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OK. I am a post-grad student and I fancy my lecturer (who is also my thesis supervisor). I am 95% sure he is gay and also fancies me.
I’m not one of these wishful thinkers who convince themselves that their crush is gay and fancies them back. This is for real. This is why I think he’s gay:
-he’s in his forties and not married
-he just has that quality (i.e. mannerisms, etc.)
-other people think so too
-he has been flirting with me from the start
this is why I think he is flirting with me:
-he is nice to me, jokes with me, and he is not like this with other guys (they have told me)
-he awkwardly pretends to laugh when I say something that’s not funny (but he thinks I’m trying to be funny)
-he tries to get me to make regular meetings with him
-I am doing my thesis on human mate choice, and he was showing me this graph on his PC about how older men prefer increasingly younger women as they age, and then he showed me this graph depicting the same trend among gay men (that older men prefer younger men). When he showed this graph on his PC, I swear, he looked at me for a second too long (as if he was trying to gauge my reaction).
however, I don’t think he’s going to make a move, and I’d hate to miss this opportunity.
I know there are ethical guidelines n’ stuff, but we are both grown men, we can be discrete. In any case I have only a few months left on this course.
I don’t want to wait until the course has finished to make a move, because by then he won’t be my lecturer any more and the ‘power’ thing will be gone, which TBH turns me on
I am as certain as I can be that this man is gay, without actually knowing for sure (if that makes sense). I admit there is a tiny chance that he is not gay, maybe just eccentric. But what’s the worst that could happen? If he’s not gay, he may even be flattered. If not, it would just be awkward I presume, but as I say, I’ve only a few months left, and I’m willing to take that chance.
I’m thinking of sending him an email and just asking him upfront. Fuck it, I know it’s a risk, but I don’t want to go through my life with regrets, and I know I (and I suspect he) would regret not at least asking the other.
I am very good at divorcing business from pleasure. This is absolutely not about upping my grades. When I finish this course I will be doing something completely different, so I won’t even be dependent on a recommendation from him or anything.
Well I would really like to get all your opinions. Sorry if this post was really long.
Any advice on how I should approach it, drop hints etc., or if I should just leave well enough alone, I would really appreciate.
Cheers.
I’m not one of these wishful thinkers who convince themselves that their crush is gay and fancies them back. This is for real. This is why I think he’s gay:
-he’s in his forties and not married
-he just has that quality (i.e. mannerisms, etc.)
-other people think so too
-he has been flirting with me from the start
this is why I think he is flirting with me:
-he is nice to me, jokes with me, and he is not like this with other guys (they have told me)
-he awkwardly pretends to laugh when I say something that’s not funny (but he thinks I’m trying to be funny)
-he tries to get me to make regular meetings with him
-I am doing my thesis on human mate choice, and he was showing me this graph on his PC about how older men prefer increasingly younger women as they age, and then he showed me this graph depicting the same trend among gay men (that older men prefer younger men). When he showed this graph on his PC, I swear, he looked at me for a second too long (as if he was trying to gauge my reaction).
however, I don’t think he’s going to make a move, and I’d hate to miss this opportunity.
I know there are ethical guidelines n’ stuff, but we are both grown men, we can be discrete. In any case I have only a few months left on this course.
I don’t want to wait until the course has finished to make a move, because by then he won’t be my lecturer any more and the ‘power’ thing will be gone, which TBH turns me on
I am as certain as I can be that this man is gay, without actually knowing for sure (if that makes sense). I admit there is a tiny chance that he is not gay, maybe just eccentric. But what’s the worst that could happen? If he’s not gay, he may even be flattered. If not, it would just be awkward I presume, but as I say, I’ve only a few months left, and I’m willing to take that chance.
I’m thinking of sending him an email and just asking him upfront. Fuck it, I know it’s a risk, but I don’t want to go through my life with regrets, and I know I (and I suspect he) would regret not at least asking the other.
I am very good at divorcing business from pleasure. This is absolutely not about upping my grades. When I finish this course I will be doing something completely different, so I won’t even be dependent on a recommendation from him or anything.
Well I would really like to get all your opinions. Sorry if this post was really long.
Any advice on how I should approach it, drop hints etc., or if I should just leave well enough alone, I would really appreciate.
Cheers.
