Accidentally swallowed...what risks are there?

[onetimething]

I just hooked up with this guy who came in my mouth without warning. Immediately after he came, I tried to keep all of it in my mouth and then spit it out in the bathroom, but I'm sure that some of it probably was swallowed; just because it was so unexpected. What sort of risks do I face from swallowing a bit of another man's cum? I'm sure the question has been asked countless times on this board but a brief cursory search revealed nothing.

And for the record, I am/was very pissed off about this and told him so, and do not intend on seeing him again.

 

[racer2438]

well it doesnt take much for the germ. I hope he was clean. I hope as he came that only the first spurt went into your mouth and then you pulled off. I would never let him in your house ever again. That was so disrepectfull of you. he had no right to do that and he should of aleast let you know and you have some choice. I wish the best,try not to be so worked up and stress , but get checked anyway. and be caefull with the next peolpe you hook with and you dont want to risk them also.

But I gotta ask>> dont take it wrong> but wtf you doing sucken some one off you dont know anything about WITHOUT A CONDOM..

sorry, BE carefull, I bet you will from now on huh.

 

[onetimething]

Thanks for the response, racer. After doing a bit of googling, it appears that swallowing poses you at risk for hepatitis B, hepatitis C, syphilis, gonorrhea, etc. The usual fare. Basically everything short of HIV and pregnancy. I just signed in and posted on here out of habit as this is where I go when I have any sort of sexual issue. I will of course be getting tested as a result of this mess, but I have a question for you all. Considering the fact that this just took place today, how long should I wait to get tested considering the fact that I'm assuming it would take awhile for any signs of disease to come back?

well it doesnt take much for the germ. I hope he was clean. I hope as he came that only the first spurt went into your mouth and then you pulled off. I would never let him in your house ever again. That was so disrepectfull of you. he had no right to do that and he should of aleast let you know and you have some choice. I wish the best,try not to be so worked up and stress , but get checked anyway. and be caefull with the next peolpe you hook with and you dont want to risk them also.

It was incredibly disrespectful. He claims to have said "I'm cumming" prior to doing so, which he just may have, but if he did, I certainly didn't hear him. Right now, I'm alternating between anger at him and anger at myself. Angry at myself for not explicitly stating prior to fooling around that I will absolutely not under any circumstances allow someone to cum in my mouth. I suppose it's one of those things that while I generally do explicitly state, in some ways, I thought it almost goes without saying, which is why I'm angry at him.

We hooked up at his place, but either way, I do not plan to see him again and plan to leave a nasty email the second after I write this post; not just regarding this, but regarding our hook-up as a whole (not an enjoyable time, and this is just one aspect of it).

But I gotta ask>> dont take it wrong> but wtf you doing sucken some one off you dont know anything about WITHOUT A CONDOM..

It was a serious error in judgement on my part. I can't make any excuses for myself.

sorry, BE carefull, I bet you will from now on huh.

Yes. This was a random hook-up, something that I thought I was "off" of awhile back, but this is now my second in a relatively short period of time and both have left me cold, unsatisfied and angry and I'm newly resolved that this is not the way I want to conduct myself. There was a thread on here awhile back hypothesizing that many gay/bi men go through a "slut" period when they first start experimenting with men where they just get so excited at this new world that they go a little crazy, but that they eventually settle down (well, most of them) and tire of that way of living, and well, that's where I'm at right now. Hooking up gives me temporary gratification but I'm to the point where I want either something more or nothing at all.

 

[Diego_Ryan]

Thanks for the response, racer. After doing a bit of googling, it appears that swallowing poses you at risk for hepatitis B, hepatitis C, syphilis, gonorrhea, etc. The usual fare. Basically everything short of HIV and pregnancy. I just signed in and posted on here out of habit as this is where I go when I have any sort of sexual issue. I will of course be getting tested as a result of this mess, but I have a question for you all. Considering the fact that this just took place today, how long should I wait to get tested considering the fact that I'm assuming it would take awhile for any signs of disease to come back?

It was incredibly disrespectful. He claims to have said "I'm cumming" prior to doing so, which he just may have, but if he did, I certainly didn't hear him. Right now, I'm alternating between anger at him and anger at myself. Angry at myself for not explicitly stating prior to fooling around that I will absolutely not under any circumstances allow someone to cum in my mouth. I suppose it's one of those things that while I generally do explicitly state, in some ways, I thought it almost goes without saying, which is why I'm angry at him.

We hooked up at his place, but either way, I do not plan to see him again and plan to leave a nasty email the second after I write this post; not just regarding this, but regarding our hook-up as a whole (not an enjoyable time, and this is just one aspect of it).


It was a serious error in judgement on my part. I can't make any excuses for myself.

Yes. This was a random hook-up, something that I thought I was "off" of awhile back, but this is now my second in a relatively short period of time and both have left me cold, unsatisfied and angry and I'm newly resolved that this is not the way I want to conduct myself. There was a thread on here awhile back hypothesizing that many gay/bi men go through a "slut" period when they first start experimenting with men where they just get so excited at this new world that they go a little crazy, but that they eventually settle down (well, most of them) and tire of that way of living, and well, that's where I'm at right now. Hooking up gives me temporary gratification but I'm to the point where I want either something more or nothing at all.

You can get HIV from this if he's infected, but the risk is lower (it's higher risk for anal sex)

 

[onetimething]

Thank you so much for the links BeardedWolf. It's definitely an interesting, and at times frightening read, but it's something that everyone, myself included, really needs to know.

The VERY same thing happened to me - and I ended up getting Ghonorreah of the throath! Eww!!! Wait a couple of days, if your throat starts to get scratchy and painful, see the doctor who will swab, and give you antibiotics! Nasty boys carrying this stuff. Ugh!

Yikes. That's not the type of thing I like to hear, but I realize it's a very real threat. I'm assuming the gonorrhea was curable?

I'm just livid about it, the more I think about it, as I said, both at myself for getting involved in the situation and at the other guy as well. I may regret saying this, but I do think the guy was clean just from what I know of his background (from a conservative Islamic country with a microscopic rate of HIV and other STDs) and sexual history (only a few sexual partners). Of course, all that I know is all that he CHOSE to tell me, and all it takes is one person to give someone an STD, but from what I know, I think my risk is on the lower end, but I'm still concerned. I suppose this is the male equivalent of a pregnancy scare and in the long-run, if lucky enough to be negative, will probably be good for me in terms of scaring me into some better and safer behavior.

I will get tested of course, but I think I will hold off for a few weeks (and of course engage in no sexual activity during that time) just because of the incubation time on various diseases that I could be at risk for. And of course, I will get tested probably six months in the future regardless of whether or not I've had any sexual contact in those six months, to make certain. I'm worried and reading up as much as I can but at the moment really, there's nothing I can do. Any damage that was done was done and I just now have to wait. Unfortunately, there's no morning after pill for STDs.

 

[Eternaldarkness]

don't worry too much!Chill out! There are risk like everyone said above but, who knows...

Its a lesson to be learn, just remember next time when you're going down on a stranger, tell him before that you do not swallow. He probably doesn't have anything.

He probably didn't even do it on purpose or you give a hell of a blowjob that he couldn't react fast enough. Maybe since you didn't spit out right way, he didn't pull out because he thought you wanted to swallow.

If everything turns out fine for the next several days and after you get your results, when you do engage in a sexual activity with somone you just hook up, be sure to set the rules straight before you play. Oh, and ask them to speak louder just in case! hehehe

 

[jockboy01]

There is no increased risk from swallowing versus just cumming in your mouth and spitting it out. Non of the STDs survive the stomach acid and it is all through mucosal contact in the mouth/throat.

And there isn't a lot of difference between just sucking on his dick and him cumming in your mouth b/c there is still precum. But the volume makes cumming slightly more infectious.

You can pretty much get most of the STDs from oral but your risk of HIV is quite low from it.

 

[greekdude]

Did you have any cuts or sores in your mouth? Was is your partner's HIV status, or didn't you ask? Swallowing has little risk over cumming in the mouth. Afterwards you should have immediately rinsed your mouth with antiseptic just to be safe.

I have never permitted anybody to cum in my mouth, not even longtime boyfriends. If I really like the guy I would let him come on my face if he wanted to. There have been a couple of accidents, like a squirt making it beyond the lips. I spit it out and gargle clean. You're young and healthy, don't allow others to put you at risk.

You're probably okay. Remember to play it safe always.

 

[budgieboy]

You are doing the right thing with all of your reading. Although there is a very low HIV risk, you are more at risk from other STDs. Go and see your GP or go to your sexual health clinic for tests (do this regularly anyway - it doesn't do any harm! I do it and am in a monogamous relationship - it is just respect for my partner). If you have been unlucky and picked up one of the STDs, then a course of antibiotics will sort you out. I would also advise getting the various hepatitis vaccines. They can be really nasty. Have a HIV test a couple of times a year anyway. Everything I have read says that risk of HIV from oral is VERY low, and you can reduce it by making sure that you don't go near sucking dick if you have any kinds of cuts or ulcers in your mouth. Could use condoms of course, but I would probably just stick to hand jobs in preference to that !!

 

[bluedragon4]

not sure if someone already wrote this but you would have been better off to swallow than let it sit in your mouth. your stomach acids would kill it. were you trying to be polite by keeping it in your mouth? and after the first squirt why not pull his dick out? you are a very considerate dick sucker -lol.

 

[onetimething]

Jockboy, that is the most interesting thing I've learned through all the reading that I've done online regarding this topic, in that it seems as it swallowing poses no added risk than it would for someone to spit it out (and in some instances from what I've read, others say it is actually safer to swallow due to the stomach acid killing off the bacteria). I hadn't realized that it was the contact with mucous membrane that was the primary culprit for infections.

Greekdude, I didn't have any cuts or sores in my mouth, that I know of at least. I did ask him his HIV status, and his STD status as well beforehand, and he told me that he was squeaky clean. Again however, people lie. He may have something and just lied to get laid, or he may not even know he has something. You never know. I did not immediately rinse my mouth out with antiseptic because there was none. I was at his place, not mine. Not to mention, I was somewhat panicking. I thought about brushing my teeth vigorously but had heard that this actually increasing the risks of disease as it opens up the gums. Basically, I just washed my mouth with water probably 100 times.

Budgieboy, yes, getting tested every couple months is a wise idea. I haven't been getting tested every couple months, just because my sex life hasn't been that active, but have been getting tested whenever need be, and as I said, will be doing so in a few weeks to see what resulted from this encounter, and then in several months down the line, in case there was a long incubation period of a certain disease.

Bluedragon, I was not trying to be polite in keeping it in my mouth. What happened was he came rather unexpectedly, after maybe 10 seconds of dick sucking (I had sucked him a bit earlier, but immediately prior to this 10 seconds, I was sucking on his nipples). Having never had anyone cum in my mouth before, I had no idea what it felt or tasted like. He made no noise when he came and suddenly I just felt something in my mouth. I was shocked at first and as stupid as it sounds, for whatever reason, it didn't even strike me in that first second that it was cum. I don't know what I thought, but after one second, I did indeed pull off when I realized what it was. It almost just felt like excess saliva, as there wasn't that much, it had no taste, and just didn't really feel like what I imagined cum would feel like; not to mention, he didn't make any sort of noise or movements or anything like someone who had just cum. He was still cumming a bit and some dripped out of his dick and my mouth onto my chin as I ran to the bathroom to spit it out. I had no idea that it would've been better to swallow it. Otherwise, I would have.

For the record, I just heard from him last night as he unexpectedly responded to the rather nasty email I sent him. To my surprise, he apologized, and he sounded sincerely apologetic at the whole situation. It doesn't change my potential test results, and I certainly don't intend to see him again, but at least it diminishes the anger at the whole situation (only part of which I detailed here).

 

[jockboy01]

I heard that it's only risky when the sperm enters the mouth but I heard that pre-cum etc. is no risk at all, is that right?

The jury really is still out on this one. It is very difficult to determine this. But it seems like there is at the very least a theoretical risk as there are lymphocytes in pre-cum which is where HIV lives. It's going to be hard to document cases of this I think. It is way to early to say that pre-cum is no risk. It's a risk, but unclear how high.

 

[panic1]

eer you can suck some one off with a condom on ?

 

[bluedragon4]

To be honest I had this happen once. It was actually with the porn star Johnny Hazzard. This is maybe 6 months before he got the bright idea to do porn. I knew him through friends and we hung out sorta like dinner with friends but not really alone. Anyway,we hooked up once and i was sucking his dick and he came in my mouth with no word that he was cumming. I spit it out on the floor right away without thinking and just walked away. I saw him once after that and he was "Johnny Hazzard" at that point(not his real name) and we didn't really talk which was akward since we were having dinner with friends. He is a really nice guy though and shit happens. I wasn't pissed but I'm not a fan of anyone taking that decision away from me. can't believe I'm writing this story!