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wowsers30

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I think I have a problem. I think I have an addiction to masturbation and getting off in general. I don't see anything wrong with being virile and at the ready. But its gotten to the point where it bothers me that I want to jack off like all the time. And like I don't even cum that much anymore, which though I'm not planning on spreading my seed, is an obvious negative.

I guess I am not asking for you all to diagnose the problem more of ways to solve it. Are there anti-aphrodisiacs which will turn me off, which in turn will let me focus on more important things.
 
Well, if it doesn't bring any negative feedback, there is nothing wrong with keep doing it.
 
Not really. At least, nothing readily available. Perhaps you can limit yourself. Only do it, say, twice a day - once when you get up, and once when you go to bed at night?

Lex
 
](*,) Just my two cent worth, why would you be jacking so much living in Miami at 19 you should be recieving non stop attention. You know the hands off/mouth on type of atttention.:confused:

Yes I said it, now I need to go to bed.!oops!
 
MrBoBo said:
](*,) Just my two cent worth, why would you be jacking so much living in Miami at 19 you should be recieving non stop attention. You know the hands off/mouth on type of atttention.:confused:

Yes I said it, now I need to go to bed.!oops!
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You have to be HOT to get attention. You also have to be more social than I am. I've met guys but its not like I have a fuck buddy who's ready when I am.
 
There isn't much wrong about jacking off all the time UNLESS it is intefering with your daily life, say, school or work. I'v jerked off it countless places all throughout day too....;)
 
Hay Wowser, I'm 65 and still need to get off at least once a day and my load is getting better every week. Enjoy yourself.
 
confusedboy23 said:
There isn't much wrong about jacking off all the time UNLESS it is intefering with your daily life, say, school or work. I'v jerked off it countless places all throughout day too....;)
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That's the thing. Its almost a chore sometimes (even though I thoroughly enjoy it) to take a break and jack off. And what's worse is that I feel the need to make it interesting...websites, videos, stories, jub. I guess its not really a problem, just of me wondering where my time is going, and realizing thats time I could devote to other stuff.
 
I might take some heat for this, but here goes....

I think it would be better to cut back to 1, 2, 3 at the most times a day. With a day off once and a while. I've met too many guys who have had 99% or more of their sexual experience as masturbation only. So, when they're with another guy, it takes them FOREVER to come having 1-on-1 sex, or they can't really come AT ALL unless they're (guess, what?) masturbating...

So, if you ever have thoughts of plowing another guy (successfully), either jack off less, or visualize that scene, and/or others you might want to perform, while playing alone.
 
Um... the reason is that you are 19! Trust me; it will pass.
 
Oh dear god...to be 19 again......................
 
I've found that after I took a break for a couple of days, I don't feel the need to jack off as much. I guess its a psychological need. Although I enjoy jacking as much as possible I can wait if I need to.
 
wowsers30 said:
I've found that after I took a break for a couple of days, I don't feel the need to jack off as much. I guess its a psychological need. Although I enjoy jacking as much as possible I can wait if I need to.
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+1..........
 
Hey, it's possible I just have more guilt about sex than other people who've been posting to this forum, but I have this problem too. I actually think I'm addicted to getting off, and addicted to the porn that gets me off. It's not about the number of times a day--it's usually once or twice--but the fact that I have some important shit happening in my life that I need to be dedicating more attention to, and even though I go to bed every night swearing that I will not look at porn or jerk off the next day, I do. For me, the downside is that I'm less clearheaded, crankier and sleepier the evening of/day after jerking off, and I'm also more inclined and primed to want to jerk off again. It's been this way for years.

Meanwhile, what has helped me break the spell in the past has been having less downtime. When I've been working really hard on something I cared about or been spending time with people I really like or even just doing something new that I could really immerse myself in, I didn't have the time or feel the need to jerk off. I've gone maybe a month that way. It's the return to downtime, and the Internet particularly, that always pulled me off the wagon.

I'm not saying it's unhealthy to jerk off. It feels good, it's relaxing at times, and a lot of guys on here are clearly in favor of it (though, consider who you're asking--a bunch of guys who spend their time on a porn site are probably not going to encourage you to stop looking at porn or jerking off). But this isn't about being a prude or denying yourself pleasure. It's about feeling compelled to do it even when you would prefer not to, and being able to exercise the discipline to resist that compulsion. When you can't exercise that discipline, that's addiction, and I think addiction of any kind is bad--again, not because the act itself is bad, but because it means you aren't empowered to choose, and you're not in control of your own ability to make decisions.

The other way to address this is like any other addiction. For a while I tried being a part of this online community called no-porn.com. It involved admitting that I'm addicted, recognizing that I will always be addicted regardless of how much I'm actually engaged in jerking off and porn watching, and setting up a reward system for myself for every day that I went without. Lasted a week. Never bought myself the pair of shoes I promised myself after 30 days. I plan to try again soon.

Good luck!
 
When I was young I use to jack off up to three times a day. Don't think it's bad to do it as long as (amongst other things) it does not affect your daily routines whether it's work or studying. In my case it's both and whenever I have a mid semester test or end of semester exam coming up, I try to abstain from wanking and looking at porn which hopefully keeps my mind pure.
 
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