A tough question for you: Answer with honesty.

[GL]

I have no problem telling people their full of shit and I have gotten my ass kicked for it as well, but I believe in calling a spade a spade!

Amen brother. Whenever it pops up, I tell them "Be nice..." And I guess its the way I say it because it seems to quell the remarks.

 

[Centexfarmer]

Amen brother. Whenever it pops up, I tell them "Be nice..." And I guess its the way I say it because it seems to quell the remarks.

Didn't think of that.

Just say, "Be Nice..."

Here I was being all confrontational, and inviting Eric out to join me in bashing some straight boy ass!

"Be nice..."

Well hell, I'm sure that works just as well!

 

[GL]

Didn't think of that.

Just say, "Be Nice..."

Here I was being all confrontational, and inviting Eric out to join me in bashing some straight boy ass!

"Be nice..."

Well hell, I'm sure that works just as well!

Now Pres, you and I both know that as Texan's we tend to be polite and cordial.

So when that doesn't work out as we would hope, then we need to kick some ass.

 

[tbonez]

Had a situation recently where a neighbour started spouting off about the gay marriage debate. It was pretty shameful actually...rhymed off every negative anti-gay stereotype in the book. I just listened 'till she wad finished and then asked her if she had noticed the tailgate of my Jeep. She looked puzzled so I walked her around and pointed to the little 1" x 2" rainbow sticker. She asked what it meant and I replied: "It means I like the cock."

I doubt she will ever speak to me again and I couldn't be happier.

I'm big on "dignity". Often maintaining it involves making some pin-head squirm. Their problem, not mine. In this day-and-age they have no excuse not to have a clue.

 

[Centexfarmer]

The Texas way! Hospitality first, then some serious ass kicking!

Absolutely!

My Grandpa always said, "Nice people understand nice, and ugly people understand ugly. Kill 'em with kindness first!"

 

[eddielee]

I would tell my parents they were wrong. I've done that in the past with other family members. I had a cousin, who knew I was gay, start to bash gays at a family reunion. I corrected him as best as I could. I didn't want to start an argument in front of the entire family. My cousin is in the closet and he's an asshole. I don't tolerate intolerance, no matter what the source.

 

[frankfrank]

This is one of those polls that doesn't always have just one answer. It can depend on the circumstances. It's one thing if they're telling "f****t jokes" and laughing and having a good time, or somebody's talking about a friend who they may rather wish wasn't gay; it's quite another thing if they're showing extreme prejudice and anger and talking about wanting to beat up or kill somebody if they even think the person is gay. I would have to offer that I have friends of most sexual persuasions (no transsexual friends right now, but that's only circumstance and "luck of the draw" at this point), and I love and admire the humanity and individuality of them all.

But in a situation of extreme hatred, where I may fear for my life even if thought to be a "sympathizer" at all, I'll probably want to take my exit as soon as possible. Thankfully I have never found myself in one of those situations.

 

[gabriel1]

I chose tell them they're wrong - always have.

 

[NickCole]

Not a tough question; very easy.

Stand up and speak out for what you believe in.

Otherwise you're only using the unique human power of your voice and language for senseless chatter. What a goddamn waste of opportunity.

 

[Soilwork]

So... ok... in this hypothetical situation, do I not have the fucking balls to come out and tell them to all get stuffed?

I don't see that as an option.

 

[SFMusic]

Since all my family and friends know I am gay, and are very supportive of me (now), I have to go think back to the time before I came out. My oldest brother and my brother-in-law were extremely homophobic and were always telling fag jokes, and putting down gays. Because I never liked arguments or confrontations, I suffered in silence. But in a strange way, this seemed to push me out of the closet sooner than I might have if they were not so homophobic. One day the jokes, and put downs were just too much and I told every one that I was one of those guys who they were making fun of.

From the moment I told them all that I was gay, the fag jokes, and other puts downs instantly stopped, and I have never had an uncomfortable moment with my family ever since.

Coming out of the closet....it's a good thing.

Let´s suppose your family or friends who do not know you are gay start bashing gay people in front of you, telling all kinds of lies ans misconceptions you know they are not true. would you make your stand and, even if impersonally, and some how try to undo their conceptions or would you go with the flow and bash them too?

 

[MadeUpName27]

Let´s suppose your family or friends who do not know you are gay start bashing gay people in front of you, telling all kinds of lies ans misconceptions you know they are not true. would you make your stand and, even if impersonally, and some how try to undo their conceptions or would you go with the flow and bash them too?

I have found that getting up in somebody's face and tearing his ignorant, bigoted bullshit beliefs to the ground is much cheaper than therapy.

It's fun, too...

 

[Leidian]

This actually happens to me all the time. I have only recently come to terms with the fact that I am gay and have not told anyone yet. I am often surprised at how ignorant people I am close to can be because they think no one in the conversation is gay. I suppose they were always like that, but I never noticed because I didn't associate myself with it before. Even my own parents do it- which is more surprising because my aunt is gay and they (at least around her) are totally fine with it.

I'm not very confrontational so I don't start a huge fight over it, but I make it known I disagree. I would NEVER participate in bashing. And I correct the blatant ignorance.

Every time I'm in this situation I am kind of hurt by it. I know they don't know I'm gay, but that doesn't make it better - it just means that they won't say it when I'm around if I tell them. Maybe it's just an excuse not to have to say anything, but I never jump in with "WELL I'M GAY AND WHAT YOU SAID DOESN'T APPLY TO ME" because I don't believe it will stop them from being ignorant when I'm not there. If it was somebody random I could probably do that for the shock value, but that's not how I want to come out to my friends and family.

 

[Nonimus]

I'd have to 'deffend' my kind - Although, some screeching little queens deserve a fucking good shoeing - but i'd do that when we're on our own and not in front of the Hetro's.

 

[confusedboy23]

No one knows of my sexuality and I have started to do just that - defend my kind. It wasn't too long ago that I had a very lengthy argument with my very best friend about gays and how I told him to keep his homopobic thoughts to himself! He was utterly surprised and I wonder if he knows or suspects anything............but I didn't care. We're still very best friends (I think).