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Advice: How to pitch to my boyfriend I want to watch him with another man?

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Hey guys, long time lurker, first time poster.

I wanted to ask some advice from those who have dabbled in voyeurism. I've always had a sexual fantasy of wanting to see my boyfriend of 10 months (who I love to death) with another man. I just find the concept extremely arousing, and want to bring this up with my boyfriend. I have talked to him once about this when I was drunk (more along the lines of wanting a threesome) and he indicated he was perfectly happy with just me, and would only do it if I wanted to. With that being said, I'm not sure how he'd feel about me just watching while he's with another man.

Any suggestions on what to do?
 
10 months, you say? Well, in my opinion that's a 'long' relationship in the sense that talking to him about your fetishes is not out of the ordinary. During an intimate time with just the two of you, bring up the topic of fetishes and see if he shares any of his. If he is open to sharing, I would go ahead and tell him about the voyeur threeway aspect. Let him be the one to then suggest that you two do it in your relationship. Obviously the whole to this plan is that he doesn't act or play into the conversation. At that point, just give it a little more time and talk to him again when your relationship has progressed further.

Personally, I have had these type of talks with boyfriends after a month and after a year with others. It just depends on the guy. The goal is to be vocally open but never to push them into something that they aren't comfortable with.
 
Perhaps you could take smaller steps. Have him 'cyber' on skype or something on cam while you watch out of camera shot before you go all the way with a 3rd party in the flesh. Often times fantasies like yours aren't so hot when it's really happening and jealousies/insecurities kick in.
 
An ex of mine would do things like this it always turned me on to just sit back and watch him get fucked/fuck another guy, then after they would leave we would then go at it.
 
innocentenough said:
Hey guys, long time lurker, first time poster.

I wanted to ask some advice from those who have dabbled in voyeurism. I've always had a sexual fantasy of wanting to see my boyfriend of 10 months (who I love to death) with another man. I just find the concept extremely arousing, and want to bring this up with my boyfriend. I have talked to him once about this when I was drunk (more along the lines of wanting a threesome) and he indicated he was perfectly happy with just me, and would only do it if I wanted to. With that being said, I'm not sure how he'd feel about me just watching while he's with another man.

Any suggestions on what to do?
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I was in that situation...My boyfriend wanted to have threesomes and he wanted to see me doing it with another guy. Breaking the ice and talking about it took time (and he was the one who brought it up basically) cuz even though I fantasized about it, I didn't really see myself doing it or him liking it. But then he said it.

So, to sum up I'm pretty sure your boyfriend is gonna love the idea. I mean, who doesn't love being the center of attention when having sex and to actually get permission from your boyfriend to have sex with another guy? I'd say go for it.
 
innocentbychoice said:
I was in that situation...My boyfriend wanted to have threesomes and he wanted to see me doing it with another guy. Breaking the ice and talking about it took time (and he was the one who brought it up basically) cuz even though I fantasized about it, I didn't really see myself doing it or him liking it. But then he said it.

So, to sum up I'm pretty sure your boyfriend is gonna love the idea. I mean, who doesn't love being the center of attention when having sex and to actually get permission from your boyfriend to have sex with another guy? I'd say go for it.
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mmmm similar names. Is it a coincident ? :)
 
innocentenough said:
Hey guys, long time lurker, first time poster.

I wanted to ask some advice from those who have dabbled in voyeurism. I've always had a sexual fantasy of wanting to see my boyfriend of 10 months (who I love to death) with another man. I just find the concept extremely arousing, and want to bring this up with my boyfriend. I have talked to him once about this when I was drunk (more along the lines of wanting a threesome) and he indicated he was perfectly happy with just me, and would only do it if I wanted to. With that being said, I'm not sure how he'd feel about me just watching while he's with another man.

Any suggestions on what to do?
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How about watching another couple or something instead of your boyfriend? I mean it would suck to watch your boyfriend fall for somebody else before your eyes. I don't mean to ruin your fantasy lol. I for damn sure would love to see 2 guys having sex right in front of me too so I get that part.
 
Thank you for all your replies.

I did bring it up in a fantasy like way, and he seemed to be into it. I brought it up as someone watching us having sex, and then slowly moved into the man joining us for a threesome, and then moved to him being fucked by the guy.

He seemed to be a bit hesitant, and indicated "he only wanted to ride me" but if it turned me on, he would do so with the other man. He did say that he hadn't thought of this before, and it does seem hot.

But the situation made me start thinking if he would enjoy it too much, and would I be OK if he did? So I did talk to him about later seriously, and we decided not to move forward with it. I realized I might be a bit insecure, and it's not healthy to do this when you're insecure. I indicated to him that upon reflecting, this may mess us up as a couple, and he disagreed but had no problem just sticking with me.

The next day (today) we had what I can only call the best sex of my life. No fantasizing talk, just us fucking and it was great. Thanks for all your help, and it really did make me more comfortable to speak with him about my fantasies. But I think I'll let this remain a fantasy, and just be with him :)
 
That's sweet man. I'm glad you realized you might not be okay with it in real life.
 
My bf and I (6 years) both have a thing for seeing each other have sex with other guys. He actually had a fling with my best friend and ex, which turned me on tremendously. For us, it was difficult at first but we are together long term and the turn on of seeing him suck the same cock I have, or him seeing me suck other guys, is amazing.
 
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