About time maybe?

[sixthson]

Are you financially dependent on your parents? If so, would they stop supporting you if you came out? That might be the only reason to not tell them. Culturally or religiously is this an issue for them?

 

[HunterM]

Tell them now. "Mom and dad, I have cancer." Pause for their reactions..."No, I'm kidding. Hahahaha. I'm gay. I'm going out with my friends. See you guys later." Then walk out of the house. Give them time to process the info by themselves.

 

[sixthson]

Tell them now. "Mom and dad, I have cancer."

What if they say "At least you aren't gay."?

 

[nycguydowntown]

Sounds like culturally this may take some time for them to come around--it seems like a "don't ask don't tell" situation where everyone knows the truth but no one is ready to face it--I'd go easy on them---I bet in time they will come around---wouldn't hide anything, and wouldn't shove it down their throats. Yet.

 

[NakedReadyGuy]

My advice is that you need to let it out no matter how difficult it may be, sometimes you just have to speak on impulse and make it real, honest and if it helps, put some humor in it somehow. It only takes a split second and perhaps it will turn out very well, with your parents handling it better than you imagined.

 

[nycguydowntown]

Well you're brother seems to think they know---so I'd wait for the right moment---don't think there's a big rush because I think it will take a while for it to sink in anyway.

 

[Seasoned]

Since you already came out to your mom and since she is in denial about you being gay and is also intimidating you by forcing the girlfriend talk upon you, I'd take the next alone moment with her to remind her that you've told her you are gay and that you need her to stop pushing the notion of a girlfriend.

Remind her that you are the one who's gay and in need of support due to your cultural community. If you're willing to be quiet about it for now with your extended family tell her that, but do tell her how much you need her to remove pressure to be someone you're not.

Good luck and best wishes.

 

[dragon08]

I don't know If I'm a little late to post but I think that you should just tell your parents and try to make them understand that this isn't a choice.

I know that all families work differently but my parents were a little sad over the fact that I came out to them but they are supportive and I think that they took it well.

One thing that would bug me before was that they would point out girls to me and say things like oh that girl is cute go start a conversation, or constantly push the girlfriend thing. They stopped after I came out though.

I think you need to break your parents of this denial because it is only going to hurt both you and themselves more in the long run the longer that this is kept up


Best wishes dude, I hope that all goes well with you

 

[HunterM]

They may be sad due to the following:
- Not be able to have grandchildren.
- Feeling guilty that they didn't do enough to be "good parents". Otherwise, you wouldn't be gay.
- Your friends won't accept you...making you an outcast.

Be prepared to have answers to these issues. Reassure them that you are happier now that you're being true to who you are.