A question from a straight guy

[Dawgbone]

Just curious if people consider a guy who is confident in his sexuality and honestly believes he is straight yet watches and gets off on gay porn is in actuality straight?

Wow, that's sort of a conundrum.

The reason I ask is because as a 21 year old male I find that gay porn is one of the things that I jack off to and get off on once in a while. I've never been in a meaningful relationship with a woman but have had numerous chances only to turn them down because I'm not interested in puppy love and would rather worry about work and my business before settling down with somebody. It is in my plans though, I definitely plan to marry and have children in the future.

I get off to lesbian porn faster than anything else and find myself ogling over the female physique. Once in a while I'll find myself envious over a shirtless guy who is absolutely ripped & toned and maybe even will sneak in a second peak once in a while but I believe that is more-so the case because I want that type of body for myself. Something I feel is perfectly normal for any guy who is confident and sure of his sexuality.

I hope this doesn't offend anybody (I do have a few gay friends) but I feel the reason that gay porn interests me so is because in my mind it is just another one of my kinks. I tend to be careful with what I get off on since I know there can be a very fine line between fantasy and reality but I love to fantasize about humiliation, degradation and just taboo acts that seem alien to me (I know a lot of people do)... I guess, to me, gay porn fits that description in my mind. Does that sound weird to all of you? It would be hard to convince me in real life to ever touch, feel or kiss another man let alone get in bed with him, no offense, I'd have to be either really horny or really drunk to ever be persuaded in my mind.

I just find it interesting that so many think that if you're fantasizing about gay porn you're not or can't be completely straight. I think a lot of guys do it. There are a lot of things out there that people fantasize about and get off on, god knows I've seen most of them looking at fem dom, watersports, bestiality, bukkake, rape, ect. ect. Some of them are disgusting no matter how horny you are for some people, for example necrophilia which makes me vomit on the spot but some of them are interesting and intriguing to look at and live out in your mind as a fantasy where again I believe the degradation and taboo aspect comes into play for 99% of people. For me though, after I get off I usually regret looking at what I've seen. I will likely never think twice about acting out on any of those kinks and fantasies in real life but it still feels good to think about in my head when I'm in the mood.

Just curious what people think.... So am I straight, bi-curious/sexual, or just a sick puppy?

 

[mexidude85]

I wouldnt label you anything bro. You are what you are. There are allot of grey areas in the spectrum of sexuality. I think you should just go with the flow. Feeling the way you do isnt wrong dont regret what is in your nature. We are all turned on sexually by many diffrent things. But if you want me to pick out of the 3 i'd say your bisexualy but your turned on by girls more. Why not live out this fantasy? Guys might just blow your mind. I mean they do know what you want sexually you know. They get you in ways girls cant. Not saying girls cant please you cause im sure they do a great job but id say not to let society or your preconcieved notions hold you back. Who knows you might like it enough to keep it up or maybe even start dating a dude.

 

[G-Lexington]

Sick puppy.

No, I'm kidding. You're fine. Based only on your post, I'd say straight. Nothing wrong with finding the other side intriguing once in awhile. God knows I've fantasized about men, women, strangers, friends, groups, monsters, werewolves, aliens, gargoyles and robots. In my fantasies, I've forced guys to have sex with me, and been forced to have sex with them. I've fantasized about sex in submarines, boats, hot-air balloons, distant planets, spaceships, chains, and a hot tub full of whipped cream. But I'm still just a guy who likes other guys, nothing more.

Lex

 

[josher]

This is only my opinion, but I find it hard to believe that anyone who gets off to gay porn is 100% straight.

I'm 100% gay, and any porn involving a woman is a real turn-off for me, but that's not true of all gay guys I'm told. (Though, in that case, I believe they're bisexual to some degree or other.)

The fact that you "regret' what you've done would suggest to me that you're in some form of denial.

Be aware that some bisexuals are attracted 50/50 to each gender, but for others it could be 90/10 or 70/30.

Even if you are bisexual, that wouldn't prevent you from having a heterosexual family. It just means that, if you do, cheating with a guy is just as bad as cheateing with a woman.

Whenever I talk with someone who is questioning their sexual identity, I usually ask them, when their fantasizing, particularly when their jerking off, (without the aid of porn) who do they fantacize about? If there's another guy in that picture, I think they must be at the very least bisexual.

Of course, many people claim most people are truly bisexual, if they were only comfortable enough to admit it. I'm not sure whether I believe that or not, but I'm more open to that idea than I used to be.

 

[Lube]

Hey, dude, I love some of your fetishes. Wanna stop by some time?

However...

Just curious if people consider a guy who is confident in his sexuality and honestly believes he is straight yet watches and gets off on gay porn is in actuality straight?

Wow, that's sort of a conundrum.

The reason I ask is because as a 21 year old male I find that gay porn is one of the things that I jack off to and get off on once in a while. I've never been in a meaningful relationship with a woman but have had numerous chances only to turn them down because I'm not interested in puppy love and would rather worry about work and my business before settling down with somebody. It is in my plans though, I definitely plan to marry and have children in the future.

I get off to lesbian porn faster than anything else and find myself ogling over the female physique. Once in a while I'll find myself envious over a shirtless guy who is absolutely ripped & toned and maybe even will sneak in a second peak once in a while but I believe that is more-so the case because I want that type of body for myself. Something I feel is perfectly normal for any guy who is confident and sure of his sexuality.

I hope this doesn't offend anybody (I do have a few gay friends) but I feel the reason that gay porn interests me so is because in my mind it is just another one of my kinks. I tend to be careful with what I get off on since I know there can be a very fine line between fantasy and reality but I love to fantasize about humiliation, degradation and just taboo acts that seem alien to me (I know a lot of people do)... I guess, to me, gay porn fits that description in my mind. Does that sound weird to all of you? It would be hard to convince me in real life to ever touch, feel or kiss another man let alone get in bed with him, no offense, I'd have to be either really horny or really drunk to ever be persuaded in my mind.

I just find it interesting that so many think that if you're fantasizing about gay porn you're not or can't be completely straight. I think a lot of guys do it. There are a lot of things out there that people fantasize about and get off on, god knows I've seen most of them looking at fem dom, watersports, bestiality, bukkake, rape, ect. ect. Some of them are disgusting no matter how horny you are for some people, for example necrophilia which makes me vomit on the spot but some of them are interesting and intriguing to look at and live out in your mind as a fantasy where again I believe the degradation and taboo aspect comes into play for 99% of people. For me though, after I get off I usually regret looking at what I've seen. I will likely never think twice about acting out on any of those kinks and fantasies in real life but it still feels good to think about in my head when I'm in the mood.

Just curious what people think.... So am I straight, bi-curious/sexual, or just a sick puppy?

Everything I've highlighted is something that I used to say to myself to prove to myself that I was really straight.

I did that for over 40 years.

Hopefully, you're much smarter than I am.

At 42, I was a "straight" guy in denial, in a miserable 10+ year marriage. I didn't realize it at the time, but I hated myself for being gay (or bi, if you want to call it that).

At 46, I'm now a divorced gay guy with the best, sexiest boyfriend in the world and could never be happier.

You can continue to live in denial, as I did, and be miserable. Or you can reach out to other gay/bi men and learn more about them and what it means to be gay. Since you've left this message on a gay forum, I'm hoping you've started the first baby steps in the that direction.

Good luck, and feel free to PM me if you have any questions.

 

[KaraBulut]

So am I straight, bi-curious/sexual, or just a sick puppy?

You are what ever you chose to call yourself.

However, you are a member of a site that is labeled "JustUsBoys-Gay Porn Photos, Gay Porn Movies, Gay Reviews, and Gay Community".

The real problem here- the lack of relationships with either gender, the viewing of "kink" porn and the way that you are using porn to depersonalize people- male and female- may point to a deeper problem.

I've never been in a meaningful relationship with a woman but have had numerous chances only to turn them down because I'm not interested in puppy love ...

...I feel the reason that gay porn interests me so is because in my mind it is just another one of my kinks. I tend to be careful with what I get off on since I know there can be a very fine line between fantasy and reality but I love to fantasize about humiliation, degradation and just taboo acts that seem alien to me (I know a lot of people do)...

These things are not easy to sort out. It's one of those chicken-egg questions. Does the objectifying of people precede the porn addiction or does the porn addiction cause the objectification of people?

So maybe the question that you're asking is not the right one? Maybe the question that you should be asking is whether you have an addiction to porn?

 

[Audio Tech]

As a Gay guy, I find myself getting turned on by lesbian porn from time to time. I often also give a cute girl a second look because I think she's hot, has a nice body.

Oh my god.... could I be straight? Not a chance.

Like many, many people who don't want to admit it, I fit somewhere into a range of sexual interest, and not 100% one or the other. I had to eventually come to terms with that, and you know what? It's OK.

I like men. But I have a slight Bi streak in me. I don't know if I would enjoy actual sex with a hot chick, but I cannot rule it out. I may find out one day.

So what's wrong with that? NOTHING.

Besides, at 21.... well, it's normal to still experiment and figure yourself out. I wouldn't loose sleep over it.

 

[blahman16]

But plenty of women look at girly magazines, the way they dress and comment on how they look, though. Does that mean women who check out other women or comment on their looks mean they are sexually attracted to women? Or is that a physical attraction?

(innocent question, by no means meant to flame or stir up anger)

 

[hotb0d]

you're the type of straight guy I would love to hang out with. No, not because I want what in your pants, I just think you would be awesome to hang out with. Seem like an open minded and adventurous dude to me.

There's no such thing as 100% straight or gay....so just take your pick of where you are if there is a spectrum, straight on one end and gay on the other end. You sound like you know what you want.

 

[AngelFromAbove]

There's no such thing as 100% straight or gay

I know several people who will disagree with that statement. As far as Dawgbone is concerned, I would not worry about labeling yourself. Unless you find yourself having urges and attractions to men, then it would be difficult to say that you're gay or bisexual.

 

[breatheH20]

It's funny how some gay men can be so critical about someone's sexual orientation..

Lines in sexuality aren't as rigid as people think; you are what you are, no need in defining it in terms other than what you've described. You obviously have an awareness of yourself and seem fairly confident in what you think. Do what you think is best.

And don't let the trolls pigeon-hole you into a box. If JUB were an episode of "Family Feud", the most popular answer would always be "He's gay".

 

[Lube]

It's funny how some gay men can be so critical about someone's sexual orientation..

It's "critical" only if you think being gay is somehow negative.

Personally, I don't think it is.

 

[hotb0d]

I know several people who will disagree with that statement. As far as Dawgbone is concerned, I would not worry about labeling yourself. Unless you find yourself having urges and attractions to men, then it would be difficult to say that you're gay or bisexual.

yea and those several people don't know what they're talking about.

 

[chatolandia]

Enjoy yourself, and don't get into any LTR until you are sure about that person


I said person because it is possible to be attracted to both genders, and to fantasize about them...

heck it's even possible to enjoy sex with men and women!

The point is, at your age, it should be about what you're comfortable with, and with whom you fall in love with.

Don't be afraid to fall in love, and to fall out of love, its part of life.

and don't worry about labels, we are in a recession most people cannot afford labels anymore

 

[Spiff]

Just curious what people think.... So am I straight, bi-curious/sexual, or just a sick puppy?

Since you are asking us what we think you are, you are asking us to label you. So I label you is anything but straight. Straight is straight, any said "kink" you have corrupts being straight. With that said, just go with the flow and do what makes you happy.

 

[genthree]

not only in sex but in all aspects of life ,you can look at things that don't necessarily "float your boat" and say i can see plenty of people being turned on by that............some women can make the arse of a pair of jeans look good, but some men do it even better.............

 

[abally]

Hi
Ive wanked over gay, straight, bi, solo porn before. I dont label myself as anything more than bi sexual or curious. I think theres too much emphasis and, for want of a better word, pressure and stress on it. Ive been temped to have sex with another man before, but never gone thru with it. Dont stress about it

 

[Adrock-JD]

I played the role of 'straight guy' in school but I always knew I wasn't.

Kinsey said most people fall somewhere along the scale in regards to sexuality.

Some people identify strictly hetero and some strictly homo while others are closer to the middle, on either side.

Some people shift around a bit during the course of their lifespan.

This is why labels on people don't hold-up to intense scrutiny, or time, necessarily.

The heart wants what the heart wants, as the saying goes. Isn't it just as true with sex?

 

[Lube]

We use labels all the time. Are you a man? Are you middle-class? Are you hungry?

Runny away from labels doesn't solve anything.

 

[hotatlboi]

If you are really straight, then the only reason you have to ask this question is the absurd propensity in our society for someone to shout "GAY" at any straight guy who makes even the slightest indication that he can appreciate the looks of a man.