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Okay so I never had a Valentine before and this year I want to do something about that. So if you saw my first thread you know about the guy who I met and have feelings for. We talked about stuff and he's not looking for a relationship or anything. Not even with a girl but I still want to be hopeful but not push it to far that I lose him as a friend.
This guy is also like an older version of me but not shy and pretty confident.

But anyways I was going to ask him if he would be my Valentine and if he was to say Yes I was thinking about getting him something just to show him that I really appreciate him. I sort of have a feeling that he would say yes, hope I'm not wrong but we'll see. The problem is I don't know what I could get for this guy. And I know I have time but I want to be ready especially if he says yes.

Any suggestions or advice would be really great.
 
If he says he's not looking for a relationship, I'd get him something that I'd get a regular friend--nothing too touchy like chocolates or anything--maybe more like a movie set, books, wine, etc... something that fits his hobbies and interests.
 
A gift certificate to Best Buy or a store that he likes. If he says no, then you can keep that certificate for your enjoyment.
 
I don't want to burst any bubbles, so forgive me, but I'm going to advise you to be cautious in order to save your own feelings. I know this is coming from a very sweet side of yourself but the question could creep him out and his reaction could then upset you.

He may take it as something coming from innocence.

He may think it childish.

He may think you are telling him you have romantic feelings.

Can you be honest and just tell him you don't want to be alone on VD?
 
Given the newness of the relationship and his lack of interest in a serious relationship, a gift or other overly romantic act might be premature.

Instead, ask him out to a nice dinner or a public event that he would enjoy like a play, concert, etc.
 
I think it's extremely wonderful for you to be in a place where you have someone you want to be your valentine.

That being said - he said he's not looking for a relationship. So where do you see things going in the near future? Is it your hope that by spending time together something might develop? And are you planning to continue having a casual sexual relationship?

Anything too romantic could end up scaring him off. So I think something simple like treating him to dinner or a movie would be best as others suggested for now. Or you could have him over and cook for him - just keep it casual no candles or anything.

Best of luck!
 
Wow well thanks for all the suggestions and advice guys, really appreciate it.
If I do decide to give him something I know this might be to much but I was thinking about getting him an External Hard drive. Not much of a Valentines Gift but I think it's something he might need.

@soreknees: I can ask him that. I know he'll be working until late that day so Ill be alone for the whole day anyways I guess. Was hoping I could drive to his place or something.

@Techie: I am hoping that by spending more time that something may develop but I don't want to pressure him into doing anything or try and do that and get hurt in the end. He said we were going with the flow with sex and I'm cool with just having a casual relationship because I at least get to see him from time to time.
 
Do you know his favorite food or restaurant?

If he's working late picking him up his favorite meal and going over would be nice.

You could also try a more sexual but not exactly romantic valentines approach given where you guys are right now. Maybe a massage?

I just think any gift that you can give him, like the hard drive, that he keeps might come off wrong. Unless it can be something funny.
 
No I don't know. And I forgot what he told me what he's been eating, cause he's been on a diet.

I want to give him a massage, I've already told him a few times that I want to because he deserves it.

The Hard drive was so he could mainly put his music on there and whatever else because he lost all his music from iTunes and I was trying to help understand the problem why he lost it so thats one of the reasons for the HD.
 
I think a massage is great. An actual gift could make things awkward.
 
Came back to check to see what's been happening. Good luck!
 
I hope we haven't lessened your excitement over your first valentine gift. Maybe you can spice the massage up with some kind of massage oil as the gift? Might be messy for a Monday but could be fun as well!
 
Ha ha I would so do that, don't think VD on Monday is okay, now if it was Friday then even better because he doesn't work on Friday. :)
 
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