Accused Of Using Men For Sex Only

[dionyssian]

...doing what a few would dare (of course in the circle of straight men.) and besides what kind of guy-sex have you really experienced? As you seem to limit your experience to that of your fuck-buddy:kissing, handjob, blowjob, fucking him or.....have you been ...you know...ass-fucked by him? :grin

 

[RRRalph]

I don't see (gay or bi) guys as a challange or as sexobject for that matter.
I've been a buddy to most and sexually i do it all.

 

[dionyssian]

You're just a horny straight guy :grin Ten or five years from now, you'll lose interest in casual sex and will settle down with a girl. I know some guys who are like that. They are all married now.

 

[RRRalph]

You're just a horny straight guy :grin Ten or five years from now, you'll lose interest in casual sex and will settle down with a girl. I know some guys who are like that. They are all married now.

I am a horny guy, that is for sure

 

[PorthAnnwn]

Just face it--it's not about relationships, it's about sex.

That's not really a gay thing, but a man thing. Men distinguish sex from love much more than women do.

If you're interested in more than just sex, delay the sex for a while. Go on a few dates first so you know if you're compatible. Hopefully if he's not really interested that'll become clear.

 

[jeune-romantique]

I'm the same as you Ralph but you never know...one day a guy might come along that sweeps me off my feet...but for now I will only have long term relationships with women.

 

[pikespeak]

I wonder about those who use men just for sex--would you even be open to a relationship with a man? I mean sincerely open to the idea?

Would you hide it?

 

[RRRalph]

I'm the same as you Ralph but you never know...one day a guy might come along that sweeps me off my feet...

That's the right attitude: be open for it and who knows what happens.

 

[wildhog]

One of my Jub buddies noticed that i seem to be connected to a certain controversy. It is about me having sex with men & women and me choosing only women to start a longterm relationship with. One gay man accused me of using men for sex only. Some are having a personal vendetta with me and some even dedicate a whole thread about my way of life.

It all comes down to my inability to feel emotionally conected to men, but yet the ability to feel sexual attracted to men. I don’t repress and i don’t ignore my emotional or romantic feelings for men at all. If i fall in love with a man, that will be fine as well. I don’t choose women for social acceptance. I do make out with men in public, so it isn't about acceptance.

I understand that gay men feel like a second rang low life when someone says to them: i can have sex with you, but i can’t love you. It doesn’t seem fair, but i can’t help it. It’s not that i don’t want to, but i just can’t. I feel friendship when i have sex with a man. It is sex with a buddy: fun and wild. Nothing emotional and nothing romantic.

Yes, some people are in denial and use this as a cover up, but this is not always the case. I want to emphasize that it is not a choice to live this way. The intention of this thread is to clarify this two gender lust and one gender love possibility. When you have a couple of questions, just ask. Are there more people who has this kind of bisexuality?

What are your thoughts about this subject?

I happened to have bumped into this thread just today and I perfectly get what you had written on the subject. I share your emotions and sentiments...My thoughts on this is that albeit I live with a gay man as if he were my wife, I find myself attracted to pretty women-this feeling was inborn; and, it is not my choice; and it is the way it is. Nevertheless, I am faithful to my male companion.
On to a different subject. When watching porn, however I easily get off watching a man's balls and dick going in and out a woman's vagina. Gay porn to me is exremely boring. Peace out.

 

[craz1901]

I love my girlfriend, and she has no idea that I have had men as sexual partners. I am very straight, but yeah, I do use men for sex. It's so hot. I'm vgl, but if you go on a gay site like Manhunt, I can nab a dude in like 5 minutes, I get my nut off and boom. It doesn't mean i disrespect men, or women, I like what I like. I can get off with both sexes. Being with a guy is primal, and they do things girls don't want to do like rim and lick my balls. If it's a fantasy out there for guys, it can easily be a reality, and it doesn't make you gay, it makes you human.

 

[natedogg323]

I love my girlfriend, and she has no idea that I have had men as sexual partners. I am very straight, but yeah, I do use men for sex. It's so hot. I'm vgl, but if you go on a gay site like Manhunt, I can nab a dude in like 5 minutes, I get my nut off and boom. It doesn't mean i disrespect men, or women, I like what I like. I can get off with both sexes. Being with a guy is primal, and they do things girls don't want to do like rim and lick my balls. If it's a fantasy out there for guys, it can easily be a reality, and it doesn't make you gay, it makes you human.

Yes you do disrespect people. You disrespect your girlfriend who you "love" every time you use a guy to get your rocks off. If you were in love you would be committed to her. In case you didn't know this little fact...CHEATING IS DISRESPECTING YOUR BOYFRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND. Just cause your vgl doesn't mean you should use people for sex.

 

[lyconthrope]

ok, I am probably gonna get yelled at big time for saying this because I am girl but I have to say it.

"its not gay if your on top" or however you'd like to phrase it, I could be wrong (please correct me if I am ) but thats gotta be crap! if your having regular sex with men then your not straight, right?

and when your in a relationship then sex with anyone other than your partner is cheating, even if its a differant gender, and if you have an open relationship then your partner at least deserves to know who you have been with.

ok, I am done

 

[Singularity]

ok, I am probably gonna get yelled at big time for saying this because I am girl but I have to say it.

"its not gay if your on top" or however you'd like to phrase it, I could be wrong (please correct me if I am ) but thats gotta be crap! if your having regular sex with men then your not straight, right?

and when your in a relationship then sex with anyone other than your partner is cheating, even if its a differant gender, and if you have an open relationship then your partner at least deserves to know who you have been with.

ok, I am done

The truth is, you're nowhere near straight if you have sex with guys even if it's like once every blue moon. I've been trying to tell that to people but it seems like our fucked up society prefers to ignore that fact and embrace the hypocrisy of lesbianism being semi-normal and for guys topping other guys only to keep calling them straight.

 

[lyconthrope]

The truth is, you're nowhere near straight if you have sex with guys even if it's like once every blue moon. I've been trying to tell that to people but it seems like our fucked up society prefers to ignore that fact and embrace the hypocrisy of lesbianism being semi-normal and for guys topping other guys only to keep calling them straight.

see thats what I figured! but since I am a girl in here I thought I'd play it safe.
I dont understand why they delude themselves! and your right about the double standerd about lesbians vs gay men its horrendous, and as much as I am probably gonna get screamed at for this....any sexual contact between two men is gay! or at the least bisexual, and lieing to yourself (and others) about it is doing no one any good.

 

[Singularity]

I mean even I've fantasized about having sex with guys that are hetero but I know that it won't ever happen.

I think every gay or bisexual guy had that fantasy at least once in their life, which I consider normal, but it only is the truth if you're the guy's first male sexual encounter and if he's been considering himself straight before. After the act (and if he keeps it up) he is bisexual, unless he realizes that women ain't his game - then he's gay.

 

[tckidd07]

One of my Jub buddies noticed that i seem to be connected to a certain controversy. It is about me having sex with men & women and me choosing only women to start a longterm relationship with. One gay man accused me of using men for sex only. Some are having a personal vendetta with me and some even dedicate a whole thread about my way of life.

It all comes down to my inability to feel emotionally conected to men, but yet the ability to feel sexual attracted to men. I don’t repress and i don’t ignore my emotional or romantic feelings for men at all. If i fall in love with a man, that will be fine as well. I don’t choose women for social acceptance. I do make out with men in public, so it isn't about acceptance.

I understand that gay men feel like a second rang low life when someone says to them: i can have sex with you, but i can’t love you. It doesn’t seem fair, but i can’t help it. It’s not that i don’t want to, but i just can’t. I feel friendship when i have sex with a man. It is sex with a buddy: fun and wild. Nothing emotional and nothing romantic.

Yes, some people are in denial and use this as a cover up, but this is not always the case. I want to emphasize that it is not a choice to live this way. The intention of this thread is to clarify this two gender lust and one gender love possibility. When you have a couple of questions, just ask. Are there more people who has this kind of bisexuality?

What are your thoughts about this subject?

that's exactly how i am. i just can't get emotionally attached to men. it's all physical for me.

 

[AngelFromAbove]

me too. I thought I was gay because I wanted to sex with men. However, I am not emotionally attached to men. My thoughts were that to be gay is to want to have sex with the same gender. How you feel, emotionally, is what determines if your gay, bi, or straight.

Well, there is still a physiological response in your body from men, so you actually would be classified as gay, technically. However, I am not telling you how to identify yourself.

 

[kayman23]

This is the reason I stopped having sex with guys.

Personally, I NEED that emotional connection for it to be satisfying for ME. For me to feel safe enough to even function. I don't feel safe, I go soft, and that, as they say is that.

Oh, I can finish the guy off, but the pleasure inherent in that is REAL breif, and leaves me hollow.

I never got that connection, and for ME, sex for sex's sake just doesn't cut it. Never has, never will.

And I'm afraid even the GAY men I've met, just seem to want sex.

I can't do it.

For those who can, go for it.

That's how I am with having sex. If I don't feel a connection then it is a no go.

 

[itsaigt]

I dont see the problem its not like he is lieing to them just to get sex whats its not a choice its just the way it is besides noadays one night stands are the norm
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[SilverRRCloud]

Accusation Of Using Men For Sex Only is simply ridiculous, regardless of your BI context.

Humans use humans for sex only.

Hardly anyone these days can say that he/she has only had sex with people whom they have been very profoundly in love with.

Sex happens to be one of our primal needs and adults seek other consenting adults to fullfil this particular need. If you want to see this as 'using' each other, so we all do.

SC