Advice please; he's bigger than I've had before...

[fdcfdc5]

Hi friends,
I was hoping to solicit some advice! All opinions and bits of knowledge are welcome!

So I've been hooking up with this guy for a couple weeks now but we have yet to have actual anal sex. (I'm the bottom, for the record) I'm not a virgin, but the thing is that I've never had sex with someone who has a penis as large as this guy. (I think he's like 8 inches but really thick, whereas the largest I've had is maybe 6.. which was fantastic, and more than big enough by what I find pleasurable) I have two main fears; (1) that it's going to hurt like all hell and (2) that putting something that big into my ass might lead to some embarrassing mishaps..

I know to of course use appropriate amounts of lube, etc., and proper foreplay...
but any other advice to maybe help that all go more smoothly??? I'm sure somebody can speak from experience?

<3

(not sure if this is in the correct section.. but I figured it fits under relationship advice!)

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Poppers might help, and remember, big dicks hurt less than small ones because the pressure is spread more thinly.

 

[Durango95]

You need a butt plug definitely. Actually it would be best to get a graduated set. You also might want to get some anesthetic cream for the first few times. The thing about this is, don't use too much. Pain is a good indicator something is wrong. I've actually torn a guy before like right in the sphincter. He already had what is called an anal fissure. He bled like a stuck pig. Needless to say that didn't work out too well.

 

[Brian Smith]

I know some people who routinely take anal from horses, and the Dildo my partner and I used to play with (before we realized that we liked frottage better than anal because we just find it to be more intimate) is larger than any human being could possibly be. You can adjust yourself to accommodate larger sizes. You just have to be wise and cautious in how you go about it.

You want to focus on your posture. Keeping the right curvature in your spine is vitally important. Why? Because, when you get to beyond six inches or so, you are getting into some delicate parts of your anatomy. If you are experienced in how to baby these parts of your anatomy during sex, you can make the experience comfortable, even remarkably pleasurable. If you are inexperienced, you could find yourself in the embarrassing situation of saying, "honey, we're going to have to stop," not to mention possible medical emergencies.

Definitely get toys to practice with at your own pace, though. Listen to anyone who advises doing that. It's important.

 

[nycguydowntown]

and remember, big dicks hurt less than small ones because the pressure is spread more thinly.

That's some interesting physics Never heard that one--think I need some charts to understand

 

[subsonic]

Besides all this, there's a simple and quite helpful thing to do, during sex with a guy: breathe! It's something that is easy to forget as a bottom, because you're focusing on what's coming up (brruum tshiii!) but if you remember to take deep breaths and take it slow, things usually go more smoothly since you will be more relaxed.

 

[jensu846]

i was always told that if you lay on your left side, it will go in easier. Not sure why, but i have tried it and it does seem to help. Same with taking a shit, if you can lean to your left, it helps constipation. I know that sounds weird but it really has helped me, not sure why.

 

[lonnie1]

Have you considered asking him not to go so far in?

 

[Durango95]

i was always told that if you lay on your left side, it will go in easier. Not sure why, but i have tried it and it does seem to help. Same with taking a shit, if you can lean to your left, it helps constipation. I know that sounds weird but it really has helped me, not sure why.

The descending colon, as well as the iliac colon are located on the left side of the body. Therefore gravity is working for you instead of against you as far as the interior pressure of the abdomen.

 

[racer2438]

Poppers....is NOT healthy don't use them....

relax for you, and ask him to go slow and gentle, and not all the way in.. you can then get more looser and he may be able to go deeper as you are able to take more..