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Am I a horrible person for not being attracted to much older men?

Guilt trips aren't cute no matter what the age of the person throwing them.
 
I have given up my membership of my local gym, and invested in a home gym for I became tired of having to politely decline "demands" from persistent teens to bed them.....the responses are often angry, and threatening for their self esteem has been compromised.....

I am attracted to much younger men, preferring to remain monogamous with my partner.

I never feel guilty rejecting the sexual advances of younger men for when younger I, also was rejected by older men enabling me to grow a much thicker skin.

Isn't life a big learning lesson...:D
 
Speaking as a guy in his 40's, I say you can easily avoid the guilt by giving us our way. lol. That would be a perfect world, but I know that is not the case. Everyone has the right to choose their partners without any feelings of guilt.
 
You're not horrid or shallow you just have preferences. I wont go out with anyone older than 32, and I'm 26. I wouldn't lose sleep over it.
 
Angel2 said:
I'm 24 and I do seem to get hit on by older guys. By that, I mean guys in their 40s and 50s (aka guys that are old enough to be my father)

I do respectfully turn them away, but it's like every time I do, I'm given a huge amount of grief over it. Regardless of how nicely I decline their attempts to court me, they get either angry or overly sad.

I do understand that not many people can take rejection all too well (and I'm one of them) but is it right that I'm made out to be this horrid, shallow person when I reject these guys?

I know I should have thicker skin, but I can't help but feel a little bad anytime this happens.
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I totally get it. I liked guys my own age when I was your age...and I like guys my own age now that I could be your father. There is no reason to feel bad and definitely no reason to apologize to anyone...you are not responsible for their feelings. I don't think there is anything shallow or horrible about it.
 
NO quite frankly you have the right to be with whomever you want. It's important however to be respectful.
 
YOU like who U like.... period. Thanks, but no thanks, move one.

On the other hand, there are guys like me. Call me a slut ;), but I've banged, dated and slept my way to the top and then some more with guys of all ages (18 to 70), and as well as been in a relationship with a 58 year old guy. I'm in my late 30's, do the math. If I'm attracted to a man, then age and looks DOES NOT matter.
 
Rolyo85 said:
Do you ask for ID? What if they're a day away from their 32nd?
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Why yes I do actually. I ID them, and just for good measure I usually request a copy of their birth certificate and if theyre a day away from 32.......well I just cant, golly gee I just don't have it in me. :rolleyes:
 
^ Yes, I get offered money or being "spoiled" several times a year by older men. I tell them that I can afford to spoil myself. I make more than most of them do, anyway.

On the flip side, younger guys can be just as obnoxious when they send you naked photos of their self, assuming you automatically want to have sex with them. Whether its through their body or wallet, men, in general, suck at charming a guy.
 
There is nothing horrible to enjoying life and enjoying what attracts you. When I was coming out 8 years ago. I found myself attracted to younger guys. I play sports, bike, crew, and most thought I was far younger than my age. I was also somewhat "innocent" sexually and found guys my age often jaded on life, sex, partners, etc. I was loving my life for the first time!

My husband is 32 and I am 56. He has always liked older guys; wouldn't think of going with a twink. We laugh because when we go out, I'm talking to the younger guys I play sports with while he is entertaining the gentlemen! Lol! But do not feel guilty about not going home with older guys; just as some are attracted to black, white, Asian, or purple, the same holds true in many other ways. The important point of all this is you....do what makes you happy and fulfills you. It took me a long time in life to come to that reality; I hope your journey is much shorter, easier, and quick!
 
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