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A Guy I'm Confused About...

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Alright, I should preface this saying that I'm a 20 year old bi dude (course i like guys more tho) and i am nottt out at all. Now that that's out of the way, here's my rediculously long and complicated story...
SO!
I just moved to Chicago about a month ago for school and I met this guy.. we'll call him "Dan" for the hell of it, hah. "Dan" has a girlfriend and he is going to have a baby. I know this because 2 weeks after we met, he tells me that he has a baby on the way and i'm the firts person outside his immediate family to know...

so like 2 weeks ago his GF was out of town.. i went over his house to hang out. and idk it was so weird... because i'm not sure if he's into guys or not...he acts straight but he has his moments too..so it can be iffy. So, we were watching TV on his couch, leaning on eachother and idk, the whole thing felt much more than 'two guys hanging out'. It was Veryyyy flirty and we were looking into eachothers eyes for a good chunk of the night, just chatting and such. The entire time he was joking about gay stuff, etc etc

That night I slept over, him in his bed and me on the couch. The next morning came, he gave me a shirt to wear for class, said it looked great on me and off we left. I should also say we are both in this program where we have the same classes every day, Mon- Thurs.

We hung out around 2 more times after class, but we were mostly caught up in what we were doing for anything overtly sexual to happen. One day we played pool, another where we looked for engagement rings for his GF at the mall...

This past monday I slept over his house once again (he asked if i wanted to hang out, i said of course), and once again it felt like it was much more than friends hanging out. We we leaning on eachother for the most part, never deciding on what to watch and it was more fllirty than ever. We became super touchy, puncing eachotehr in the arm and then rubbing them, he felt my arms and i did the same,, this happened a few times. We got on the convo of sex and masterbation, talking about it all for a pretty damn long time. On TV he would talk about girls that were hot, and who he'd like to fuck, on the other hand, we were talking about some movie and said 'matthew maconahey is hot as fuck'. Finally, we were talking about eachother's past schools, and he said he was a theater major, he talked about a make-up class he took and loved, and i blurted out, as a joke, that on paper, he's pretty pretty gay. he was kind of embarrsed and laughed about it, denying. about a half hour later, out of the blue, he asked me if i was into girls. I didn't lie when i said that i was, and that was that.

It was then time to go to bed. I couldn't sleep on the couch, and asked if i could sleep in his bed with him, he didnt object in the slightest. We laid next to eachother, face to face and then he turned over. for another half hour we talked about jerking off, sex, etc. Then fell asleep. In the morning (in bed) I hugged him afew times as a joke, and he didnt pull away. We got dressed, (this time he gave me his shorts) and i left.

The NEXT day he talked about how his pillow smelled like me. I said 'oh probably my BO' lol, and he said 'no, just a guy smell'. i asked 'you smellin my pillow' and he said 'no, while i sleep i like to hug a pillow.' I thought Hmmmmmm. He went onto say that he wasn't going to tell his girlfriend about me sleeping in his bed, i said he should just so it wouldnt be weird. Later on he said he called her and told her. He said his girlfirned said it was 'gross' but he told me he told her 'i liked it'. I said 'i did too'.

Finally, two days ago, i went over his place again. Same old shit, him dropping hints the entire time, touching my leg, arms, etc. We were pretty much leaning into eachother as usual, and he was eating oreo cookies, he asked if it wanted one i said yes.. so he put it in my mouth. and then he said 'wow that was gay'. At one point I asked him to flex his arms, he didnt want to, because he was embarrsed (yeah right, his arms are jacked). He said I could feel them under his shirt but couldnt see, So i did, and he felt mine. i said "thers no reason to be embarrsed cause ur arms are sexy". I touched his leg, and put my hand inside his leg right near his dick. he said 'whoaaa' gettin close there, don't fucking touch me'. and said 'if i wanted to touch my dick then fine'. he grabbed my hand and put it on his crotch, i touched it for a second and pulled away, and he yelled 'whoaaaaaaa you were a little too excited there.'

By that time i got so pissed and said i wanted to ask a question (are you into dudes?) I then decided not to, and he grilled me for about 5 minutes seeing what i was going to ask.. i finally blurted out "Are you into guys at all?" He denied it so bad- NO no no no no no no no no" and said" it never even crossed my mind." We got into kind of a mini argument about it, and he said to me' you've always rubbed me as a cocksucker'. I was so pissed at this point, we didnt speak for about a half hour. He then went to go drive me home, on the way there he asked if i was angry i said ' i dont know what i am!'. he dropped me off at my dorm, and i thought that it was over untill...

the next morning i see him in class and starts talking to me like nothing is wrong, totally ignoring the obvious. Finally i apologized for getting angry, and he said 'no problem' being totally chill about it all. I said "I'm just so confused about everything'. he didnt respond. He said next week (since i'm home this weekend) we should hang out again soon after i get back.

So what is going on here?! What does he think of me? is he into me? am i going down a dead end? is he afraid cause he has a baby on the way??

As I remember, i'll be posting more details about the time we've hung out, because i feel like i barely scratced the surface

I just really hope it's not all in my head, and that he's just trying to be a good friend and i'm getting the wrong idea. that would suck, because truth is.. i really like the guy.
 
he is no partner - he is engaged and has a kid on the way - he has a whole other life

would be cool if you'd just stay friends

gay guys have to remember that secure straight guys and confused straight guys can goof around in ways that have wholly different meanings to gay guys --

stay his friend, he sounds like he is worth it to you as a friend
 
I'm with JackFTwist on this one. Don't go beyond the friendship.

I don't see it ending well if it does.

Dude, there are sooooo many more guys in Chicago - trust me! Head out, meet some people and get some ass!
 
I know there can never be a relationship, and i'm not looking for one at all.. it would be nice to just hook up now and again.. or even see if he is into me at all? one day i think he def is, and the other i think he def isnt.
 
My philosophy is to never try to split up another couple. Hooking up or w/e. Just stick with being friends even if he tries to advance on you. There are so many ways for this to end badly, especially if there a child in the relationship.
 
Let's pretend...

that two men can get married and you have the perfect boyfriend and plan to marry him.

What you don't know is that he's having sex on the side with a woman.

What would you think of him, if you found out about it?

How would you describe the woman, who knows he going to marry you, but is sleeping with him anyway.
 
<clip> Don't go beyond the friendship.

I don't see it ending well if it does.

Dude, there are sooooo many more guys in Chicago - trust me! Head out, meet some people and get some ass!

Excellent advice in every area - Chicago has so much for you

hit the Baliwick Theatre on Belmont Avenue by the way...
 
You are playing with fire, and if it contiues
you will get burned. He will use you and them drop you
like you never existed. Who knows what he is up to.

I love Chicago, it is a big city, and you are a grown man.
Find an appropriate friend for you, go looking.
Shep+
 
He is trying to solve a question here not trying to split up a marriage. He simply want to find out if he is either bi gay or straight so then he can let his shield down and relax. because if he is straight just tell him what he is doing to you is playing with your emotions, and that you have feelings for him. he might not even know it.
 
I agree in that it sounds like he is bi and not wanting to admit it. He is engaged and has a kid along the way, so this is going to be an even bigger disaster if you continue down this path. I would just stay friends and knock it off with the touchie feelie stuff. This is unfairly playing on your emotions.
 
Hi keyboarder,
Even though he may be good towards you, you will always be second priority for him. Whenever he has to choose between you and his gf or baby, he will choose his GF or baby.
So you can continue with your relationship with him if you are open to this idea, but has potential for heartbreak---your heartbreak.

Hope you open your eyes to the reality. Just put yourself in his GF's shoes and think abt the whole situation.
 
"Dan" has a girlfriend and he is going to have a baby. I know this because 2 weeks after we met, he tells me that he has a baby on the way and i'm the firts person outside his immediate family to know...

OK, stop right there. He's not only in a relationship, but he's going to be a dad? That's two big checks in the "OFF LIMITS" category as far as I'm concerned. You have no business starting anything other than a friendship with this guy.
 
Thanks for everyones suggestions, comments. Billybob109 has the right idea here. I am not trying to end their relationship or start a relationship or whatever else. Obviously (or maybe not to some people), the last thing i want is to start dating him...... I am simply confused about the countless mixed messages he sends me and what i should do from there. Thanks again.
 
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