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Am I an Asshole?

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OK, so been knowin the vgl latino guy for a coupla years off and on....handsome, nice bod (naturally, not a gym rat) great dick and a sincere, nice guy....married, kids...blue collar...we used to fuck around like 2-3 times a month, and I was along his commute hear in the Bay Area.....mostly me suckin and rimmin him and he fucked me and even fucked me raw a coupla times...at my request.....lost track, but met up again after the past year....sticks his ass out and I go down on him front n back, we go to bed, he lifts his legs, I mount up ....WOOF!!!!....he asked if I was clean, etc..(I AM) and I fucked n bred his ass...while jerkin him off to an amazing MAN NUTT....then he's like crying....it's his first time...ever...to get fucked and he's worried NOW about disease, and stuff....I had no idea....I feel bad, and prolly wouldn't even have fucked him, let alone cum in him...now I feel bad for him. Am I bad?
 
Erm maybe he should of communicated this to you before hand. As long as you stopped when he said stop.....
 
Yes you are bad. Always use protection, unless you are in a committed relationship and you both agree not too. The poor guy is now scared to death.

You owe it to him to show your recent test showing your negative. You do have one don't you?

And to help him get tested quickly and quietly to put him at ease if he gets a negative result.

He is probably terrified he will give his wife some disease.

Please help him.
 
Not necessarily. he consented and asked for it, didn't he? It's hard to make judgments when so little details are provided. but with those details you have provided, that's the conclusion.

He's a grown man, he needs to take responsibility for his actions for both bareback bottoming and being married to a woman at the same time, it is not your role to be his caretaker

perhaps this incident will make him rethink his actions
 
You are NOT an asshole. Two consenting adults. He is married but thats another discussion... Kevin23 said it best. Show him your recent test. If need be, go get a more recent test, and maybe take him with you so he can get tested as well. Then stop having sexual relations with him...After all, he is married....
 
I personally feel that remaining disease-free is each person's own responsibility to himself. Clean or not, he's knowingly taking a risk. They start teaching us this shit in 5th grade now. NOBODY can pretend like they don't know exactly what the risks are when going into the situation.

Aside from that, he's not only exposing himself to risk. You know he's more than likely not using protection with his wife back home. If anything, HE'S the asshole. His poor wife doesn't have the opportunity to protect herself because she's probably operating under the assumption that he's monogamous.
 
Yes, you are. And the two consenting adults thing is an embarassment. It's a cop out, consent is not the end of your own moral responsibility. You need to use a condom, support him if he wants it from you, prove to him with results and a doctor's letter that you have no disease. This is a HUGE fear for a lot of guys, especially those who have partners that, despite his sex on the side, he might still love and want to protect.

And by the way, for the other assholes who think two consenting adults is the height of morality, there's more than two involved in this, one of whom, the guy's wife, didn't consent. Try to think of her and what she might go through. Asshole, assholes.
 
I'd say nope.. you are not bad.. it's is idea.. and if he wants you to use protection, well he should say so..
sounds as if he was just horned up.. he wanted to be fucked...
you could have offered.. but sounds as if he was ready for anything..
 
No, you are not an asshole. You both consented to having unprotected sex.

What you both can do to put him as ease, after the fact, is to get tested now and again in three months. Then share the results with one another.
 
get tested and show him the results...u say ur clean but how do YOU know? Make sure you really are, for BOTH your sakes
 
I'm gonna sidestep assigning such a name to what you did. What I think the lesson learnt here is, communication BEFORE having sex; and, especially, when you're not wearing protection!

So he's terrified of (1) attaining an STD or HIV; and (2) passing it on to his wife; (3) thus revealing his extra-marital affair.

Your friend is, obviously, not absolved from all this. However, he's new to this. You are to 'hold his hand' metaphorically and walk him through this.

How to do so, has been mentioned by other posters here.

(1) Share your status with him in paper form; (2) take him - with you - to a free clinic to get tested, together; (3) learn from this moment how the risk, the stress and anxiety from having unprotected sex and wear rubbers hereafter.

In my opinion, this is why barebacking should be exclusive to closed monogamous couples; because all of these concerns and issues are real. And can create enormous amount of stress that was born out of one moment in time, where one lets passion affect the health of their lives forever.

Hope the best for both of you. And LEARN from this. And remember that actions have reactions, as well as consequences!
 
he lifted his legs, he knows about gay sex cus you say he has fucked you many times. it was as much of his responsibility as yours.
 
^ This.

What a complete asswipe she has for a husband.

I hope she finds out he is cheating on her, but not by getting an STD or Aids through him.
 
you sir are the BIGGEST Asshole. Why the fuck would you put his health at risk? huh. Not only that but the guy is married with kids. Try to find some other gay guy to mess with, not married men because they are taken. From the sound of things, you are one desperate gay guy. You are One Selfish Bastard.
 
stevexxx said:
you sir are the BIGGEST Asshole. Why the fuck would you put his health at risk? huh. Not only that but the guy is married with kids. Try to find some other gay guy to mess with, not married men because they are taken. From the sound of things, you are one desperate gay guy. You are One Selfish Bastard.
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So he is an asshole and Mr. Married man who is fucking around on his wife is not at fault??? Of course blame it on the gay man because we all know that it is only the gay man who is really horny and will fuck anything that moves. The things that sickens me the most is, the married guy is probably the kind of guy who considers that he is not cheating on his wife because it is with a man. I have to wonder if your opinion would be the same if it was a hetero female who was posting this. It takes two to Tango!!

To the original poster no sir I do not think you are an asshole, I think it is the married guy who is a complete douche bag!!! :wave:
 
Elwood said:
So he is an asshole and Mr. Married man who is fucking around on his wife is not at fault??? Of course blame it on the gay man because we all know that it is only the gay man who is really horny and will fuck anything that moves. The things that sickens me the most is, the married guy is probably the kind of guy who considers that he is not cheating on his wife because it is with a man. I have to wonder if your opinion would be the same if it was a hetero female who was posting this. It takes two to Tango!!

To the original poster no sir I do not think you are an asshole, I think it is the married guy who is a complete douche bag!!! :wave:
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i didnt say the married guy wasn't an asshole. But the "gay" guy should have some restrain also. both at fault of course. i just think it is common sense to not fool around with a married man because i would think he would have more self respect. he is no better than a home wrecker nor prostitute
 
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