A simple thank you would be nice

[m1thousand]

I have made a lot of contributions and it would be hard to find a post where someone says "thank you"

Thats not why I post but time after time when the only name you see in a thread is your previous post, it can be a bit discouraging

I recently wrote . . .

This will be my final alert. (Reason to follow)

Just prior to 'Dateline Mystery' (NBC) on Saturday, Lady Gaga will be premiering her new video and as you can see, there is a guy in gold shorts / swimsuit

Reason:
I stopped adding to the tv alert / eye candy thread because it seems that no one appreciated the work it took to make this weekly. I would spend my time and look through the various talk show websites to see who was coming up. I timed it once and it took me 12 minutes to do this weekly.

Ive held my tongue and hoped that the contributions would go acknowledged but it hasnt. As a result, I will not be making any more contributions to this board. I may write on the board, but I am not going to waste my time to make and upload video captures and screen captures, etc.

Appreciate what you have, while you have it.



Benderboy,
I give you props for keeping it real. You appreciated me. Thank you.

I will post the link to this thread. Ironically, Benderboy was the only one to say something
http://www.justusboys.com/forum/threads/407268-How-to-Post-Photos-using-Tumblr

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/thr...p-In-Case-You-Missed-It?p=7246735#post7246735

And I dont just mean me, if you enjoy someone's postings, let them know. They dont have to post youtube videos or video captures, it could just be good old fashion writing


thats all

 

[journo25]

Totally agree! I send either a post to the thread, a comment to the poster (star icon at the bottom of each post) or a private message. We are clearly in the minority.

 

[journo25]

It must look like i'm stalking you.

I don't know what to say about the tv alert thread, might be that people aren't watching those shows just on tv any more.

On the good manners point, i agree, even if people aren't interested in the subject being posted if they see a poster has put alot of work into a thread it doesn't take long to write a quick post thanking them for contributing.

Exactly! JUB etiquette. Probably not a coincidence that you're a Scot and I was raised in Canada.. by parents who made me write thank-you notes for birthday gifts.

 

[m1thousand]

It must look like i'm stalking you.

I don't know what to say about the tv alert thread, might be that people aren't watching those shows just on tv any more.

On the good manners point, i agree, even if people aren't interested in the subject being posted if they see a poster has put alot of work into a thread it doesn't take long to write a quick post thanking them for contributing.

No, it looks like you acknowledge my existence.

Although there are a few exceptions within the last few days, prior to that, its hard to find a post where I am quoted. I know this may not seem like a big deal but when literally - and Im not exaggerating - everyone else is quoted and you are not, what that says to me is 'what you said wasnt important'.

Yes, I dont work and I have too much time on my hands but thats neither here nor there.

If I could get paid for the things that I bring to the table that would be great, but as far as I know, that kind of message board doesnt exist.

For anyone thinking "what is he going on about", a few examples . . .

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/thr...-other-projects)-thread?p=8785845#post8785845

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/thr...-has-better-jerk-off-material-than-porn/page5

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/thr...l-concert-footage-Pink-returns-to-the-Grammys

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/threads/388096-These-are-videos-from-a-tutorial-website-I-am-making

 

[palbert]

I find our interests are not similar.

 

[dpnice]

Your feelings are understandable as JUB can be quite a lonely place if no one is interacting with you.

I looked at your last few threads and palbert expresses how I feel. All of them got views in the double hundreds and a couple near the 2000 views mark, now that means that people are aware of your contribution and such results are not too bad for a thread.

I am sorry you are feeling unrewarded but you can't make people "love" you.

 

[Kahaih]

I have made a lot of contributions and it would be hard to find a post where someone says "thank you"

<snip>

The more you give, the more people will take you for granted.

Surely you've seen this type of behavior all over the tech forums. More oft than not, the more generous and helpful a pc wizard is, the less apt he is to see a 'thanks', or even a 'that worked'. He's just expected to keep putting out.

I took down everything I had up over at deviantART - themes, wallpapers, photography, custom Ps brushes and shapes, etc. - mostly because of how poorly that site is run, but also because my work would get thousands and thousands of downloads and rarely, if ever, a 'thanks'.

I still have lots of my work up on other sites (don't ask, I'm not peddling it here) and it's the same thing - hundreds of thousands of people are downloading and using my work without ever posting so much as a 'cool'.

My partner is still making complete themes for Stardock's Windowblinds, and it's the same there - lots of people scooping it all up and never commenting. We laugh it off.

That's just the way it is - all over the Internet.

 

[m1thousand]

After a sleepless night, I fell asleep after writing post 5 and only now I have woken up. I havent been waiting around for the right time to reply.

Benderboy,
As I said in the quote, I can count on you and I appreciate that.
Honestly, I didnt mind doing the tv alert thread but it seemed like I looked like one of those guys posting to a thread no one looks at. Or they think Ill throw a fit (I wont) if they post in the thread and mess it up.

I had please and thank you drummed into my head as a kid so maybe Im expecting too much. Manners is a lost part of society

Journo25,
Thank you for the post. A fellow Candian ;-)

Cupidboy,
I understand re: Kylie Minogue. If you said Janet Jackson is a lip sync diva, Id feel the same way ;-)

Palbert,
After the incident, which oddly enough I dont remember what your comment was about to which I called you a (I remember what I called you), I had no expectations of you

Dpnice,
You make a good point about JUB being a lonely place if you dont follow the beaten path. And if you feel as Palbert does, we'll agree to agree that we have different interests

Kahaih,
When I mention it to someone, thats what they say "thats just the way of the internet"

I said my piece/peace

Thank you for the replies/acknowledgment

 

[blackbeltninja]

I seem to think you've made this post before in one of your previous incarnations.

-d-

 

[Kahaih]

I seem to think you've made this post before in one of your previous incarnations.

-d-

If so, I guess you weren't much help in that round, either.

 

[blackbeltninja]

If so, I guess you weren't much help in that round, either.

I'd wager that every comment and/or pm one gets is a sign of appreciation, whether you would choose view it that way or not. Likewise every reply to a post you've made, and every response in a thread you've created.

If you're insisting a big, obvious THANK YOU instead of participation and interaction, perhaps the internet is not for you.

-d-

 

[Alnitak]

You're welcome.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

you're welcome.

^^^
thank you !!!!

 

[m1thousand]

Blackbeltninja,
I havent said what I said in my initial post. This is the first time I have outright spoken about 'thank you'
(I have said I dont feel connected to the board, I dont get quoted, do people not like me? )

If you're insisting a big, obvious THANK YOU instead of participation and interaction, perhaps the internet is not for you.

Ive been participating. My profile will show that

Kahaih confirmed what I thought - dont expect much from the internet.

Cupidboy,
You like Kylie, I like Janet. We both like Benderboy and I appreciate Benderboy's replies in my post.

 

[dereperez]

Mike, I recall commenting and PM'ing with you on some of those stuff, especially the Pink thread. Your posts don't go unnoticed and unappreciated.

 

[dereperez]

^Meant Mark, typed Mike.

I think this means bed time for me.

 

[Anders123]

Blackbeltninja,
I havent said what I said in my initial post. This is the first time I have outright spoken about 'thank you'
(I have said I dont feel connected to the board, I dont get quoted, do people not like me? )

I've found that most often, people will typically quote me if they have something to add to what I've said (i.e. if it prompts a relevant thought) or if they disagree with me and wish to debate an issue/topic. It's not so much about whether they like me or not, just whether my post somehow inspired comments or discussion in one form or another. When my posts go unquoted it's not a reflection of my self-worth or the value of my contributions, it just means that people either didn't have anything relevant to add to what I said, or that what I wrote didn't lead them to think of something worth posting themselves. If I post something and it doesn't get many/any responses, it doesn't mean people aren't interested in me as a person, it just means they're not interested in the particular topic I raised. People aren't obligated to feign interest for my benefit and I shouldn't take it personally if they don't. That's just how public discourse works.

I've also found that on JUB I send out far more comments than I receive. In fact, there are quite a number of people here whose posts I regularly comment on who have never interacted with me in any way. I don't feel slighted by that though, because I don't feel entitled to reciprocation and I don't leave those comments expecting it. I send those comments out because the person either made me laugh, or made a post I agree with but don't have anything to add to, or because I feel like embarrassing myself with a crappy joke.

With that said, I have found that leaving brief quips or remarks via post comment is a great way to break the ice and and initiate further interaction. Do you leave them often yourself? It's not fair to expect everybody else to put themselves out there and interact with you if you're disinclined to do the same.

 

[m1thousand]

I understand what you are saying Anders. I need to look at things differently. A 'non quote' doesnt equal my value as a poster here.

I dont use the comment feature much because I would rather leave a comment in the thread as opposed to the comment feature.

For example, I said "good question" when responding to Borg's post in 'ask a pornographer'. I know others who use the feature would have done that but Im used to saying it in posts

 

[medic1]

Mark, i too find you a welcome member of this board, we have exchanged comments, and i appreciate the time and effort you put into preparing your threads....

 

[kallipolis]

I don't think JUB popularity means doodley-squat.

This....be who you are....while respecting all.....and don't worry what others think about you.