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A little about myself....

1 i have been looking for gays my age untill i turned 16 then i went as old as 30

2: i live in a bible belt town trust me theres no other gays
 
well sorry 40miles is a long way to go for someone who cant drive shesh

i have a issue where i cant drive
 
Most of the people in the world are not model-handsome and they still manage to find partners.

As for your weight, isn't that something you can take charge of, and work at getting off?
 
i am trying to lose weight but i always revert back i get down to 256 and cant lose anymore
 
I know it's not easy.

Instead of looking at it as one big insurmountable obstacle, can you try breaking it down into smaller steps? As just one possibility, could you try setting some kind of goal for yourself -- a short-term goal, that you'll try to lose 5 pounds by such and such a date in the future, and then aim for that? When you reach that goal, then you can focus on the next bit of it.

There's a Health and Well-being forum here. Maybe if you posted there, people with some knowledge and/or history could share tips with you on how to lose weight.

And maybe that same kind of approach would work with some of the other stuff, too. If you look at everything, piled together in one big heap, sometimes things can look overwhelming. But if you separate things out into littler piles, and focus on accomplishing bits and pieces, sometimes you can find you reach goals without exhausting yourself or falling into a pile of frustration by trying to accomplish everything at once.
 
losing weight isnt a concern 2 me cause im not unhealthy in weight its just i want to be skin and bones skinny but noone wants that 4 me.....

sides my issue im dealing with now is the 140 books i need to write....
 
VirginBubba, I don't drive and I was able to go 90 miles out of my way.

I simply got on a Greyhound and went from there.

If you want to go somewhere, Greyhound usually offers service there.
 
my city doesnt have any bus transport or anything i need to go at least 40miles i think before i can get to a greyhound bus area......
 
i didnt say a random namless strange im not a fucking whore or slut

i want to meet someone and accually get to no them

more like a job application
 
I wouldnt want a random stranger with all the STD's and rapes and murders in this world
if this was 70 years ago maybe it be a little bit more safer (but then again gays were hated then so not so much)

I admit i want to be fucked roughly but not a stranger or some random person. I would always do it safe route with STD tests and someone i talked to longer then 5mins . I would want my master to keep me safe not cause me harm. I want pain but not death


I write everything lol
 
Firstly.... Hi and welcome to JUB! :wave:

Now, let's cut to the chase. Nobody is ugly... ok? Please do not think of yourself as that. You're not old either: I'm 38!!!! Hmm... alright, i'm no spring-chicken, but I have a lot of life in me.

I used to think I was ugly... reason: years of people telling me I was! So... I sat down one night, thought long and hard (ooer!) about the situation, and decided that from now on I would brush these harsh words away.

Sure, I still get the odd t*** call me ugly, but I choose to ignore it now. Ugly is my living room wallpaper! LOL.

As I once said in another post : "You have to follow your heart". But, be honest.. do you really want to be hurt, and abused?! Surely there must be someone out there for you who will be a great companion for you?

Aww.. heck.... I know my words sound harsh, but I promise no harsh wording intended, and I apologise if this is how it looks. I know you want people to stop worrying about you, but they only worry cos they care (even if they dont know you that well... believe me... they took me in and made me at home here).

Whatever you decide to do, I wish you all the best in your search. It may take a while, but don't give up ;) Good luck (*8*)
 
BENDERBOY said:
Are you still considering what you posted about last night ?
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No idea what i said last nite X_X
jknightuk said:
Firstly.... Hi and welcome to JUB! :wave:


Now, let's cut to the chase. Nobody is ugly... ok? Please do not think of yourself as that. You're not old either: I'm 38!!!! Hmm... alright, i'm no spring-chicken, but I have a lot of life in me.

I used to think I was ugly... reason: years of people telling me I was! So... I sat down one night, thought long and hard (ooer!) about the situation, and decided that from now on I would brush these harsh words away.

Sure, I still get the odd t*** call me ugly, but I choose to ignore it now. Ugly is my living room wallpaper! LOL.

As I once said in another post : "You have to follow your heart". But, be honest.. do you really want to be hurt, and abused?! Surely there must be someone out there for you who will be a great companion for you?

Aww.. heck.... I know my words sound harsh, but I promise no harsh wording intended, and I apologise if this is how it looks. I know you want people to stop worrying about you, but they only worry cos they care (even if they dont know you that well... believe me... they took me in and made me at home here).

Whatever you decide to do, I wish you all the best in your search. It may take a while, but don't give up ;) Good luck (*8*)
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1: Thanks for the welcome
2: i say im old cause i feel old everyday
3:i think im ugly cause i look look like jason and freddy had sex with chucky and there baby looks better then me.
4: lol on the wallpaper comment (care to post a pic :P)
5: i want to be hurt and abused but i hope that he will do it with love and not just a im bored lets just fuck u over
6: ur words arent harsh
7: im giving up soon
 
To all the good-hearted people who are trying to help VirginBubba:

VirginBubba is in to BDSM. It sounds very foreign to guys who aren't into BDSM, but guys who are into BDSM do in fact like pain and/or humiliation as a sexual input but it has nothing to do with low self esteem.

Please do not try to "cure" their attraction to BDSM because it's no more curable than a gay man's attraction to men. :D

A BDSM relationship, though outwardly appearing to be based on misanthropy, hatred, vindictiveness, and/or mean-spiritedness, is really a loving relationship based on mutual attraction to all things BDSM. For example, the OP himself said:
VirginBubba said:
5: i want to be hurt and abused but i hope that he will do it with love and not just a im bored lets just fuck u over
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BDSM guys are just like any other gay guys, they just like it rough. Some may have esteem problems, but that's no different from vanilla guys with esteem problems. Please separate helping with esteem problems from "helping" with BDSM "problems".

Google for BDSM and you'll find lots of hot, sexy, well self adjusted guys. Move in BDSM circles, and you'll find guys who are waiters, delivery men, doctors, lawyers, pilots, ITsupport guys, and every other career.

BDSM is not a problem to be cured. Low self esteem is. Please keep them separate. Thanks. (*8*)
 
It's fine that there are separate issues, but wouldn't it make sense to have vanilla sex first and then move into BDSM rather than having your first experience be BDSM and perhaps getting in over your head?
 
Lube said:
To all the good-hearted people who are trying to help VirginBubba:

VirginBubba is in to BDSM. It sounds very foreign to guys who aren't into BDSM, but guys who are into BDSM do in fact like pain and/or humiliation as a sexual input but it has nothing to do with low self esteem.

Please do not try to "cure" their attraction to BDSM because it's no more curable than a gay man's attraction to men. :D

A BDSM relationship, though outwardly appearing to be based on misanthropy, hatred, vindictiveness, and/or mean-spiritedness, is really a loving relationship based on mutual attraction to all things BDSM. For example, the OP himself said:


BDSM guys are just like any other gay guys, they just like it rough. Some may have esteem problems, but that's no different from vanilla guys with esteem problems. Please separate helping with esteem problems from "helping" with BDSM "problems".

Google for BDSM and you'll find lots of hot, sexy, well self adjusted guys. Move in BDSM circles, and you'll find guys who are waiters, delivery men, doctors, lawyers, pilots, ITsupport guys, and every other career.

BDSM is not a problem to be cured. Low self esteem is. Please keep them separate. Thanks. (*8*)
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Thanks so much for explaining
 
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