"Aftereffects" or whatever you call it....

[GBirdie]

Hmm, this is my first time posting in this section lol.

Anyway, I had a question about something.


How should I start his.... hmm....... Okay, well. I kinda realised that whenever I start to get a hard-on, or get turned on by whatever there is, my mind somehow thinks differently. Sometimes when I'm hard, I can't think straight and all other important things I might have on my mind sometimes sink into the back while my sex drive takes over..... (or something like that).

Well, but this wasn't my actual question, I suppose this is quite normal for everyone. But most of the time after I jerk-off, somehow when I "return to my senses", I have this feeling of regret or guilt in me. Most of the time it happens right after I cum. It's something like.... "Shyt, I'm so bad" kind of feeling or "why am I like this?"


Is there anyone with similar experiences or can explain what's wrong? Or is there nothing really wrong at all?

-BiRD-

 

[3nipples]

I remember having that feeling of guilt or regret when I was a teenager. There's nothing really wrong; your body just hasn't quite adjusted to all the hormonal swings that are happening in your body.

Look up "post coital depression" if you want to read up on it, but it's nothing to worry about and you'll very likely stop feeling it when you're a bit older.

 

[GBirdie]

Thanks 3nipples. I think that PCD should be it. Never knew there was such a thing before, I checked it out and read some things about it. Thanks for the info.


And for m1thousand, haha, yeah, I have to agree with you, sometimes I feel wrong in that sense, but lately I've gotten over it, realising how common masturbating is, that no longer bothers me. Thanks for the reply.

 

[luminum]

I think it's a normal feeling for people coming into their sexuality and dealing with the vestiges of their struggle with being expected to be straight. It's the remnant of "gay = bad" or even "jerking off = bad."

I think in time it just fades to a different feeling: Really horny and clouded, then totally lucid and disinterested.

Unless it's serious feelings of regret that make you feel so guilty you're having trouble functioning, I wouldn't worry about it.

 

[rainman256]

I think everyone has been right on. It's a common feeling you're having -- I was the same way. Every time I'd get done I'd feel awful. But then over time you become more comfortable with who you are, and you begin to realize that masturbating isn't wrong at all, it's just a stigma that it seems society has placed on the act.

When you mention about when you're hard you can't think straight, it reminds me of a quote I heard one time, "When the penis goes hard, the brain goes soft." It makes me smile, but it's really true and you're definitely not alone in your experience. I can definitely vouch for that.

 

[dairyking469]

Hey, I get that too. I'm ultra-closeted virgin, raised Roman Catholic, and after I jerk off to gay porn and cum, I always feel like I just sinned. I feel bad and depressed. I feel that my deceased mom is looking down upon me shaking her head.

Thus is the life of a closeted virgin, who doesn't know if he's gay, bi, or just curious.

 

[GBirdie]

Haha, "When the penis goes hard, the brain goes soft", I like that one.

Thanks all of you for your replies and answers. I sure do know that I'm not alone in it now. And for dairyking, I think you should get to know some people you could probably talk to about. Not that it's not good living in the closet. But just that.... somehow, from my own experience, it feels SOOoo good to be out, I'm not all out yet, but I've decided that I won't deny anything if someone were to ask me.

Anyway, wish you luck in moving on with life.