Am I being sizeist?

[jaysizzles]

The deal here is, though, that I've been called... let's say not so nice things by the people whom I have rejected for being too small. They did not see it as simple. That's the reason I felt desire to create this thread and talk about it. Even the word sizeist fell once, which explains the use of the word in the title.

Perhaps you don't tell them the real reason you are rejecting them. You wouldn't be called out for being a "sizeist" if you rejected them without telling them they are too short for you. Something more kind/less insulting and shallow...along the lines of "hey, you're a nice guy but I don't think we'll click." Or, are you not concerned that you may be hurting their feelings?

 

[coltonhaynes]

Perhaps you don't tell them the real reason you are rejecting them. You wouldn't be called out for being a "sizeist" if you rejected them without telling them they are too short for you. Something more kind/less insulting and shallow...along the lines of "hey, you're a nice guy but I don't think we'll click." Or, are you not concerned that you may be hurting their feelings?

It's not like I go and say: "You're a dwarf, bye". But when I say I want to stop talking to them right after having that question answered, they conclude correctly.

 

[LoneWolf94]

If that's an issue, then you're not alone. lol I'm 6'0", and I'm often discouraged at how short all the guys are where I live. My ideal guy is between 5'10" and 6'3", though I can't see myself considering anyone shorter than 5'8". I just can't be that much taller than whomever I'm dating. Too bad the average height of guys near me is around 5'6"

 

[tobymerwin]

I'm 5' 8" and it wouldn't bother me at all if someone told me they weren't into short guys. It's their loss.

 

[Ninjato]

If the shorter guys that you met were taller, would things have turned out differently? You may have a preference for taller guys but if you dismiss all guys that are shorter than you then you may be missing out.

I'm 6'3 and I like guys around my height but I've hit on a guy that was 5'2" before. I've done filters on apps and websites for guys that are 6'0 or taller though. It's nice to be close to the same level. From my experience, it's mostly bottoms that want someone taller than them. I rarely hear about tops wanting guys shorter than them but LA is mostly bottoms which works for me . One of my friends felt a little strange that his boyfriend was one inch taller than him because he was the top lol. It didn't stop them from being together and he didn't mention it much because most people wouldn't care but I could tell it was on the back of his mind. I know someone mentioned it on these forums before. He was annoyed that he was the bottom and his boyfriend was a few inches shorter than me. Some people care and some don't.

I say that I'm a versatile top but when I imagine bottoming, it's usually to a guy that's about my height or taller. I think it's the whole being dominated mentality and it's hard to imagine that with a guy that's smaller than me. On OKC, the top/bottom question is the first one I look for in someone's profile. If they are a bottom / bottom vers / vers, I continue checking them out. If they are a vers top then they have to have a really nice profile and be around my height.

 

[TX-Beau]

So long as you treat everyone with compassion and consideration you'll be fine.

 

[Zeno Lorea]

My question to you guys is: Do you think I'm discriminating these people based on their size?

Yes. But we all discriminate when we seek men who are oour type, don't we? I love guys who are short (1m70, or even 1m65, that's 5'7" and 5'5") and a bit stocky. So, you keep choosing the big boys, I'll take the cubs, and everybody gets lucky!

 

[coltonhaynes]

I'm 5' 8" and it wouldn't bother me at all if someone told me they weren't into short guys. It's their loss.

You have nothing to fear, I only reject them starting with 5'6 or smaller

 

[King Gumby VIII]

People typically lose about 1 cm (almost one-half inch) every 10 years after age 40. Height loss is even more rapid after age 70

What is going to happen when you get older?

 

[mcbrion]

When I was younger, I found all types of guys attractive: short, tall, bearded, non-bearded, smooth skinned. The only thing I don't recall being attracted to was hairy guys, which wasn't unusual, as, in Black culture, hairiness is not the norm.
Now that I'm older, I find I like guys shorter than me (i'm around 6', but find guys 3-5" shorter than me very appealing (brings out the protective side of my nature)), hairy, curvy or slim. That's not much different than when I was younger, except that now I find hairy guys really, really a turn on. My point is, you're what, 24? You're still discovering what you like. For now, you might find taller guys attractive, but over time, that might change.
You're talking about what gives you an erotic charge. That's not discrimination. That's simply what makes you hot. But what's inside - if you grow wiser as you get older - starts to count more for some of us. For some, they just look at the outside and that's all that matters to them. Enjoy what you like. It's best to be honest about what you like than lead someone on and eventually they find out that you could never be completely into them because of some physical trait that is a dealbreaker for you.

 

[coltonhaynes]

My point is, you're what, 24?

Haha, how did you guess correctly? I guess I have implied it in this thread, though.