Age of leaving home.

[Telstra]

D'uhhh. We call it work. You provide your labour or services and people pay you for it. Sometimes not much. Often it requires you to leave your house.

And here's the thing Telstra. You can move out and not buy a house. It is called renting. Sometimes with a few other mates until you can afford a place of your own.

i know, i got my own house.

I'm talking about other young people who are spoiled, live with their parents, no money, can't cook, eat unhealthy food ... etc, those are the ones who can't move out unless they have a stable job.

 

[Paws]

Compared to all people I knew, I was quite late with 23 years.

Around 19-21 is usual from what I noticed, as you either start studying in another city or start working full-time.

 

[ckyb2]

I think it depends on your situation. I wouldn't bother me if some one is living with their parents if they have a purpose for doing so.

I have a friend who's 23 and still living with his parents because his college is in his home town. No reason for him to move out, he can drive there in 15 minutes.

Or, like some one who's there, but has a job and can take care of their own expenses and not be a total burden.

But if you're in your mid twenties and not doing anything, sitting on the couch all day playing computer games, then that's kinda sad.

 

[Ekim23]

I guess it all depends upon circumstances, people and the way ur parents raised u..

I think nowadays it's more "to each its own" coz it all depends on so many things

I left when I was 17, and I wish i was back at my parents !! lool

so I guess there's not a "standard age" to leave

 

[backpacker]

All I can say is that the world has changed a lot since the 70's and it's expensive as fuck just to start out these days. A couple naive, youthful decisions and you're financially ruined for decades. No wonder I've heard about college kids offing themselves because they were so deep in debt.
And that whole get a roommate and apartment thing is a whole hell of a lot more pricey now than it was when you old timers were spring chickens. It was so many springs ago, wasn't it? Sigh, and you probably have no idea how much things have changed for the young folks. But that's ok. I'm sure when my sperm has turned to dust I'll be saying "Back in my day..." a lot too.

In reality, the income potential for today's youth is far better than we were your age. Until the last few months, the job market has been far better for the last two decades then it was before. It's very common for people in your age range to make 3 to 4 times the average from when we were your age, but the cost of has only increased 2.5 times. It's actually easier now then it was then. We didn't expect to have the same lifestyle when we moved out that our parents had. We had old crappy furniture, lived in the not so good part of town, etc.

By the way, there were kids who made the exact same excuses when we were your age. Some things never change. Those who are motivated make it happen, those who aren't make excuses.

 

[Yooper]

Are you serious

This is um ... at least unconventional ..

Yep. That is all real.

Instill a sense of both responsibility and independence at a young age, and by the time the kid is 18, it is time to go. Buh-bye. I had my first savings account at age 8, my first checking account at 14, and my first investment account at 16.

It wasn't like we were thrown to the curb. We had help furnishing our first places, including boxes of kitchen equipment, linens and towels, and always got some 'starter' furniture...we could take our bedroom furniture, too, as the bedroom was going to disappear anyway.

And we did have 8-9 years of fair warning.

 

[ColorSlaughter]

Moved out of my dads house 3 days before my 21st birthday. Still very, very, very late, since I was supposed to be out when I was 18. But hey, I paid him rent.

Been almost a year now, i don't think I'll ever go back.

 

[star-warrior]

It must be a cultural thing. Being the youngest of a six, I got to look after my parents in their old age, therefore, I have never left home in the sense of a total independent break (other than university) from them. My mother's eighty this year.

 

[Alpha1851]

I was 17 when I moved out, and I have enjoyed my independence since that time!!! Of course, I love my fam and I visit for the required holidays, funerals, and such, and that's enough for me.

In my opinion, "the struggle" was an amazing experience and I loved every second of it. My first apartment was a shack, but I didn't realize it at the time. My roommate and I thought it was sooo cool. Oh, and the majority of our furniture came from Good Will.

Working two jobs, eating ramen noodles regularly, worrying about bills, and hitting up every free college event were necessities back then. I learned so much from the experiences. I wouldn't change a thing! Good times.

I've come a long way since then.

 

[TygreBryte]

Interesting subject.

No one ever moved home.

I believe that. I don't think I've ever heard a story like that from anyone before.

 

[Yooper]

I believe that. I don't think I've ever heard a story like that from anyone before.

It was actually a pretty great system, if you think about it.

There was always an option to stay living at home, but because I had enough financial knowhow and independence, it was clear that it was CHEAPER to move out than stay in the nest.

It forced all of us to get a life and get on our own two feet and grow the hell up.

And I'm grateful for it. I had the coolest apartment/hovel while my idiot friends were still living at home with Mom and Dad.

 

[versatastic]

Oh, and I almost forgot the Merit-Based Bonus system.

From grades 7-12, about a week before school started, Mom would sit us down and negotiate the school year grade bonuses.

These were based on a 6-class, A-B-C-D-F system. If we were in a school that did things differently, adjustments were made. And the money went up (usually) as the years went on, to adjust to inflation.

MY 7th grade bonus, per class, 4 quarters per school year (4 bonus periods):
A=$5.00
B=$2.50
C=$1.00
D=no bonus paid
F=($5.00)...meaning you OWED $5.00

By 12th Grade (1981):
A=$10.00
B=$5.00
C=$2.50
D=nothing
F=($10.00)
Meaning if you got 6 A's x 4 quarters I had the POTENTIAL to earn $240.00, not bad for 1981.

AND...because I knew the negotiation session was coming up, I was expected to present the new school year proposal with appropriate material, which escalated every year. By the time I was a senior in High School, I was expected to come with graphs, statistics, etc. and a typed proposal for the bonus system. She made me earn it.

The whole thing made all of us quite responsible for our own actions, starting at an early age.

It sounds harsh but makes sense.

I had something just like this! Except it was all or nothing. Straight 4.0 for $50-100 each quarter, depending on what grade you're in from 6th through 11th grade. We got a break with only having to get a 3.5 for senior year of high school. If you didn't get all A's, except for senior year, then nothing but a "better luck next time" and maybe a consolation trip to Baskin Robbins.

 

[BabiGayPimp]

I think there's a bit of a cultural disconnect here. Some families are simply more cohesive than others. When I lived in the southern U.S., it was not uncommmon for parents, grown children, grandparents, and grandchildren to all live together under one roof, and not because of poverty--but because "Big Mama's" house is where unmarried male family members belonged! You were needed to help take care of your sister's children.

Job or no job. School or no school. Degree or no degree. Family ties are ties that bind.

When you hit 25, you might think about leaving, but only with the blessing of your elders and your pastor, or marriage--whichever came first.

Living in downtown Toronto, I still find it strange to see so many young people living alone in little shoebox condos and apartments.

Back in Alabama, "Big Mama Scott" would have thrown a fit.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Just curious as to what any of my fellow Jubbetomanes might think about this trend.

In the sixties, you were considered an adult after you had finished secondary school, since most people started working after that and we able to support themselves.

Nowadays, just about everybody has a go at ever more expensive forms tertiary education which you generally can't pay for on your own and it's simply cheaper to stay in mum and dad's house while you do that, because their house is paid for already, and rented rooms tend to be so expensive these days that they cost more than the tuition fee (Dutch situation).

Not only have housing prices gone soaring in this country, rooms for rent have been turned into appartments because those make more profit. Social housing has been privatized.
Finding a decent place to live is so much trouble that it is generally not attempted anymore before the tertiary education is done.

I do think growing up with far more luxuries than earlier generations had, makes it more unattractive to leave young.