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A question from a straight guy
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Blueboy369
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I think you're straight but a little bi-curious.
G-Lexington
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I don't know about all that. I use my right hand for most things, but on occasion - when balancing a ton of things, say, or when I busted up my wrist - I have to use my left. I still say I'm "right-handed" rather than "ambidextrous".
My best friend in college told me that the idea of having sex with guys wasn't a turn-off for him, but that it was girls who really got him horny. He said "I'm guessing I'm somewhere around 95 or 97% straight. I'm not ashamed of the gay part, but I don't think it'll ever be strong enough to bother acting on." Given that, I'd say it's silly to call him "bisexual but leaning towards straight". "Straight" pretty much covers it. He doesn't deny that part of him. It's just not a very large or important part, and of the commonly used terms, "straight" seems to apply (both to his inner sexuality and to his dating habits) a lot better than "bisexual". Might some guy come along that gets him to "try the other side"? I guess anything's possible, but I'd say it's unbelievably doubtful. I'd sooner bet on a Smiths reunion concert.
The OP has shown that he's been dealing with his sexual urges solely via pornography. And like most people who do so for long periods of time, he finds that after a while, the buzz starts wearing off, and he needs to "up the naughty factor" somewhat to keep the excitement going. And so he's going further afield - into bondage, into group scenes, into staged non-consensual things, into homosexual porn. To me, that just indicates that he's reached a point that he needs something more extreme (and "out there") to get off. And the fact that homosexual porn is lumped into these other "out there" fields means that he's getting off more on the "stuff I'd never do" factor of it, rather than the hot guys themselves. If it was EXCLUSIVELY gay porn that he was enjoying, then yeah, that'd be a big indication that he was gay. But most guys don't like all types of porn equally. They have preferences and favorites. The fact that he seems to be getting off on all porn right now - especially "different-from-standard-straight-porn" - makes me think he's just getting off on something different. If getting off to gay porn means he's at least bisexual, then we also have to assume he's actually going to be into bondage, role-playing, fursuits, and whatever else. I think it's much more likely he's simply compensating for over-exposure. And I think the true test will be when he shuts the DVD player and computer off, and starts actually dating. At that point, if guys are still turning his crank, then cool - he's gay or bi.
Lex
My best friend in college told me that the idea of having sex with guys wasn't a turn-off for him, but that it was girls who really got him horny. He said "I'm guessing I'm somewhere around 95 or 97% straight. I'm not ashamed of the gay part, but I don't think it'll ever be strong enough to bother acting on." Given that, I'd say it's silly to call him "bisexual but leaning towards straight". "Straight" pretty much covers it. He doesn't deny that part of him. It's just not a very large or important part, and of the commonly used terms, "straight" seems to apply (both to his inner sexuality and to his dating habits) a lot better than "bisexual". Might some guy come along that gets him to "try the other side"? I guess anything's possible, but I'd say it's unbelievably doubtful. I'd sooner bet on a Smiths reunion concert.
The OP has shown that he's been dealing with his sexual urges solely via pornography. And like most people who do so for long periods of time, he finds that after a while, the buzz starts wearing off, and he needs to "up the naughty factor" somewhat to keep the excitement going. And so he's going further afield - into bondage, into group scenes, into staged non-consensual things, into homosexual porn. To me, that just indicates that he's reached a point that he needs something more extreme (and "out there") to get off. And the fact that homosexual porn is lumped into these other "out there" fields means that he's getting off more on the "stuff I'd never do" factor of it, rather than the hot guys themselves. If it was EXCLUSIVELY gay porn that he was enjoying, then yeah, that'd be a big indication that he was gay. But most guys don't like all types of porn equally. They have preferences and favorites. The fact that he seems to be getting off on all porn right now - especially "different-from-standard-straight-porn" - makes me think he's just getting off on something different. If getting off to gay porn means he's at least bisexual, then we also have to assume he's actually going to be into bondage, role-playing, fursuits, and whatever else. I think it's much more likely he's simply compensating for over-exposure. And I think the true test will be when he shuts the DVD player and computer off, and starts actually dating. At that point, if guys are still turning his crank, then cool - he's gay or bi.
Lex
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Yeah, because so many gay guys get into straight porn after the buzz starts wearing off of gay porn and leather and piss and scat.
That's just not believable, is it?
G-Lexington
Lex. Icon. Devil.
I personally know one gay guy who started watching straight porn (and lesbian porn, and other "different" forms) after becoming desensitized to gay porn. He never thought it made him straight or bi, though. He just thought it made him a bit desperate. Which, to be honest, was kinda accurate.
Lex
Lex
TX-Beau
FEAR THE LIBERAL DETENTE!
I've never known a straight guy that got curious to the point where he went after advice about it, especially on a gay porn site.
If the attraction is strong enough that you can't ignore it, chances are at the very least, bi.
Plus there are some red flags in your post - things that look like denial.
If the attraction is strong enough that you can't ignore it, chances are at the very least, bi.
Plus there are some red flags in your post - things that look like denial.
G-Lexington
Lex. Icon. Devil.
>>>Been there, done that.
Yes.
Lex
Yes.
Lex
I think "straight" and "gay" are myths. We just need labels to try and understand the people who aren't ourself.
So that'd put you somewhere along the bisexual part of the spectrum. I knew a girl at high school who liked gay porn. That's not exactly "straight", but seeing as she was a girl, it can't be gay either.
So you like looking at guys. So what? That doesn't have to conflict with wanting to have sex with girls. And if you want to have sex with guys, that doesn't have to conflict either.
Relax! You aren't weird.. I bet there are loads of people you know who are the same and you just don't know it.
So that'd put you somewhere along the bisexual part of the spectrum. I knew a girl at high school who liked gay porn. That's not exactly "straight", but seeing as she was a girl, it can't be gay either.
So you like looking at guys. So what? That doesn't have to conflict with wanting to have sex with girls. And if you want to have sex with guys, that doesn't have to conflict either.
Relax! You aren't weird.
. I bet there are loads of people you know who are the same and you just don't know it.
G-Lexington
Lex. Icon. Devil.
>>>I knew a girl at high school who liked gay porn. That's not exactly "straight", but seeing as she was a girl, it can't be gay either.
There's a lot of guys watching lesbian porn who might argue the fact that it "isn't exactly straight". And I'd tend to agree with them. After all, it means all the body parts you're interested in but none of the parts you're not, right?
Lex
There's a lot of guys watching lesbian porn who might argue the fact that it "isn't exactly straight". And I'd tend to agree with them. After all, it means all the body parts you're interested in but none of the parts you're not, right?
Lex
Straight in quotations wasn't meant to be a synonym for hetero, I was kind of going for vanilla, 1950s-sex-with-the-lights-out conventionality. Perhaps guys with lesbian porn is a better example. You're getting off on these things that aren't straight in a strict sense, it just happens to be two guys not two girls. Liking two girls making out doesn't make a guy a lesbian. But it isn't narrow either.
People are eclectic.
People are eclectic.
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I think you should experiment and find out.
texan_slant
Sex God
Labels are the downfall;
sexuality is who you are, and whatever gets you off.
Try not to put a label on it and continue to explore this side of yourself.
sexuality is who you are, and whatever gets you off.
Try not to put a label on it and continue to explore this side of yourself.
fetaby
dances atop the bellcurve
Hey Achilleus!!!
On topic...
For anyone who is identifying with the OP...
I would think the determining factor is if it is something you internalize...
Do you picture yourself in the porn, do you fantasize that the things happening on the screen are happening to you?
That would be the distinction...
forgive me if that was already said...
On topic...
For anyone who is identifying with the OP...
I would think the determining factor is if it is something you internalize...
Do you picture yourself in the porn, do you fantasize that the things happening on the screen are happening to you?
That would be the distinction...
forgive me if that was already said...
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Hey fetaby!!!
Well, I can't speak for the OP, maybe if he has the courage to come back, he can answer some of these ?s.
As for my part, when I started looking at gay porn, I was definitely fantasizing about being part of what was taking place.
Well, I can't speak for the OP, maybe if he has the courage to come back, he can answer some of these ?s.
As for my part, when I started looking at gay porn, I was definitely fantasizing about being part of what was taking place.
fetaby
dances atop the bellcurve
When I started looking at porn in general it was photo spreads of straight couples... I looked at the men. 
It was years before I even knew "gay" porn existed... that is porn that depicts homosexual sexual acts...
Given enough beer? Mixed martial arts competitions is porn enough for me... before they get all bloody of course.
It was years before I even knew "gay" porn existed... that is porn that depicts homosexual sexual acts...
Given enough beer? Mixed martial arts competitions is porn enough for me... before they get all bloody of course.
G-Lexington
Lex. Icon. Devil.
>>>Come back, Dawgbone!
No reason to, until he comes to the conclusion we all know he's going to.
Lex
No reason to, until he comes to the conclusion we all know he's going to.
Lex
Exactly in the same boat as Abally here. I'm bisexual. Been tempted to have sex with both sexes, but have never gone through. Fantasized about it too. Basically, don't stress too much about it. What really matters is if you are comfortable with yourself.
