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Adoption or Biological Children?

asu1117

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For those of you who want to (or already have) have children, which route do you think you will choose?




I've been thinking more about kids lately, which has been a little shocking and confusing, and I was just curious about what others think.
 
I'm so glad I don't have to make this call right now, because I go back and forth all the time.

On one hand I would love to adopt a child and give them a chance at a better life, but at the same time I would also love to have a child that I knew was part of me. I mean he would be mine (biologically).

I'm not sure. I'm just happy I still have time to mature and won't have to make this call for awhile.
 
I personally don't want kids. If I did, I'd have no trouble adopting. Of course, I say that from a position of not wanting kids. From what I've learned, people who actually do want kids are a lot more adamant that it be THEIR kids, not somebody else's.

Lex
 
The White Stripe said:
I'm so glad I don't have to make this call right now, because I go back and forth all the time.

On one hand I would love to adopt a child and give them a chance at a better life, but at the same time I would also love to have a child that I knew was part of me. I mean he would be mine (biologically).

I'm not sure. I'm just happy I still have time to mature and won't have to make this call for awhile.
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Pretty much my sentiments exactly. It's a complex issue. One i've thought more about lately. But also something that is still far in the future.
 
If it was only my choice, I would adopt. But with that said my bf leans more toward using a surrogate. He is an only child, and would like to carry on his family. As well as I know his parents, they would not care if the child is adopted or bio. they would just love a grandchild. I somewhat understand his thoughts, but as I have several nephews and a niece carrying on the bloodline is not an issue for me.
 
Yeah I keep going back and forth too. It will be a while before I consider having kids of my own, so hopefully my husband or partner will help me figure out which route would be best for us when the times comes.
 
I want a biological son , but I don't want to do it via surrogacy so I wouldn't be opposed to bonking a female friend for one.

However I'm not opposed to Adoption if plan A doesn't happen.
 
MarquisOrias said:
I want a biological son , but I don't want to do it via surrogacy so I wouldn't be opposed to bonking a female friend for one.
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I agree with you on that one: I don't think i'm gay enough to warrant spending $95,000 just for a child when I could plug my nose, close my eyes and get one for free. :lol:



I really don't know if I want child(ren) any time soon, though. I've never really had a life for myself, and i'm not ready to throw myself to the side and make my life all about someone else. That might sound fucked up to say, but that's why I want to be like, 35 before I seriously think about this. I see so many people having children when they're teenagers or in their early 20s. . .that doesn't seem healthy IMO.
 
Tribunal said:
I'm not really interested in having children but that's probably because of my age. Maybe in a few years I'll have a different opinion.
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Oh, sweety, it might be more than just the age. I'm not speaking for you on your behalf, but I just have to share, I wanted kids eversince I was 15 or 16! Before then, I already had all these dreams and plans of getting engaged to the one man of whom I would change my last name to and have kids with in a few years to follow if not right away, whether it be by adoption or reproducing with a surrogate sister.

From my understanding, many to most gay guys around my age (20-22) seem to "not want kids" because, unlike most heterosexual couples, there is little to nothing to cause a mindset that an upcoming offspring and the need to take care of him/her is inevitable; unless of course they have heterosexual sex. Just out of curiosity, how well would you say you relate to this?
 
I go through 'phases' of wanting a child and feeling paternal, it's only gotten worse since my nephew came along (nothing against him!).

I'd probably adopt from an Eastern European country. I wouldn't mind a biological child though, but I'd have to be with a woman for that or spend a hundred grand in the end. I would spend it though.
 
We're planning to adopt some babies from around the world. In all honesty, I've always wanted to do this. Before Angelina did it.

Three kids would do me just fine. Probably two boys and a girl.
 
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