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About a boy and bad timing

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Hey guys,
Long time no see.
So I've got a problem. At the beginning of this semester, it began to occur to me that I was crushing up on my little's little brother in the frat I'm in. As I wasn't sure how he felt about it (especially since it would have been a bit complicated, him being my little little and all), I delayed doing anything about it. Despite my mind's insistence that this was a bad idea, my feelings for him grew stronger every day. Worse to worst, he's a senior and will be graduating in 3 weeks.
So as I'm sure you saw coming, last night I kissed him. He kissed back. We spent the night together kissing, cuddling, talking. In the morning, we went to this place on campus to watch the sun rise and discovered it was facing the wrong way. He's hilarious and awesome and everything.
Things are great. He's funny, awesome, great taste in music, cute, my age....everything. Sorry that came out weird, but it had seemed everyone else I had dated up to this point always had one bad bit to them. Fun, but not attractive. Attractive, but bitchy. Fun and attractive, but 10 years older than me. This guy...perfect. Just my type...cute, funny, nerdy...he's great.
Oh right. He's graduating in 3 weeks. I'm a Junior.
Oh right. I'm starting to get feelings for him I've never had...at all before. I'm listening to Sufjan Stevens "To Be Alone With You" on repeat. I'm smiling like an idiot all the time. I want to be around him all of the time. I'm not sure what to call this. I'm sure it's not love...that would be way to fast. Still...it's crazy...not used to this.
It's frustrating. I am setting myself up to get hurt. He IS leaving. SOON.
I'm pretty sure I'm about to get my heart broke. Advice?
 
Stop wasting all your time kissing and start fucking like rabbits on coke and viagra.
 
Every person who comes into your life has an impact on you. Go with the flow and enjoy it. If we all worried that things would eventually cause us grief none of us would have relationships, children, pets, or even cars or homes, for that matter. Live.
 
Just because he's graduating doesn't mean you guys can't be together unless he's moving somewhere really really far after he's done with college. Do you guys live in the same area? If the distance is like 100 miles or so...you guys can always arrange to meet over the weekend. I say you should just keep the relationship going. Besides, you're a junior so you're almost there yourself.
 
Rareboy--both he and I are virgins, so we'd be going at a kind of slow pace anyway.

SoreKnees--yeah...I hear your point. It's just frustrating since I know when the time limit is...and it's so soon!

HotB0d--he does live kinda far away. We go to school together in Virginia, but he's from New Jersey. I mean, I guess he could get a job anywhere when he graduates, but if he's smart, he'll get the fuck out of Virginia. I know I plan to. I hear Iowa is nice this time of year :P
 
Rareboy--both he and I are virgins, so we'd be going at a kind of slow pace anyway.
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How many days do you think you're on earth for anyway?

If you are so locked up that you just don't want to rip one another's clothes off and fuck in the streets...I gotta say that neither of you are likely going to miss the other that much.
 
rareboy said:
How many days do you think you're on earth for anyway?

If you are so locked up that you just don't want to rip one another's clothes off and fuck in the streets...I gotta say that neither of you are likely going to miss the other that much.
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Beat me to it.
 
Why is it that gay men spend so much time tossing obstacles in thier own paths.

You like him, he likes you, are you both incurably religious? Are you waiting for - what - marriage? Can you do that in VA? Why not just go for it and stop intellectualizing it to death?

Things will happen organically if you let them, go with the moment. Cross your bridges when you come to them. Life is too short.

hmmmmm.................

Yup think I hit all the cliches.

Seriously. Why fuck up what time you do have?
 
30 year old virgin just started kissing younger frat boys? he's waited enough, jeez!
 
Well then sir...time to make the next 3 weeks the best time of your virginal life :P Go biking, camping, romantic dinner, and have silly sex until you can't sex anymore haha.

In serious note, you should ask him what his plan is after graduation. I think that will help you in making the right decision. And isn't summer just around the corner? Use this summer to decide.
 
Don't be thinking about this kind of stuff, just appreciate here and now, take day by day and thank the higher power that you guys found eachother
 
Why not just go for it and stop intellectualizing it to death?
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I have to say that when all the young virgins find they spend more time blogging and texting about the agonies of imaginary loss than just getting on with actually living and experiencing joy, there is no more succinct and good advice than the quote above.
 
For heavens' sake boy! Get out of analysis paralysis and live in the moment a little! (And by 'a little' I mean 'as much as you can possibly force yourself to do'.) Limit your advance planning to buying condoms and lube just in case.

Are you going to go to school all summer? If not, it's three weeks PLUS THE SUMMER. And don't worry about it.

Sweet, ride this wave as long as it rolls. You may get your heart broken, but you won't regret it. Not giving yourself to this experience (with or without sex, that's not what I'm talking about) because you're afraid it will hurt when it's over--that you'll regret.

Listen to your uncle Criostoir. GO FOR IT. Seriously.

*sigh* No one ever gave me this advice when I was young. But it was a different time, and I probably wouldn't have listened anyway.
 
Hey guys,
Thanks for the pep talk. I did decide to generally "roll with it." He's so great. I'm so happy. It's his birthday tomorrow and I'm making a picnic. I still have to get him something... :P
Who knows where this is going. I don't care. I'm happy :)
 
mcdaddy said:
Hey guys,
Thanks for the pep talk. I did decide to generally "roll with it." He's so great. I'm so happy. It's his birthday tomorrow and I'm making a picnic. I still have to get him something... :P
Who knows where this is going. I don't care. I'm happy :)
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Yayyy! *happy dog dance*
 
mcdaddy said:
Hey guys,
Thanks for the pep talk. I did decide to generally "roll with it." He's so great. I'm so happy. It's his birthday tomorrow and I'm making a picnic. I still have to get him something... :P
Who knows where this is going. I don't care. I'm happy :)
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You go for it, up thread your JUB Board uncle said it's the opportunities you don't seize that you'll regret, and I have to wholeheartedly agree with that. Embrace that philosophy.
 
sigh...it was fun. I'm glad I dated him and enjoyed what we had while it lasted. Today, I went home to Richmond and he will be graduating soon. Too bad we couldn't have had more time together :/
 
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