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a friend told me its okay to have sex with a person HIV

technically it is safe, but there has been cases of torn rubber...so its a risk
 
I suppose its safe if you wear a rubber. If the rubber is torn, and you get infected, then there is still ARV drugs you can take to prevent gettin the disease. They must be taken within 24hrs after exposure and must be taken for a month after that. The drugs are no joke also, they are toxic to your body and your body will fight them.
 
Of course it's okay to have sex with an HIV+ person, but like everything else in life, nothing is 100% safe and there are always risks involved.

We are all in control of how safe we are during sex, it is up to us as an individual to put the safety measures into practice, and not to rely on our partner to take control.

Try here for some info first http://together.chapsonline.org.uk/Home/ and then have a look around the web for further information.

Hopefully, you'll end up being better educated and more compassionate than the 2nd and 5th posters!!!
 
This should probably make its way to a forum where it can be discussed without the ensuing flame that will inevitably result.


My thing is, I find it funny when an HIV+ person lives longer than all these people afraid of it they wind up dying from stress-related illnesses, heart disease, diabetes, alzheimers...man, ANYTHING can get you. Doesn't mean don't be careful, but it does mean that it's not a death sentence if you do have it/contract it. Just learn how to live safely and no obstacle can contain you. What's great about an HIV+ person is that he/she is a person, experiences pain, joy, sadness; they cook, clean, do dishes, work, eat, play...
 
I know a lot has been said and written about the safety in having sex with a person with HIV. But why would you do that??
So you can lie awake at night worring if you caught HIV??
So you can run the risk of infecting someone else??
So you can ruin your life??

It makes no sense to me ..... none what so ever.
Oh, and as far as the friend who told you it was ok, tell him to go have sex with the guy.
I have a lot of compassion for anyone who has contracted HIV, I would comfort and love them as I would anyone else, but I would not have sex with them.
 
I really find it quite offensive when other men immediately say NO to having sex with HIV+ men. I have been having fantastic great safe sex with my HIV+ partner for over 10 years and I have not been infected. How can we stop theis stigma attached to HIV when we can't even stop it amongst ourselves. A virus is a virus and does not make the person who has it any worse then someone who doesn't. They still have needs and feelings like the rest. Practice safe sex, don't be stupid. :mad:
 
billybob said:
I really find it quite offensive when other men immediately say NO to having sex with HIV+ men. I have been having fantastic great safe sex with my HIV+ partner for over 10 years and I have not been infected. How can we stop theis stigma attached to HIV when we can't even stop it amongst ourselves. A virus is a virus and does not make the person who has it any worse then someone who doesn't. They still have needs and feelings like the rest. Practice safe sex, don't be stupid. :mad:
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:=D: Well said. For a gay site, I'm amazed at the ignorance, attitudes and prejudices shown towards fellow members of our community - not just with regard to HIV/AIDS, but also with regard to bisexuality, our fetishes, racial and cultural differences.
 
westwood blues said:
I wouldn't be so offended by it if I was you. You must respect the autonomy of every person. Each person has the right to do with their bodies what they will. Personally, I would never have sex with a person known to be HIV+. I could have an HIV+ person as a friend, but sex with that person is out of the question for me.
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I will happily respect a person's decision provided it is based on rational reasoning. I find it offensive when the decision is based on ignorance, irrational fear or prejudice. As I said earlier, nowadays the only person in control of whether or not you become HIV+ is yourself.
 
billybob said:
I really find it quite offensive when other men immediately say NO to having sex with HIV+ men. I have been having fantastic great safe sex with my HIV+ partner for over 10 years and I have not been infected. How can we stop theis stigma attached to HIV when we can't even stop it amongst ourselves. A virus is a virus and does not make the person who has it any worse then someone who doesn't. They still have needs and feelings like the rest. Practice safe sex, don't be stupid. :mad:
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Very well said.
 
One question, how do you know that you haven't had sex with a person who is HIV+ already?

Having safe sex with someone who is HIV+ is just as risky as having safe sex with anyone, who you don't know their status, or they could lie to you through fear of rejection.

I have been HIV+ for the last 7 years, and have always been honest with people that i have been planning to be sexually active with, some people have turn me down through fear, and that their choice. Some including my current partner who i have been with for 4 years (and is still neg) realise that because they know my status they have taken extra precautions which has kept them safe.
 
I would like to also state that I ahev been with my hiv+ partner for 16 years and I am still negative, I can not understand how someone will discount a group of people just because they are poz, I assume you will also turn down a person with cancer or a diabetic??/ so sad that you could be missing out on some really great sex !
 
It is safe to have sex with someone who is hiv+ if you use protection. I learnt that when I started high school... I thought it was common knowledge....

the hiv-phobia here is really sickening.... especially for a gay site.
 
The state of mind by which someone would NOT have sex with a person who openly says he's poz but WILL have sex with any other Tom, Dick or Harry is called DENIAL.

In my experience, I can't recall anytime when any of my friends has told me that a discussion about HIV status came up between them & a potential playmate when out at the clubs. And when I still went out (partnered now), it was always ME who WAS instigating that discussion, because I felt the person had a right to know. As a previous poster said, there were many times I was rejected, but I knew I had done the right thing. But never ONCE was I EVER asked my HIV status by a potential playmate. So again, as I say, DENIAL.

Think about the last guy you hooked-up with. Did you know his status? Did the two of you even ask each other? If you did, how do you know he didn't lie? Or didn't know for sure, because he's never been tested, and is just PRESUMING (again, denial) he's neg.?? Do you seriously think you'll actually NEVER have sex with a poz guy? You already may have & didn't even know it...WHICH IS THE WHOLE REASON YOU'RE USING CONDOMS! And even if HIV weren't around, there's still a host of OTHER nasty diseases you can get.

Most in this thread need to pull their heads out of the sand and get a reality check. When it comes to HIV everyone should be presumed to be poz.
 
sb said:
the hiv-phobia here is really sickening.... especially for a gay site.
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For their own sake I hope they never get infected and get treated the way they are treating others right now. Being with an HIV + man has not hindered our lives in any way. It is just a fact of life and people need to get past the stigma and start living again!
 
lol at people defending it. if you want to take the risk then fine but *I* wouldnt advise it. i dont mess around with anybody with HIV, i care about their feelings and all that but i care more about ME and MY health
 
I would never ever have sex with someone who is infected with HIV.
 
how would you know they were if they didnt tell you? some people are born carriers and wouldnt necessary know they are positive
 
Let me rephrase :

I would never ever intentionally have sex with someone who is infected with HIV.
 
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