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Advice needed: meeting someone through the internet - a good idea??

tommyj said:
I take it u are still waiting for that email? That is so rude. I mean how impersonal can we make it and they STILL cannot respond!
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Still haven't gotten the e-mail. I'm really surprised he hasn't at least sent me something.

I suppose I could envision a scenerio such as this: we met Wednesday evening between 7:30 and 8:30, I sent him an e-mail around 10:00 that night, he likely didn't see it until Thursday night, maybe when he saw the e-mail he wasn't sure what he was going to do, or how he would respond, so he put it off, then the weekend comes, who knows maybe he's out of town or has friends in, who knows, so giving him the benefit of the doubt - I suppose there is a chance he might respond Monday night. Truthfully though, I'm not expecting it.

So my plan is to wait until Tueaday, and if I haven't heard anything from him, I am going to send him an e-mail just so I can have some closure - it will be a very nice and short e-mail just wishing him good luck and so forth - what he should have sent me.

Here is the e-mail I sent him Wednedsay night a couple hours after we met, No one can tell me this is threatening or intimidating. (If I thought he was going to get back with me, I would never post a private e-mail, but I would be very surprised if he does respond to me)

(His first name)
You probably have already gone to bed. I enjoyed meeting you and getting to know you a little better. Meeting like that is always a little awkward and uncomfortable (especially at first) but I thought we got along pretty well. I would like to meet with you again - if you want. If you don't, I understand - no explanation is needed.

(My first name)


Do you think when I suggested there was no explanation needed, he took that to mean he shouldn't send me an e-mail. I just meant that he didn't need to explain to me why he didn't want to pursue anything with me, I never even considered that he wouldn't at least send me an e-mail.

Oh well. I've moved on, but it is interesting
 
OK, I have officially given up, if he was going to e-mail me he would have by now. I mean he e-mails me every day for 10 days straight and then we meet and 5 days of without any e-mails.

But as I mentioned earlier I wanted to send him one last e-mail, wishing him good luck. Here is what I sent him


Hi (his first name)

I hope everything is OK. I am assuming because you haven't gotten back with me that you have decided not to pursue a friendship or any type of relationship with me. No problem, but I did want to send you one last e-mail wishing you nothing but the best. I hope you learn to enjoy living in (city) - it really is a great place to live. I'm sure you'll do just fine as you are a really nice guy, fun to be around and very nice looking.

Like I said I wish you nothing but the best. Feel free to e-mail if you want, but if I don't hear from you I won't send you anymore e-mails.

I'm disappointed it didn't work out between us.

But good luck to you

Have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year

Pat
 
my partner and i met through the internet and we've been together for over a year now. we live together and it's been great.

just take it slow... get to know them. and when you meet (in person) you'll just know if it's right or wrong.

my boss and his partner met online and talked on the phone and stuff for a year or more before they met and they've been together for almost 3 years now.

it can work, just be careful.
 
No response from him. I know he won't be getting back with me. It does make me wonder what went so wrong that he wouldn't at least just send me an e-mail - oh well, I'm sure I'll never find out. It is his loss really though - he doesn't know how good of a friend I am.

Thanks to everyone who responded to this thread - everyone had great advice.
 
Re-reading your account of the meeting, I guess I am not surprised..you said "we didnt click"...And I dont think I will hear from him again. I'm sorry.
 
Still, I think congratulations are in order. You took the chance. I hope the fact that it didn't work out doesn't mean you won't try it again sometime in the future. It's easy to cast blanket negative statements - "Internet hook-ups never work." "Don't ever date a guy you met at a bar." "You can't ever trust a bisexual." - based on one or two experiences. Ends up this guy wasn't what you expected - or even much of what he said he was. (Even a decent acquaintence would have the balls to write back and say "I don't think this will work.") But don't let his assholishness get in the way of you trying again. Both my brother and myself found our partners online, and it only takes one example to say "Yes, it's possible." :)

Lex
 
G-Lexington said:
Still, I think congratulations are in order. You took the chance. I hope the fact that it didn't work out doesn't mean you won't try it again sometime in the future. It's easy to cast blanket negative statements - "Internet hook-ups never work." "Don't ever date a guy you met at a bar." "You can't ever trust a bisexual." - based on one or two experiences. Ends up this guy wasn't what you expected - or even much of what he said he was. (Even a decent acquaintence would have the balls to write back and say "I don't think this will work.") But don't let his assholishness get in the way of you trying again. Both my brother and myself found our partners online, and it only takes one example to say "Yes, it's possible." :)

Lex
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Hey, this is UC3543, for some reason that account won't work anymore, so I had to open a new one.

Thanks for the encouraging words. - I plan to try again in the future, nothing about the experience discouraged me. I'm though very, very, very surprised he didn't at least send me a very short and cursory e-mail. It almost makes me think I really did something to offend him or scare him off - but I can't think of anything that I might have done or said. Makes him look bad though, not me. I took the high road.

I'm stating another thread on some advice I need right now.

Thanks again guys
 
Re: Advice needed: meeting someone through the in

It has been awhile since I posted anything, and I realize this thread has been dead for sometime But thought I should just let those who contributed to this thread know, that this past January I did meet someone else through the internet and now almost 6 months later, we are still together and are very much in love
 
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