question. Do truly straight guys ever pop a stiffy in the changing room?

 

[D_Pipa]

Re: A different perspective -Str8 men & changing r

straight, gay, bi... doesnt matter. if someone is uncomfortable with someone else checking him out, he just got a low self esteem.

i go naked and i dont mind if people check me out ha

 

[moniker]

Re: A different perspective -Str8 men & changing r

The thing that amazes me is when I'm in the shower room with a couple of gorgeous young dudes is how they completely ignore each other! Of course, they're straight - that explains it, but on an emotional level I find it impossible to credit. I also find it to be very exciting. Also exciting is when I see some withered old guy in his 80's next to a young guy. So democratic!

 

[boxerdudeuk]

Re: A different perspective -Str8 men & changing r

hey im straight and i luv to check out other guys in changing rooms. Its nice to let ur imagination run wild for a while

straight men "let their imagination run wild" thinking about other men exactly as often as gay men think about playing around with women.

so, not really often.

 

[Ninjitsu]

Re: A different perspective -Str8 men & changing r

The thing that amazes me is when I'm in the shower room with a couple of gorgeous young dudes is how they completely ignore each other!

Yeah, that sounds about right. The only people who seem to chat with each other are guys who know each other. Strangers usually just get in, do their business, and get out.

I don't go into changing rooms to compare or "appreciate" anything. I understand how it works; and back in my high school days, it was a bit less of an uptight situation. But staring at complete strangers while you're naked in a room together for any reason? I think this transcends sexuality, and those who are attracted to guys and/or are aroused would be the ones who really "appreciate". The average introverted person -- gay, bi, or straight -- would probably do exactly what I quoted from Moniker.

 

[rickston69]

Re: A different perspective -Str8 men & changing r

Straight men do look at each other and compare. As others say it is natural to compare.

If you talk to straight women they will also tell you the same. They are more likely to be open about comparing boobs and bums then bitching about each other.

If you listen to a bunch of straight guys who play sport together you will often hear them talking about other members of the team. Things are said like xxx is hung like a horse or yyy
has a tiny cock, zzz has a big pair of balls ect. They will also joke about other things to do with their mates such as hairy or bald chests. The difference is that it is non-sexual whereas a gay guy will be looking at other men in a sexual way. The straight guys look can be compared to a gay man looking at a girl thinking she is pretty but not having any sence of arousal.

Each straight man will have different emotions to being eyed up. Some blokes will spend time flaunting their body because they are exibitionists and like the attention. They probably secretly like being eyed up but thats as far as it goes. Other guys, those who just shower,dry and get dressed, are more likely to be freaked out if they think they are being eyed up. Some straight guys will get nasty as they find it intimidating being fancied by a man and think it might turn them gay.
One question. Do truly straight guys ever pop a stiffy in the changing room?

I cannot agree with the statement that a gay man will be looking at another man in a sexual way [in a locker room]. As a gay man, I can certainly admire another man's (as well as a woman's) fit & toned body in a non-sexual way. I'm not saying that I've never looked at another guy in a sexual manner but if I can determine they are straight, it's easy for me to switch it off. Unfortunately there are a lot of straight men out there that have that very fear - a gay man looking at them is having some sexual fantasy about them and they get all weirded out when it may not even be the case. I've been in locker rooms with guys that go from one extreme to the other - ones that walk around strutting their stuff to the ones that nearly break their necks trying to change clothes and get out ASAP. Usually the latter of the two have nothing to be concerned about so it always makes me chuckle to see their extreme behavior! I've also noticed men that have a nice tight body - gay or straight - that enjoy being seen. Hell if they've worked that hard on getting that fit body, why not show it off!

 

[moniker]

Re: A different perspective -Str8 men & changing r

I've always wondered about the "comparison" thing. How can they truly "compare" each other if they are soft? It seems like a valid comparison would only be when they are both hard.

True, but...the soft state and the hard state should be considered separately even though people are aware that a cock can either grow a little or grow a lot. After all, straight guys only see their friends and other guys in the soft version; this is the only "face" they will ever present to the world.