age range for dating

[michaelarchangel]

When people connect they connect on many different levels. As long as they 're of legal age then its their choice.
The older/younger combination seems to be a mix of two people who want to explore and learn from each other. As stated above, a 40 year old and a 20 year old come from different experiences in time. If these experiences are shared and treasured then its all good. Some however, take solace in the comfort of knowing someone from the same generation/timeframe as themselves. They think its comforting when they can make some vague reference to a tv show that they use to watch as kids.
So using age as a tool is kinda useless.
1. Does your dick get hard
2. Do you connect mentally on some level

 

[Lube]

LOL, good points, michaelarchangel!

Also some things to consider:

1. American culture puts way too much emphasis on youth. Other cultures revere older men and their knowledge and experience.

2. In straight relationships, it's easy to fall back on the human sexual dimorphism: men are naturally larger, heavier, and more powerful than women. Of course, each relationship doesn't necessarily end up that way (my mother was taller than my father for example, and sometimes even small women are domineering over their husbands), but it's definitely a trend. So there's a natural physical power exchange. There is no such natural dimorphism among gay couples, so sometimes age or body size or personality becomes our dimorphism. Think about that.

 

[youngnihilist]

Maybe American culture puts emphasis on youth, but the gay culture not so much. Everyone claims it does, but if we were all so youth oriented, then why do so many young guys like old guys?

As I've said straight older men don't usually get with young girls unless they are paying. It's not the case for gays.

So no old gay men has a right to complain!

 

[torand]

I am pretty young at 23, but I don't discriminate on age personally. I would be a hypocrite if I did, as my boyfriend of 4 years (Who is 40) and I just broke up. I do discriminate on what I find attractive though, and typically that does not include younger guys. I think the youngest guy that I find attractive currently is 21, and there is only one guy I know that age that I think is cute. Personally, I don't really dig androgyny, and guys under a certain age typically exhibit a certain amount of it, at least in my eyes.

There is something to be said about experience though, and anyone who is going to date someone under a certain age has to understand that they aren't going to know a lot of things about relationships, or even about themselves yet.

To each their own I suppose, but I think that everyone should do whatever makes them happy, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else .

 

[youngnihilist]

Marley, I'm not saying you're wrong but this is a complicated issue.

OLD gay guys obsess over youth. They are the ones who like youth youth youth. I get that. I agree.

Young gay guys are about 50/50. Some are exclusively fixated on youth too. But most (hell, look at the responses in this forum) are pretty open on age. Most will go for a guy at least in his 30s. And many more will go for 40s, 50s, 80s.

It seems like more guys in their 50s want 18-25 than guys in their 20s do!

So yes, old gay cultlure is youth obsessed. Young gay culture is openminded.