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Advice for a tight bottom?

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Hey guys. So I have a boyfriend that due to distance I can only see about once a month. He has a pretty large dick and since I only see him once a month I am a bit on the tight side. It takes me a while to relax and our time together is so short that I would like to try to "loosen" up a little to be able to take him right off the bat. Any advice? Was thinking of buying a few different sizes of butt plugs and maybe using them each night the week before I see him. Any help would be great. Thanks.
 
Hey guys. So I have a boyfriend that due to distance I can only see about once a month. He has a pretty large dick and since I only see him once a month I am a bit on the tight side. It takes me a while to relax and our time together is so short that I would like to try to "loosen" up a little to be able to take him right off the bat. Any advice? Was thinking of buying a few different sizes of butt plugs and maybe using them each night the week before I see him. Any help would be great. Thanks.

Thats a good idea. Go for it.
Do you like being anal ? I don't.
 
Put a butt plug in before you go see him, then he can take it out and you will be a bit looser to start with.
 
Make sure he's playing with it for a while. When ready, start off by sitting on it. I'd hate to see you as a human fleshlight. Don't you think there should be a bit of a struggle getting it in?
 
A litlle butt plug before he come over would be a good idea, and some extra extra lube and long foreplay to loosen you up.
 
Thanks everyone for your advice. I see my guy next Friday, so I am going to get a butt plug and play around a little this week. Then the night I see him I will be sure to use it for a while before we go to bed. The last time I saw him it hurt so much that we had to stop and while I know fucking is not everything, I would like to please him.

Quick question... would you leave the butt plug in for a while or just use it to simulate fucking?
 
I would recommend some good silicon based lube too, and lost of it. Always do foreplay first and finger yourself too just to get it prepped. I also might start using a butt plug since my guy is pretty thick and while it does not hurt me that much since we use lots of lube i had very faint blood after last time D: it was scary.
 
I think one of the most sensible things to do is to sit on him face to face to start after getting lubed up and relaxed of course. You can control the entry a lot better from above.
 
Just use fingers. Let him get about 3 in before he puts his cock in.

Don't assume that he wants you to be "nice and loose." I'm a top and I'll tell you, I prefer a tight little ass than a well experienced, loose bottom. I've had sex with guys where it feels like fucking a cloud. I prefer tight guys. The struggle is part of the fun.
 
Are you the dating the same guy I did earlier this year? LOL . I was in the exact same boat - only saw him about once or twice a month and he wanted me to bottom for him but was impatient.

Anyway, thanks for bringing up the topic - I have the same issues, very tight down there, would like to be able to bottom but need to learn how to relax first. Using a Dildo does help - I bought one for the exact same reason.
 
Thanks everyone for your advice. I see my guy next Friday, so I am going to get a butt plug and play around a little this week. Then the night I see him I will be sure to use it for a while before we go to bed. The last time I saw him it hurt so much that we had to stop and while I know fucking is not everything, I would like to please him.

Quick question... would you leave the butt plug in for a while or just use it to simulate fucking?

The purpose of the butt plug is to learn to stretch your hole.

It also helps to be clean. If you don't already you might wanna get a shower shot. You can add it on to the shower head and you can clean yourself properly. If you clean yourself really well putting in the butt plug and anal sex in general is more comfortable and enjoyable. You can also wear the butt plug more. I generally wear my butt plug everyday. I used to be really tight and nervous. I don't have a loose hole but my hole is becoming more trained. If you relax when you are with this guy and trust him and if he takes it easy that helps as well. It helps to do a little foreplay and body contact before to help you relax.

Also consider that not everyone enjoys bottoming but just do it because they feel they should. But trying a butt plug and wearing it most of the time would be a great idea. But cleaning the hole is just as important.

Good luck.
 
Just when you think you have enough lube, use more!

I hope you enjoy it as much as I do.

I totally agree with this, too. Before I tried bottoming, I read that if you're using enough lube, you should be practically swimming in it. The last time my boyfriend fucked me, he said, "I think I just used like, half the bottle of lube" and I said "good, maybe use a little more before you start thrusting." It makes a big difference.
 
Lube does not always help. The most overlooked thing when it comes to anal is "IF THE BOTTOM IS RELAXED A LOT". Spread all the fucking lube or crisco it won't change a thing if the bottom is scared, uncomfortable, nervous, or can't relax. This is coming from experience. Lube can be very useful and of course you can never have enough. However, the bottom needs to relax and sort of let everything just sort of drift away and focus on the pleasure and feeling of the cock that is penetrating the bottom. I honestly don't need lube anymore :P

And my hole is tight as shit. Just able to relax now. I think holes can take much more than people think they can take. But if someone isn't in that mindset or too nervous than it's definitely not going to happen.
 
Lube does not always help. The most overlooked thing when it comes to anal is "IF THE BOTTOM IS RELAXED A LOT". Spread all the fucking lube or crisco it won't change a thing if the bottom is scared, uncomfortable, nervous, or can't relax. This is coming from experience. Lube can be very useful and of course you can never have enough. However, the bottom needs to relax and sort of let everything just sort of drift away and focus on the pleasure and feeling of the cock that is penetrating the bottom. I honestly don't need lube anymore :P

And my hole is tight as shit. Just able to relax now. I think holes can take much more than people think they can take. But if someone isn't in that mindset or too nervous than it's definitely not going to happen.

from a childhood memory, how come an extra hard solid poo took a long time to come out. It sort of stuck there for ages and it was pretty painful i would say. I was relaxed with that poo.
 
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