OK, I clearly oversold this too much. After reading back on this, I see how I left a very wrong impression and left out important background. Let me clarify. I hooked up with this guy about 10 times. The first five or so times we played, it was strictly vanilla. He asked me to play rougher. As I got to know him better, I started doing that -- at his request. He was simply a bottom that liked it on the rough side -- again, AT HIS REQUEST. In that last time, I definitely pushed it to the limit. And afterward, we made out for 10 minutes in the car after I took him home (his car was being repaired at time), and he asked me to do that again. I told him I loved it, but it had to be very intense for him. He said it was, but wanted to do it again. The only reason we didn't is I moved about a month later. Those were not actions of someone who didn't want it to happen. Did that fuck session hurt at the end? Yes, it did. Did I like it? Yes, I did. Did he like it? In his own way, yes he did. He requested it again. He was simply that kind of bottom, and I waited until I got to know him sexually before I went all out on him.
You can read any number of posts right here on JUB from any number of bottoms who say they like it rough, they like it to hurt and like that kind of scene. It was not rape. It was consensual sex based on previous discussions, and there is a big difference.
I did nothing that the guy hadn't talked about several times before, and I should have made that clear. My error was leaving out important background that led to this wrong impression. Furthermore, I have also been on the receiving end of a rough fuck -- at my request -- and yes, it hurt at the time and I got more than I bargained for, and I didn't consider myself raped.