This is my first ever post on this board, and it's going to be a long one, so sorry 
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I've had a crush on my best friend for about as long as I've known him - I met him about a year and a half. Despite only knowing him for a year and half, we've become very close and know each other quite well. My best friend is engaged and will get married in May.
A few days ago, he was having relationship problems, and I gave him advice. At this point, my crush had grown really bad - to the point that it was almost all I was thinking about and I couldn't take it anymore. I looked around on the internet for advice on whether I should tell him, and I asked a friend or too.
That night, I finally told him (over IM) I had a crush on him, and had one for a long time. He said he was very flattered and that he was glad I could tell him. We talked a lot about our friendship, and a little bit about sex. I half-jokingly told him that if he ever wanted to experiment he could contact me - he laughed and said basically thanks for the offer. I asked him if he had any gay experiences (he said no, not even kissing a guy) and I asked him if he was circumsized, to which he said yes (circumsized cocks really turn me on for some reason). We then had to end the conversation because his finacee was begging him to go to bed.
Over the weekend we hung out but never had the chance to continue our conversation. Everything seemed normal and fine, no big deal, but I couldn't stop thinking about him the entire time.
Fast forward today, I was able to get him alone on IM and talk to him a little bit. I asked him if he felt weird regarding our relationship, and he said he felt a little odd that a guy had a crush on him, but that that wouldn't stop letting us be friends.
I then propositioned him that if he ever wanted to know what an hj or bj felt like, he wouldn't have to reciprocate, and that I personally believed that if he had ever thought about it, it would be good to expand his sexual experiences (which I believe too, even though I know I am gay, I would like to try having sex with a girl and have always been curious about it). He basically said he was good for now, but that he would keep the suggestion in mind. I asked what his chances were of him changing his mind, and he said 1 in 100 (which I took to mean as never - in other words, I'm not getting my hopes up).
Then I told him that if we were going to talk about sex, that we should lay some ground rules to prevent things from getting awkard. I asked him what questions would be weird and gave him an example, such as "how often do you jerk off", and he said he'd answer that, but not what technique he would use. I didn't get the chance to actually ask him any questions, since I had to go at that point.
That was this morning - since then, I keep wondering if I went too far. I get the dread in my stomach that I went too far and that he might view me now as a "recruiter".
How far should I push questions about his sexuality (obviously anything would be interesting to me, but our friendship is extremely valuable to me too)?
Have I already gone too far?
It can be hard sometimes to get him alone to talk about it, and I don't want to have to constantly ask him if he's alone because he might bother him - what should I do about that?
What's the best way for me to keep our friendship, do you guys think? Am I just overreacting?
Thanks everyone!
- shocking
.I've had a crush on my best friend for about as long as I've known him - I met him about a year and a half. Despite only knowing him for a year and half, we've become very close and know each other quite well. My best friend is engaged and will get married in May.
A few days ago, he was having relationship problems, and I gave him advice. At this point, my crush had grown really bad - to the point that it was almost all I was thinking about and I couldn't take it anymore. I looked around on the internet for advice on whether I should tell him, and I asked a friend or too.
That night, I finally told him (over IM) I had a crush on him, and had one for a long time. He said he was very flattered and that he was glad I could tell him. We talked a lot about our friendship, and a little bit about sex. I half-jokingly told him that if he ever wanted to experiment he could contact me - he laughed and said basically thanks for the offer. I asked him if he had any gay experiences (he said no, not even kissing a guy) and I asked him if he was circumsized, to which he said yes (circumsized cocks really turn me on for some reason). We then had to end the conversation because his finacee was begging him to go to bed.
Over the weekend we hung out but never had the chance to continue our conversation. Everything seemed normal and fine, no big deal, but I couldn't stop thinking about him the entire time.
Fast forward today, I was able to get him alone on IM and talk to him a little bit. I asked him if he felt weird regarding our relationship, and he said he felt a little odd that a guy had a crush on him, but that that wouldn't stop letting us be friends.
I then propositioned him that if he ever wanted to know what an hj or bj felt like, he wouldn't have to reciprocate, and that I personally believed that if he had ever thought about it, it would be good to expand his sexual experiences (which I believe too, even though I know I am gay, I would like to try having sex with a girl and have always been curious about it). He basically said he was good for now, but that he would keep the suggestion in mind. I asked what his chances were of him changing his mind, and he said 1 in 100 (which I took to mean as never - in other words, I'm not getting my hopes up).
Then I told him that if we were going to talk about sex, that we should lay some ground rules to prevent things from getting awkard. I asked him what questions would be weird and gave him an example, such as "how often do you jerk off", and he said he'd answer that, but not what technique he would use. I didn't get the chance to actually ask him any questions, since I had to go at that point.
That was this morning - since then, I keep wondering if I went too far. I get the dread in my stomach that I went too far and that he might view me now as a "recruiter".
How far should I push questions about his sexuality (obviously anything would be interesting to me, but our friendship is extremely valuable to me too)?
Have I already gone too far?
It can be hard sometimes to get him alone to talk about it, and I don't want to have to constantly ask him if he's alone because he might bother him - what should I do about that?
What's the best way for me to keep our friendship, do you guys think? Am I just overreacting?
Thanks everyone!
- shocking
