Am I a bad guy? Sex on the 2nd Date! This happened Yesterday.....

[jasonjr]

I have been chatting with a great guy through skype for about 1 week. He is about 5'8, 150 lbs, great body, and GOOOOD looking. He is white, military, college, has BLUE eyes, Brown hair, and preppy frat boy type. I am black, 6'2, 200lbs, and a lean smart muscle guy.

Before video chatting, we emailed each other several times. After the first skype session, I quickly realized that this guy was amazing and we both were excited about meeting each other after the Christmas Break. We texted every minute of every day and asked each other every question in the book. He was impressed that I wasn't like most guys that just wanted to get in his pants.

On Monday Night, I met him and he was even more impressive than chatting online. He is probably one of the hottest guys i have EVER seen. and 100% masculine.

I was nervous meeting him because I never meet guys. He came to the door and wow. I hugged him and then took him out for dinner. We held hands in the car and I instantly had butterflies. After dinner, we went back to his place and watched a movie. 5 minutes into the movie, we were all over each other and kissed for the first time. We made out for about 3-4 hours straight. The Chemistry was definitely there. He left a huge hickey on my chest and i did the same for him.

He was impressed with my body and could not believe how great i looked. He asked to see my cock, but I told him not on the first date.

I left about midnight and we made plans to spend the day together the next day. The next day, he came over and we ate lunch in public and discussed several deep topics, including religion. We then went to the mall to purchased him a necklace that he had been wanting. On the way out of the mall, we stopped in the restroom for a bathroom break. As we were leaving, he leaned over and kissed me which felt really great.

We then went back to my place and it was ON. We could not keep our hands off of each other. We made out for an hour and then he asked if he could touch my cock. I approved and then he proceeded to suck it, which felt really good. One thing led to another and we ended up in my bedroom jacking off.

Afterwards, we ended up on the couch sleeping in each other's arms, cuddling and kissing. He said that he had to leave about 6pm, for work and then hang with friends. Around 5:30, we ended up back in my bedroom making out. One thing led to another and he said that he wanted to feel my cock in his tight ass. I resisted some, but it didn't last long. I slowly slid my 8" thick cock in his tight small ass. It was evident that he hasn't had sex often. His azz was soooo tight. We had sex, jacked off, and then showered together.

We then laid on the couch and made out for about 15 minutes and he then left.

Immediately after, I felt really really bad. I am really into this guy and sex was the last thing on my mind. But, we were so in to each other. I feel like trash and I hardly ever hookup with anyone.

Before we had sex, we made plans to spend New Years together. Today, we have not texted much. I still feel really bad for not resisting him. I txtd him a few times but our conversations have been short.

Do you think it's bad to have sex on the second date? Am I a bad guy for giving in? Should I continue to txt him or should I giving him time to thing it over.

He said that he is fine when I asked after we had sex. I kept asking and eventually annoyed him by asking the same question "are you sure you are ok."

I am typically not into dating guys, but I would definitely consider this guy.

What do you think??

 

[palemale]

What are you, a lesbian?!?! Don't over think sex, or waste time talking about it. Just do it!

You didn't do anything bad (except if he was horny, you should have had full on sex the first date). It sounds like you guys were really into each other. So, I say, do what feels good. Particularly these days, with on-line dating, skyping, emailing, etc., people know more about each other before they ever meet than people in the past knew about each other after dating for a year. Isn't the reason one waits to have sex, instead of on the first date, so that you know the person before you fuck?

 

[palemale]

5 minutes into the movie, we were all over each other and kissed for the first time. We made out for about 3-4 hours straight. The Chemistry was definitely there.

I am black, 6'2, 200lbs, and a lean smart muscle guy.

By the way, a first date with me wouldn't have ended at kissing.

 

[Autolycus]

This thread has been relocated as it is rather more a matter for discussion than merely a story.

To answer your question: You need to go with the flow - you both seemed happy with the situation that developed between you. However, he seemed to be a little cool toward you after the 'event' - maybe he was only after the sex and not a longer relationship. Do not let this get you down, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Just take care and try to be selective having learned something from this encounter.

 

[KaraBulut]

Sex too early in a relationship isn't usually the problem. It's usually clingy behavior or too-fast emotional attachments that scares guys.

The best advice for you is to enjoy it for what it was- a hot encounter with someone you like. Let the guy know that it wasn't just a one-night stand and that you would like to spend more time with him in the future getting to know each other.

But don't push and don't try to rush things. If it is meant to be, it will be.

 

[genthree]

I think you should just have sex with yourself in front of a mirror.

 

[Rolyo85]

I'm very much into the guy I'm with right now. We had full on sex for half the night after our first date. Have been "hanging out" for more than a month and it's amazing on every level.

Btw, I LOVE the term "masculine". I get a hearty laugh out of it EVERY time...

 

[dairyking469]

Lucky!!!!!!!!!!

 

[M4P]

You're not bad at all - in fact I'm sure you were quite good

Had you ended the third date and not been naked with each other on the kitchen floor I would have been concerned

 

[Seasoned]

Relationship building doesn't have formula-like directions. And being gay doest enroll you in some church-like organization, where the rules are laid out. Most people get through life by following, more or less, their own instincts and their own mores. What has worked for me might not work for you. Doing what you want to do and not doing what you don't want to do will help ensure you'll become close with like-minded people.

This guy sounds great. Good luck.

 

[jasonjr]

Thanks for the replies. I really appreciate the advice.

We haven't texted much today. He said that he was having a rough day. Not sure why though. Kind of sucks not getting txt messages from him. I will say that it's weird falling for a guy for the first time.

 

[jasonjr]

This thread has been relocated as it is rather more a matter for discussion than merely a story.

To answer your question: You need to go with the flow - you both seemed happy with the situation that developed between you. However, he seemed to be a little cool toward you after the 'event' - maybe he was only after the sex and not a longer relationship. Do not let this get you down, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Just take care and try to be selective having learned something from this encounter.

Thanks for the advice. Yeah, i'll keep that in mind. I'll keep you all updated on if it works out or not. I'm gonna go with the flow and not act clingy.

 

[jasonjr]

Ok, so he finally came out and told me this

"I regret Tuesday. It's my fault. I just need some time apart because I'm not sure what I really want. I'm not trying to be an ass.

It shouldn't have happened. It won't happen again. My fault"

Wow guys, this really hurts and is a stab in the heart. I don't know what to do or say. I probably fucked up the greatest thing that has happened to me in my life.

I should have given more resistance and should've let it happened.

I'm torn apart right now and it HURTS BAD. Why can't we go back and change mistakes that we make. This one may have cost me what could have been my world.

 

[Sigma-taylor-E]

Ok, so he finally came out and told me this

"I regret Tuesday. It's my fault. I just need some time apart because I'm not sure what I really want. I'm not trying to be an ass.

It shouldn't have happened. It won't happen again. My fault"

Wow guys, this really hurts and is a stab in the heart. I don't know what to do or say. I probably fucked up the greatest thing that has happened to me in my life.

I should have given more resistance and should've let it happened.

I'm torn apart right now and it HURTS BAD. Why can't we go back and change mistakes that we make. This one may have cost me what could have been my world.

Dude calm the fuck down and stop over thinking things. If he goes, then so be it. Trek forward and learn from what you perceive to be a mistake, instead of getting consumed by it.

 

[KaraBulut]

Ok, so he finally came out and told me this
.... I don't know what to do or say. I probably fucked up the greatest thing that has happened to me in my life.

I should have given more resistance and should've let it happened.

Honestly, if this is the greatest thing in your life, you'll have lived a pretty pitiful life in the end.

Probaby the best response and the most honest response would be something like, "Well, I regret that we didn't wait because I didn't want it to seem like I was interested in you only as a one-night stand. But it's difficult for me to say I regret having sex with you because I enjoyed it and I thought you did, too".

 

[MascutarHero]

If there is really a connection there I don't think the sex would ruin it exactly, if you guys really feel each other maybe this is the 1st test you guys have to take to see if you're really meant to try this together, giving up so easy just shows how it wouldn't even work imo. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and had sex the 1st night, we had sex for days but then we kind of wished we waited because of the rush we had, but since we worked it out, we don't regret it. Just remember everything happens for a reason, so don't regret any of it. Hope it works out man and please keep us updated

 

[Rolyo85]

Um, not sure which one HE considers to have been the mistake. I mean, does he think the sex was not supposed to happen so early (which - WEIRD!), or the "doing it with a guy"? Cause if the latter, you need to run away, and with LEAPS. "Confused" and self loathing guys are not sexy, regardless of how "chill" or "masc" or "frat looking" they are...

Sorry, I am not seeing how you guys made a mistake by fooling around. Seriously, grow up. Sex doesn't determine your commitment or lack of such in a relationship. Your commitment or lack of suck determines them.

So make sure you know WHAT he thinks you guys did wrong, and stop feeling ashamed of something that only 16 year old girls and religious freaks consider a problem, ok?

 

[boredass123]

Sorry let me tell you the cold harsh truth:

You have been objectified. Or more exactly, you have allowed yourself to be objectified.

He probably thinks of you as a fuckbuddy now, and I'm afraid you're not gonna have much chance of changing the fuckbuddy dynamic into a romantic dynamic.

Enjoy the sex while you can, but if you don't want to be disappointed, I suggest you stop hanging out with him. I see heartbreak looming.

 

[rareboy]

Jesus.

It was just sex.

Usually I had sex on the first date. And I'm alive to tell the tale and with one of those dates for the last 30 years.

I'd drift this trick though.

Too much over-thinking.

 

[DigitalFudge]

I'm loling @ the responses in this thread.

People are rough. I am all about waiting to have sex, waiting more than you could probably imagine. That said, coming from me, it is clear you both wanted it.

Call it a day. It happened, you both can use this regret as a catalyst to re-connect with each other.

Think about it, you are both in the same boat, why not take the opportunity to be there for one another?

Perspective.


......This is what you get for having sex