After Orgasm Etiquette

[Ramindra]

There is one one to stop a guy collapsing on you. Get on top and stay on top. There are more ways of killing a cat than the top being on top and the bottom being on the bottom situation. Be empowered. Take control. And if you still don't like what happens you can either accept the blame and/or show him the door.

 

[NineOfClubs]

My current BF of 8 + years told me many months into our relationship that I was the first guy he'd been with who held him after sex. Something I thought was natural, something I thought anyone would want to do.

Men can be so self-centered and stupid at times......

 

[luminum]

I suppose if he collapsed on me and then started snoring, I'd be pretty pissed. But usually it's because he (and I, thank you, thank you) did a good job and he's tired. I'd do what others have said and wrap my arms around him, stroke behind his ear, listen to him breathe and give him a kiss.

Been a while, though...but I'm sure I'd still do it.

 

[RyanKilter]

I'm such a cuddle bug, yes he can collapse for a hot stickie embrace as long as I've gotten mine too

 

[luminum]

Oh there's always someone who's attracted to somebody, no matter how unlikely they may think it.

Looking at you just superficially, I'd already be totally game for it. Not to mention that I know you from your posts and I'm more than sold.

Now you just need to find someone like me who is nearer to you than I and unfortunately, I doubt I'm the only one of my kind.

 

[Smitho]

I think asking someones name, just so you remember is always a polite move after sex, then I get the pocket knief out and the notch, so as to keep count.

 

[Dduder]

If I had some guy willing to have sex with me, he could drape himself all over me all he likes, sticky cum and all. I'd be MORE than willing to be a pillow.

Ladies and gentlemen, I present you the winner of the Mr.Self-esteem contest.

 

[Dduder]

Straight guys are a dime a dozen.

Tell that to the millions of spinsters who can't get a husband no matter what. And I find that statement kind of rude, like we are cheap and common or something. All things considered, straight women are more a dime a dozen than straight men, considering that 3% of men are but only 1% of women are lesbians - according to most sex surveys.

 

[Alpha1851]

Girls whine about anything.

Bunch of damn bitches!

Actually, I give it about a week before a male creates a thread complaining about the same damn things. Either the bottom fella didn't stay hard during sex, the top was thrusting away and kept getting soft, someone had bad b.o. or forgot to "clean up" properly, the fella took forever to cum or didn't cum even after 30 minutes of continuous sucking, or the guy was very rude and refused to cuddle afterward.

These type of threads pop up quite often. I like them actually. I've learned a lot from the discussions that generally result. We all need to vent sometimes and it's usually beneficial to get an objective viewpoint about our situations.

 

[Alpha1851]

Tell that to the millions of spinsters who can't get a husband no matter what. And I find that statement kind of rude, like we are cheap and common or something. All things considered, straight women are more a dime a dozen than straight men, considering that 3% of men are but only 1% of women are lesbians - according to most sex surveys.

The OP is talking about sex not marriage. Her complaint isn't that she can't get her beau to try on his tux and help w/ picking out a band and floral arrangement, her complaint is that the guy sucks in the sack (from what I gather anyway.)

However, your bringing this issue up made me pause to reflect....considering that the divorce rate is astronomically high right now I'm betting that there are a lot of dirty old men who are now single. Those dirty old men and dried up old spinsters can comfort each other. See, we have a new love match!

 

[Alpha1851]

I think asking someones name, just so you remember is always a polite move after sex, then I get the pocket knief out and the notch, so as to keep count.

Pfffttt...why do you need their names? Find 'em, friend 'em, fuck 'em, and forget 'em.

 

[Dduder]

The OP is talking about sex not marriage. Her complaint isn't that she can't get her beau to try on his tux and help w/ picking out a band and floral arrangement, her complaint is that the guy sucks in the sack (from what I gather anyway.)

Ya, so according to your logic she should "dump his ass" for something as insignificant as sleeping on top of her after sex because straight men are "a dime a dozen", huh? I cannot even fathom a straight man dumping his girlfriend/wife for something so ridiculous. And baby, the reason why we collapse after sex is because we do all the work during sex and are exhausted. I know that this is hard for you women to understand, since you don't do anything besides laying down with your legs spread, but for us men sex is physical activity from the beggining until orgasm.

However, your bringing this issue up made me pause to reflect....considering that the divorce rate is astronomically high right now I'm betting that there are a lot of dirty old men who are now single. Those dirty old men and dried up old spinsters can comfort each other. See, we have a new love match!

What a nice thing to say...is your dad included in the dirty old men category, or does he receive more consideration and higher accolades for being your progenitor? And I doubt the "dirty old men" will end up with the spinsters. They also want young women. Like all men.

 

[Dduder]

Ah...the ignorance of youth. Breathtaking insight and discernment. Well done Jr. Help yourself to a cookie.

NEXT!

Ok, dad.

 

[martin6]

All things considered, straight women are more a dime a dozen than straight men, considering that 3% of men are but only 1% of women are lesbians - according to most sex surveys.

You heard it here first. Three percent of men are lesbians!!!

GL247, you're not alone!!

 

[Croynan]

Ya, so according to your logic she should "dump his ass" for something as insignificant as sleeping on top of her after sex because straight men are "a dime a dozen", huh? I cannot even fathom a straight man dumping his girlfriend/wife for something so ridiculous. And baby, the reason why we collapse after sex is because we do all the work during sex and are exhausted. I know that this is hard for you women to understand, since you don't do anything besides laying down with your legs spread, but for us men sex is physical activity from the beggining until orgasm.



What a nice thing to say...is your dad included in the dirty old men category, or does he receive more consideration and higher accolades for being your progenitor? And I doubt the "dirty old men" will end up with the spinsters. They also want young women. Like all men.

sounds a bit sexist or a lot of over confidence.

eM.

 

[Riverrick]

Since your thread is titled After Orgasm Etiquette, you are getting a lot of responses of how people act after their orgasms. That is actually the more interesting part of this thread.

There's so many more issues involved than just your example of collapsing. Like....Do you wait for your partner to come? Do you cuddle afterwards? Do you get right up and take a shower? Together? If its a one night stand, how do you end the evening?

Its interesting how the libido completely shuts down in an instant as soon as you've cum. From that point on, one has to make sure their partner is pleased also by perhaps doing a little extra work, to make for a nice ending. That's when it helps to be in a relationship, because its not libido from that point on but love.

 

[GL]

You heard it here first. Three percent of men are lesbians!!!

GL247, you're not alone!!

oh! you bitch! bringing up our personal discussions!

to the op: when i was actually having sex (now its just my borg regeneration chamber and the uploaded images of crocodiles copulating in the river) i didn't mind having him collapse on me. for a little while. after a bit i would sort of move him over onto the other side of the bed and i did expect him to help me finish off. i didn't find it rude but at the same time i wasn't going to be a pillow.

the only thing i can think to tell you is to have a frank and honest discussion about this with your fella. let him know what you like and don't like including these collapsing issues. yes, we're men but we're not boors. most of the time. and for that matter i may be speaking out of turn, he is straight after all!

 

[Dduder]

sounds a bit sexist or a lot of over confidence.

eM.

I just said the truth, baby. The only position where women do most of the work is when she's on top. That's it. In all other positions the man gets to do everything. Not that I'm complaining, mind you, but I was just explaining to Mrs. Spoilted Princess why we men are excused for collapsing after sex. Let the chips fall where they may.

 

[Shepherd 2]

Shove the goon off, and get the heck out while you are able.



Shep+

 

[Dduder]

Mrs. Spoiled Princess speaking *ahem* With that attitude your single days may be long and your curiosity may not be peaked. Sex is give and take and if you conk out during the relay race after running your part but before passing off the stick to your partner... uhh... you didn't win buddy.

And though the top does a lot of the pushing and the thrusting and the driving and the pounding and the bucking and the humping and the screwing and the pummeling ... does not excuse their lack of consideration for the bottom who (brace yourself I'm gonna get deep here) gave them a certain amount of trust and power to handle their body the way that they did. And in simpler terms... be appreciative and respectful to the person who assisted you in the explosive orgasm that landed you on top of their chest.

Bla bla bla..I do think you're spoilt, and I'm telling you it flat out. Your problem is irrelevant. Just ask him to get off or push him to the sides. And you show a profound lack of consideration for the man, who did 90% of the work during sex, by complaining that he has the audacity to lay on top you after the exhaustion of all that thrusting back and forth. Boo f-king hoo, you won't get sympathy from me although I'm sure that you'll get it from lots of people here. Have a nice evening, m'am.